Teenagers and their parents

The tendency to deviant behavior is the result of a "failure" in the process of the formation of a teenager's personality and solution to his age tasks. The following types of deviant behavior are distinguished. Deviant behavior is a separate action or system of personality's actions violating social-psychological, moral or cultural norms that have developed in a given society, but not illegal behavior. This includes truancy, leaving home, vagrancy, aggressive behavior, self-aggression, suicide, sexual deviations, early alcoholization, etc...

1. The teenager has a conflict between the existing dependence on the family and the desire for autonomy. His expectations of his parents are contradictory. On the one hand, he resists previous manifestations of care and affection, but on the other hand, he shows a desire to be spoiled. His behavior is also contradictory. Then he is rude, stubborn and disobedient, then requires attention, fondles with his mother, childishly capricious, crying; then he watches children's cartoons, then expresses deep, serious judgments on various issues...

Younger teenagers find it difficult to structure their own time in general and free time in particular. On the other hand, teenagers are happy to participate in the activities of various interest groups. These can be sports sections, clubs, studios. It is important to help them to orientate themselves and find a suitable organization. Older teenagers prefer to organize their own leisure time. However, if they like any activity, they are happy to dedicate all their free time to it, so it often happens if it is connected with creative and "adult" work...

1. Setting life goals and defining ways to achieve them The goal of life should not be the only one, because it immediately blocks the satisfaction of all other needs and leads to either deformation of the personality or rejection of the chosen goal, to the loss of time and opportunities. In addition, the only goal acquires the character of supersignificant, and in case of failure a person experiences a collapse of the whole life. As a rule, life goals affect at least five areas of human activity...

1) Studying me and my place in the world, i.e. myself as a person: who am I, what am I like, what are my characteristics, in what world do I live, what is my place in this world? 2. Working out a positive attitude to myself, to my personal qualities, i.e. accepting them as valuable, necessary qualities. The ability to objectively assess when these qualities can be effective and in what cases they can interfere. 3. Formation of the ability to consciously use one's qualities and experience or consciously refrain from displaying certain qualities, habits, and skills...