Is it necessary to return the man, if he left? Paradoxically, if you want a man back, you have to let him go completely, and then, if this man is destined for you, he will come back someday.
Here is he, still yesterday such a favorite and native is gone! What to do? First of all, try to discard emotions, immediately, of course, it will not work, but after crying for a couple of days, pull yourself together and analyze the situation.
Immediately after the breakup, you have an irresistible desire to return it, which leads to impulsive actions: requests, pleas, persuasion, constant reminders of yourself, etc. are these the Right actions? Can they help bring the guy back?
I am approached by girls with a request to explain why I advise to stop contacts with former and believe that this will bring the return of a loved one?
Some women try to enter into a discussion with me and prove that in their past experience, they just did not interrupt contacts, but constantly reminded about themselves to the guy who left them, threw him SMS, phone calls, begged to return, told how they suffer, love and what they are ready to go just so that he was again with them. Ostensibly this works-guy is returning.
It seems to be all looks plausible, if not for one caveat. All these women who dispute the obvious end up asking me to help them get the men who abandoned them back. What does that say? This confirms the truth — " a Man will never return to a woman out of pity! Never.»
Yes, it is possible to give in to pleas and persuasions, especially if the guy is a sentimental person, and return to the girl to calm her, but this return will be short-term (if it takes place at all).
The man started active if he decided to leave you, give him this chance, leave him alone.
Why?
Any contact with him now will only exacerbate your gap. You're too full of resentment to be objective. The meeting is sure to end with a quarrel, which will only strengthen your beloved in the correctness of his departure. So first get rid of negative emotions towards the former man. Otherwise, you will again build walls between them, not bridges.
What to do?
Try to break the fixation on his runaway Prince. Until then, eliminate all sorts of contacts. Try to curb the negative emotions that are now raging in your soul. Try to think of him as little and as best as possible, thank him for the good moments you've had, and wish him happiness. And occupy your thoughts with other things.
Many, finding themselves in the role of an abandoned woman, cease to look after themselves, dress up and preen: "And for whom?". But even if attempts are made to dress up, as a rule, to no avail. Fashionable dress for some reason sits like a saddle on a cloven-hoofed animal, and men do not turn their heads in your direction, even despite the stunning hairstyle. Where had the old appeal gone?
She's gone with her self-confidence and buried under the wreckage of her shattered self-esteem. And, if you want to return to former happiness or find it with someone else, you need to extract your attractiveness from under these ruins.
First of all, try to raise your self-esteem above the level of the skirting board, to which it has slipped in recent days. It will take time. Three days are enough for someone, and a month is enough for someone.
I recommend a well — known exercise-the so-called meditation on an imaginary partner.
To forget for a while about the life partner who has left you, it is necessary to try to think of someone else. For what choose among unfamiliar men of any which to you more to liking, and start imagining on a subject of your General relations with it.
If this man is also familiar to you, even superficially, fantasies at his expense can be supported by actions. Of course, not too decisive: open friendly smile, a little coquetry... in Short, behave with him as if you firmly know that he likes you.
In addition, start with interest to look around at strange men. Just do not try to look out for a potential partner among them. The expression of concentrated search and expectation, which in this case will be drawn on your face, will certainly scare off any representative of the stronger sex. Experts recommend doing this exercise for at least a week. Although it is possible that someone will need a little more time.
But soon you will feel that your sense of self begins to change, and the surrounding men will immediately react to it.
Not when store loyalty left beloved in the hope that he will appreciate it and will definitely return. This is the biggest mistake. Never will a man return to a woman who has been abandoned, if she remains as she was!
Why?
The old one, he just doesn't need you, maybe he can't stand you. Otherwise, he would never have left. Therefore, we must try to extract maximum experience from the situation, realizing the basic mistakes, so that in the future they do not repeat. To do this, you need to change your own attitude to many things.
What to do?
To change yourself in the right direction, it is necessary to calculate and tune in to the fact that he's never coming back, and now have to live without him. This will allow you to completely free yourself from his dependence.
To do this, you should try to deliver yourself as many positive emotions as possible. Since their main source-a beloved man-is not yet available, learn to enjoy smaller things: food, clothes, entertainment, etc. Buy yourself Goodies, beautiful things, have fun in companies. Just do not confuse the fun with "going to the dressing", during which the abandoned lady tries to pump up wine as quickly as possible and start complaining to the audience about her heavy share.
In General, try to live not in anticipation of his return, but for the sake of their own pleasures, getting pleasure from life.
This, by the way, also has a beneficial effect on your attractiveness, which men will certainly appreciate.
It is not necessary to appoint to be in those places where you used to love to be together. Everything that once bound you must be forgotten! You don't need anything to remind you of your previous relationship.
What to do?
We must try to forget everything that happened before, and avoid any allusion to any events in the past. But the main thing it is necessary to change internally. Although external changes will not hurt. You need to make your "prodigal" friend or husband did not recognize in you the one that got away. And if from the first meeting you manage to establish communication on a completely new wave, most likely, you will be able to return to the old relationship. Or rather, they will not be the same. Most importantly, they should not become so.
In General, it is now in a relationship with him, everything should be different, all the details (or rather, especially in the details)! In fact, for him, it should be a new affair with another woman. Yes and for you this will be novel already with other a man...
However, it is possible that having reached a complete renewal, you suddenly find that you do not really need a renewal of old love. Well, in that case, you should not try to enter the old river-now you will see a lot of streams. In any case, the experience gained by you during this time will be useful in the future sailing on the seas of love.