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Many of our notions of marriage, at best, were created by society decades ago. And most often much earlier in human history. Meanwhile, society is changing very quickly, the old rules stop working, and not everyone can develop new rules independently. To...

Injuries from our personality on an equal footing with a positive experience, and not always "for the worse". And, moreover, much earlier than many of us think. There is an opinion that months, up to 18 years old, all major injuries have already affected us. So, injuries are inevitable. This is part of reality! If you are ready to live in reality, be prepared to be traumatized and traumatized periodically. If you set a goal of "not causing injury", it is like setting a goal of "not living". By the way, even the goal of "not causing injury" itself traumatizes the child...

It happens that parents get mad at their kids with flip-flops, necklaces. And every single breakdown is a small disaster in which both the child and the adult need help. Vera Vasilkova, a psychologist, tells us what we need to know to avoid breakdowns and shares exercises that will teach parents to cope with emotions. Categorically call slaps and necklaces violence and say that it is impossible to say so - means to add even more guilt and pain in a difficult situation. What can we do about it? You can do it differently! There is something important behind any parental breakdown...

There are different types of thoughts and patterns that prevent women to leave their loneliness. Let's describe some of them. Accepted: "I never meet anybody" What's following this? It's true - she doesn't meet anybody. And she does not risk anything. She prefers to admit defeat without even starting to fight, and does not want to deal with potential dangers of acquaintance. Rejection, like armor, protects her from a complete lack of self-confidence. Her self-esteem is close to zero. What kind of...

If Mother so perfect that she's even arguing like she's taught in books on pedagogy. There are many stories about how parents were successful, were wonderful people and had great authority, and their grown-up children for a long time to collect themselves on the shards or looking for a place in the world. The fantasies of a perfect life are like pictures from Instagram. When there are no quarrels, everything is good and right. Mom knows how to treat. Mom knows how to love. She has ordered in her house, but they appreciate it at work...

Have you ever met people who often delay and delay things? For some people, this behavior is occasionally activated, for others it is common, and for others, there are those for whom passive behavior becomes a lifestyle. But some people find it so difficult to behave otherwise that it is almost impossible. It is in this case that we are talking about passive-aggressive personality disorder. In any tense situation, they react by going into a passive state. For them, it is an automatic reaction, not a consciously chosen one of many others...

Why do some people live together for decades and even retire looking at each other as lovers of calves, while others unleash hostilities in a year's time? Relationships break down in a variety of ways, but those who have successfully gone through all the crises have a lot in common. The true reasons Why are you with this man? Wrong answers: "Because all my friends are already married," "Because I'm so damn lonely, normal men are transferred, and this guy's in love with me," "Because everyone wanted...

Continued from part 1: https://zen.yandex.ru/media/id/5d66b592a06eaf00add0867a/computer-addiction-part-1-5d95d31e04af1f00aff94268 Computer addiction, like any other addiction, begins when a person feels that the world is hostile to them. Children have not yet formed mature, adult protective mechanisms, and the best thing is to work alone, primitive and effective - avoidance. In this case, avoiding where everything is clear, pleasant, predictable, where you can experience bright, positive emotions - on the computer...

A victim of computer addiction can be a person of any age, social status. But children will always remain the most vulnerable. Today's children interact with computers from an early age, even "musical" toys for babies resemble computers. Smart machines now accompany them always - because even to calm the child will help the computer - so easy to turn on the cartoon, or a simple game - and the child hangs down. The child sees how to sit at the computer, mom, and dad, or even argue about who will take it...

Some people are poisonous in communication. If there are feelings of guilt, shame, fear, emotional pain, - the person with whom these feelings appeared is toxic. If the sense of self-esteem, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-esteem in contact with a person - he or she is toxic - falters. If in communication with a person or after communication comes the thoughts "I'm talentless", "I'm a freak", "I'm not beautiful", "I'm lazy", "Something's wrong with me", "I'm doing shit" ... - then you've talked to a toxic person...

Some people speak in high tones all the time. "Don't shout! - We request them. And they answer: "I'm not shouting, it's my voice! And then they say, their voice is normal, but high and loud notes give out psychological peculiarities of these people. Let's try to figure out which ones. One of my acquaintances to the question: "Why did you part with this woman, because you loved her so much, even ready to adopt her children from the first marriage? - He replied, "They're always yelling. For any reason...

Why is it so hard to lose weight? This question is asked by many people: who have ever had experience with weight loss, who dream of an ideal figure, who want to normalize their weight, and with it, their health, when weight is seen as a benchmark of success, body weight, as an indicator of willpower, body harmony, as a reflection of the harmony of life. Many believe that having lost weight to ideal, in their opinion, kilograms, Destiny suddenly changes overnight: Now it is not even somehow indecent, not modern to be concerned with your figure, because everyone wants to lose weight...