PSYCHO NOTES

When a person comes to a psychologist, they usually have certain ideas, fantasies or illusions about how the process should unfold. Partly the idea of a counseling/session is influenced by the broadcasts on TV, which are usually far from reality. I will try to show some of the pitfalls of the psychotherapeutic process and perhaps make it clearer. I will not dwell in detail on how to choose a psychologist - this is quite a lot of writing on the Web. All the more so, that anyway, most often at the...

So, I'm supposed to be a doctor, I've had a little bit of misanthropy, and now I have something to say about her. Firstly, the disease is severe, with losses and destruction. And the main thing is that it took a lot of time. Three years (2015-2018). Secondly, it is perhaps a necessary companion to the transition from the youthful perception of life, full of pink unicorns, into adulthood, where the question is ribbed: either you ruin this life, or make it into a candy. Third, it can be stuck for...

An infantile egoist wants others to solve his problems just because he wants to. His stupid head has no idea that the world owes him anything if he is already an adult. And even if he is not yet of age, Mom and Dad owe him very little compared to what he would like. Healthy self-sufficiency is based on a clear knowledge that nobody owes me anything, and if somebody does something for me, it's only by personal desire. Healthy self-sufficiency means that people can exchange goods and services on mutually...

Reading how friends communicate with each other, I always see the difference between male and female friendships. And the difference concerns not the sex of friends, but the sex of those with whom they are friends. That is, women and men are friends with a woman in about the same way: they feed her the crown. They feed generously so that the turnip grows bigger. But with a man and women and men are friends quite differently: the crown is trying to knock down or at least not to let her grow more...