Psychology in life

Briefly about the internal beliefs that, if you have and realize it, you can feel that you have done something worthy in this area of ​​life. The rules of a happy family. Spouses. 1) No matter what happens, we can always discuss it and find a solution. 2) Whatever happens outside, we will never stand against each other, but always back to back, or hugging each other. 3) We can be silent with each other or talk - we feel good in both cases. 4) We do not shoulder each other the problems that only one of us is predetermined to solve...

In life, we often go to places that are still unknown to us. And this process of getting out of the habitual into unusual new states is accompanied by discomfort, anyway. What are these new conditions? For example, one of your tasks is to earn a lot. If you have never had enough money, then you don’t know how it is to be rich. And you think it's easy to imagine being rich? Surely, when you think about it, you will not be twisted like a child. If in doubt, just try and track the sensations. Or you never spoke to a large audience - but I would like to taste the attention to the speaker...

Unconditional love is one of the philosophical concepts familiar to many, but few realize that this unconditional love, or rather an unconscious sensation of its absence, determines many patterns of our behavior, emotions, negative feelings. Those who have children can easily remember the situation, and those who have no children can remember themselves in the role of a child: Mom scolded the child for something. The child became nervous and started shouting: “Mom is bad, go away, I don’t love you!”, Or he just ran away upset to another room...

In psychotherapy of grief, the main thing is that the grief process is completed and remains in memory, no matter how strange it sounds, like a bright, albeit a sad event. Of course, an ideal option for perceiving the death of a loved one or animal would be a quiet and quick grief, based on only a violation of the habit of seeing a loved one next to you. This happens to people who, quite by no means just following fashion, realize that the soul of a person passes into the higher worlds, and there she is more than good...

Each of our actions carries a certain state for us. And therefore, this is not at all “just an action”. This is a significant part of our life, which solves some issue. 1. - What do you feel when you smoke? - Feeling calm. It's like I'm falling into my world. Exactly the one that is mine. It’s calm there. - Are you in a hurry to go out with a cigarette during the break to get into your world? - Yes, there is tension at work, and when I smoke, I calm down. - Try to describe your condition in images...

How many things have been done to become smart, beautiful, self-confident! And the work is good, and the spouse and children. However, the thought of each new project, of reaching out to people, posting a new photo on Instagram or a video on YouTube - is still terrifying. And if you ask a question, did self-esteem really increase after many actions to improve oneself, the answer will be negative. Is there really no way to cope with this excitement, with fears, is there really no way to stop being shy and, at heart, consider yourself unworthy? Of course it does...

Has it happened to you that you can’t determine if your recollection of a place, an event is true or is it an image from a dream? I have a couple of such good memories. And although I am inclined to think that it was a dream, it is unlikely that I will ever know whether this is so, so I am inclined to “plunge” into these memories, as into reality. How often people choose a “different” reality in their memories in order to get away from everyday reality! This is especially true for children. I remember...

Intentions govern our lives. And it is worth learning to use them for any convenience. I'll start from afar) When I leave the house, I always glance out of the corner of my eye for a coffee shop nearby. Success and failure of coffee I have about 50 to 50. The normal option, I think) But this year we went to a hotel in Turkey. And when I tried the local latte, and then the cappuccino, and then the Turkish ... Who programmed these coffee machines and made purchases of grain? It was a coffee god. Where God is, there I am, I thought...

Robert Thayer, a specialist in human mood, says so about his favorite subject of research: “If we understand that it is our mood that emphasizes the meaning of certain events and enhances or weakens the pleasure that we receive from them, we will realize how important it plays.” We are used to thinking that our thoughts and feelings are causing a changing mood. Thus, if a person’s task is mostly to be in a good mood, he goes to a psychologist or tries to analyze his thoughts of feelings on his own...

To be continued. The beginning in the article "Psychotherapy of grief (part 1)" 3) You can feel guilty before the dead for living, but he is not. And on this basis, it would be impossible to enjoy life anymore. It is very likely that this belief hides an even deeper belief that, in principle, one cannot rejoice, and now, a good case comes up when one can not enjoy life - a rather significant reason. In such cases, we rest against the scenario, or the totality of such beliefs, obtained somewhere...

To be continued. The beginning in the article "Desires (intentions) and their details. (part 1)" 3) The desire will prevail, which will more resemble the feeling "Lord, what an incredible thrill I will experience when I have it." And the person from the example above will be a hundred times happier when he demolishes his current personality settings than when he moves to a new house (even if he thinks that this is what he needs). I will give my example. This year I was relaxing with the children at sea...

Why, when it seems to me that everything is fine with my spouse, children, people, my eyes begin to watery. What are tears? This is purification, you tell me. And what are tears of joy? Purification of joy? All is not what it seems, remember? Tears of joy are the cleansing of sadness and disappointment, sadness and regret that such a moment cannot last forever. Tears of joy purify you just like tears of sorrow. This is water that is washed out of your body, taking with it all the destructive, aggravating your bodies...