Build Your Own Castle or how to ne not envious
Three scenarios—which would irk you the most? (a) Your friends’ salaries increase. Yours stays the same. (b) Their salaries stay the same. Yours does, too. (c) Their average salaries are cut. Yours is, too. If you answered A, don’t worry, that’s perfectly normal: You’re just another victim of the green-eyed monster.
“My neighbor has a cow and I have none. I hope that his drops dead.” Admit it: A similar thought must have occurred to you at some point in your life.
Of all the emotions, envy is the most idiotic. Why? Because it is relatively easy to switch off. This is in contrast to anger, sadness, or fear. it’s a waste of time. Many things spark envy: ownership, status, health, youth, talent, popularity, beauty. It is often confused with jealousy because the physical reactions are identical. The difference: The subject of envy is a thing (status, money, health, etc.).
Paradoxically, with envy, we direct resentments toward those who are most similar to us in age, career, and residence. We don’t envy millionaires on the other side of the globe—just those on the other side of the city. As a supermodel you envy more successful supermodels.
Case: Let’s say your financial success allows you to move from one of New York’s grittier neighborhoods to Manhattan’s Upper East Side. In the first few weeks, you enjoy being in the center of everything and how impressed your friends are with your new apartment and address. But soon you rea
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26 апреля 2022