Sometimes men who do not know much about the female soul or do not yet know their partner well remain restless, when, after an engaging intimate moment, she bursts into tears and fails to stop and shake with sobs looks for closeness. It is a cry that seems to come from the deepest parts, from the kidneys and to rise up to the face to the hands that want to be pressed to the mouth by the lips that want to be kissed. And the more they felt close and united, the more this total intense crying is liberating and if the man is not afraid, then instinctively he holds her against him and for her this embrace is an extension of the journey in the mutual sensations and emotions that have lived together.
It is a cry of profound recognition of the other and indicates that that moment brought her back into contact with herself and with the man next to her and felt the good circulating among them and was moved. She felt in deep harmony, physically and mentally. Or she cries because she is in love, because their being close to her opened the feeling of the new, of the world in front of her, of an immense meadow of daisies in which to walk hand in hand. It is something that does not always happen and of course it does not happen to everyone.
But weeping does not always express a life of love and union. Like all non-verbal expressions, like in children, crying can have a thousand meanings. It may indicate that while making love she feels a sense of loneliness, that she is not feeling united with her partner. He cries because while he should merge, he feels the distance, he feels his own body becoming them. Maybe there were misunderstandings that have not been clarified and she will try to hide the loneliness and the crying in funny ways too: she puts her head under the pillow, covers herself with the sheets, tries to pretend nothing and finish quickly. He could feign orgasm just to finish. It is much nicer to have a woman side by side who says candidly that she has not had an orgasm.
At other times he cries out of jealousy, because he feels or knows that there is someone else or because he boasts of and then, even if he wants to make love, he keenly feels the pain of being put aside and feels rejected. Then he will tend to turn away immediately from the other side, curl up and cry alone pretending to sleep.
Then of course, crying sometimes appears as an epiphenomenon that follows the discharge of orgasm and has no particular meaning. But when it is repeated and does not follow a talk of the heart, combined with not looking at the partner in the eyes, we are faced with an anticipation of a serious crisis. Maybe it will come after years or months. But it's already there among them. In fact the relationship of love is a penetration and we can well imagine that it is very different to welcome a man with love or to feel one's body expressing a visceral reaction of rejection and nausea. The beloved man can, suddenly, be experienced as a being who is violating her. It doesn't matter if they've been together for so many years or if they're married. In the tears there is her having felt herself invaded without wishing and the perception of a violence that offended her that she cannot or cannot express, because for now it is at the level of emotions. But it is strong and touches the heart of the relationship with the other.
Often males shake their heads saying that understanding women is a real struggle. And yet if they do not make this effort they remain on the surface and will not be able to experience the joy of when she opens up, when she entrusts herself, when she leads them to the island that is not there.
If men know how to become experts in crying would make them more sensitive to women, more able to understand them and able to love them, they would be enchanted by the mystery of this communication. More important than the things that are said.
The most beautiful sign is that she cries with you and comes close to you, that you hold her tight. The darker one is when, instead of lingering beside her, she hides her tears, and immediately runs away, to take a shower.
So, if you really care about her, it's time to reflect, because if your loved one is not succeeding in being physically close to you, she is communicating a serious difficulty and does not have the words to put it. Between the two extremes, there are many nuances, which never require interrogation, but provide love, support, unconditional and reassurance.