About the Kids

Instead of calmly and moderately irritated to think: "Again, this idiot is playing with a friend until he loses the sense of time," we immediately imagine his distorted body on the table in the projection room. That's the way it works, there's nothing we can do about it. Maybe if we lived for 25 years without social upheaval, the ability to reason sensibly would take root in our minds, but what we have, that's what we live for. So, your child did not appear on the doorstep of his or her home on the accepted ten p...

1. Do not intimidate the child Don't tell him scary stories about the "evil woman" or about how "one boy got lost in the woods". Fear will make the child worry, limit themselves severely and try to keep things under control. Will he or she give him or her a concrete understanding of how to prevent danger or act in a critical situation? Of course not. 2. Tell the child that the world is different It has good and evil in it. It happens that under the guise of one often hides another. A kind uncle offering candy may appear to be a bandit...

1. Remind me to clean up after myself Parents complain. "The child does not remember where he left it. Attention is short. I was doing my homework in the kitchen and drinking tea, something distracted me - I ran away, my textbooks were lying on the table. I was in a hurry to undress, did not hang my jacket. I rummaged in my backpack, my things fell out in the hallway. Just sowing chaos around him! What to do? If a child has scattered things in a common area, you can safely bring him to this place and ask him to clean it up...

1. Use targeted attention It is proven that the amount of time spent with the child is not as important as the quality of the child. Of course, to certain limits: if you see a child less than five times a week and less than one or two hours each time, you can become a kind of guest parent. Sometimes it's not bad, but we're talking about the parents who live with their children. Mothers with many children, who have more than five or six children, know that even ten minutes of friendly, loving attention per day can be enough for a teenager to stay in contact with his or her parent...

1. Scolding and telling off a teenager is the most pointless thing If you give your child another lecture or yell at him/her, you will get no result but a negative one. He or she will be even more distant from you. Whenever you are tempted to do so, imagine yourself in his place. What will you do if someone yells at you? First you feel offended, aggressive, wanting to cry or answer, and finally you stop communicating with this person. So why do you think your scream should have a therapeutic effect on your child? Sooner or later the child stops hearing you and closes...

Sooner or later, parents have to ask if they should go on vacation with their child. You can't relax with small children, but it's scary to leave them alone. And teenagers, it seems, will be simply more interesting in the company of peers. 1. To get to know the child anew Kindergarten, school, mugs, work, home affairs - parents are overwhelmed with a bunch of daily routine, which often leaves them with neither time nor energy to communicate with their children. A short weekend is only enough to recover from the work week...

Everybody knows that to make it easy for a child to learn something, he needs to be interested. If it is a foreign language, the sooner the better. But mathematics is not an exception. Children are special creatures to carry them away, it is not necessary to carry the skills of adult life into their world. Don't think that in order to show the kids interesting mathematics, we have to sit them down at the table, stick notebooks, cards, give them tasks and then check if they have done everything they were told to do...

1. Divorce always has a negative effect on the child Is it hard to believe it's not true? According to the logic of most people, after a divorce, children in a single-parent family are going through a serious crisis. So did Mavis Hatherington, who began to study divorce and its impact on children in the 70s of last century. It was only thirty years later that she realized that this was not the case. All the negative effects are a consequence of the parents' behavior after the breakup. The very fact of divorce is not so traumatic...

An hour of silent reading It's time to read to yourself. Nothing should disturb the silence during this hour. The teacher should not check how the students work, or listen to them read aloud, or walk the class on their own business. I must say, children are more willing to do what is required of them when adults consider this activity to be extremely important and do it with their children. And it is better if during the hour of reading the teacher opens the book himself and sits down at the table...

The reader reads to himself. And he needs time to read. If the adult wants the child to become a reader, he or she needs to be given the opportunity to read on his or her own. A few years ago, writer John Werner named the basic rules of time for reading. 1. The child has the right to decide which book he or she chooses and how fast the book will be read, and the book should correspond to the level of the student. No teacher can assess in advance which book exactly meets the intellectual and emotional needs of a particular student...

Picnic You don't need any reason to eat outdoors, you just need to spread a blanket - an island of your presence - and you can do anything around it: play badminton or volleyball, throw a Frisbee, or just lie on the grass and read a book aloud. For a family picnic it is better not to have a too comfortable park, where there are quiet glades, where there are no stalls with hot dogs, which could compete with the lovely sandwiches and pies prepared by you. Cognitive lectures There are many open lectures: there are lectures in the museum, the Museum of Modern Art and even in the zoo...

Sleepover camping If family history seems to lack moments that can be remembered long and with laughter, go on a hike. Upon their return, the children will tell their grandmother and classmates how they almost met a bear when they went to get firewood and then cooked soup in a tin can because they forgot the pot. You don't have to go far from Moscow for a two-day trip, but a birch grove in a nearby park isn't enough - the trip should be real. Therefore, choose a forest near Moscow, which can be...