About the Kids

Instead of calmly and moderately irritated to think: "Again, this idiot is playing with a friend until he loses the sense of time," we immediately imagine his distorted body on the table in the projection room. That's the way it works, there's nothing we can do about it. Maybe if we lived for 25 years without social upheaval, the ability to reason sensibly would take root in our minds, but what we have, that's what we live for. So, your child did not appear on the doorstep of his or her home on the accepted ten p...

1. Do not intimidate the child Don't tell him scary stories about the "evil woman" or about how "one boy got lost in the woods". Fear will make the child worry, limit themselves severely and try to keep things under control. Will he or she give him or her a concrete understanding of how to prevent danger or act in a critical situation? Of course not. 2. Tell the child that the world is different It has good and evil in it. It happens that under the guise of one often hides another. A kind uncle offering candy may appear to be a bandit...

1. Remind me to clean up after myself Parents complain. "The child does not remember where he left it. Attention is short. I was doing my homework in the kitchen and drinking tea, something distracted me - I ran away, my textbooks were lying on the table. I was in a hurry to undress, did not hang my jacket. I rummaged in my backpack, my things fell out in the hallway. Just sowing chaos around him! What to do? If a child has scattered things in a common area, you can safely bring him to this place and ask him to clean it up...

1. Use targeted attention It is proven that the amount of time spent with the child is not as important as the quality of the child. Of course, to certain limits: if you see a child less than five times a week and less than one or two hours each time, you can become a kind of guest parent. Sometimes it's not bad, but we're talking about the parents who live with their children. Mothers with many children, who have more than five or six children, know that even ten minutes of friendly, loving attention per day can be enough for a teenager to stay in contact with his or her parent...

1. Scolding and telling off a teenager is the most pointless thing If you give your child another lecture or yell at him/her, you will get no result but a negative one. He or she will be even more distant from you. Whenever you are tempted to do so, imagine yourself in his place. What will you do if someone yells at you? First you feel offended, aggressive, wanting to cry or answer, and finally you stop communicating with this person. So why do you think your scream should have a therapeutic effect on your child? Sooner or later the child stops hearing you and closes...