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Focus of attention or empowerment
We often limit our capabilities to the "framework" through which we look at the world. The focus of our attention directly depends on its size. This is the way an ordinary person works: he or she can simultaneously hold no more than 7±2 units of information (Miller's famous number). Can you imagine how little we notice from all the gigantic variety of data. Our attention looks like a searchlight, illuminating a small piece of space, beyond which, we find ourselves in pitch black. And in order to see more, we need to light up another area as well...
6 лет назад
Cinderella syndrome or a good girl complex
An old fairy tale about an unhappy girl who does all the whims of an evil stepmother is a very common story in real life. At the end of the fairy tale, Cinderella got what she deserved when she met the Prince Charming. But it's just a fairy tale, and there won't be a happy ending in life until Cinderella herself takes control of the situation. There are women who are good mistress and wife, mother and conscientious worker, but she is unhappy, because her career does not develop, her husband and...
6 лет назад
How to learn not to depend on the opinion of others and be yourself (Part 2)
As the secretary Verochka said from the film "Service Romance", if you want "you can teach the hare to smoke. And seriously, people underestimate their potential: they can do a lot of things, including 1. To change yourself, i.e. to learn to be yourself And for that, you need a strong desire first of all. Writer Ray Bradbury used to say, "You can get everything you need if you really need it. Changing yourself means changing the way you think. The one who changes his way of thinking will be able to change his life (unless, of course, he is satisfied with it)...
6 лет назад
How to learn not to depend on the opinion of others and be yourself (Part 1)
We are satisfied with life when we are loved and awaited by loved ones and important people. This addiction can be taken for granted and "not scratching where it doesn't itch". And what to do if the public opinion does not rest? Know yourself and make sure you are worthy of love and respect. What will people say? What will people say? It would seem that we don't care who thinks about how beautiful we are, what we are dressed in, what we have said or done? The famous Coco Chanel once said: "I don't care what you think of me because I don't think of you at all...
6 лет назад