First, began in secret love, and finally fell in love - a person's love,
a visitor told me in the consultation, at the beginning of the school, he married a girl who made her heart, has the ability to have the ability, feel that she is herself People who want to protect their lives. Every time I pass by the girl on the road, my heart beats faster and I don't dare to look at each other. Every time I think of meeting this girl before class, I feel that my mood is very bright all day. Because of her appearance, she began to pay attention to dressing and wearing hats, paying attention to manners and behaviors, and paying attention to the performance in the classroom.
I couldn't help but be moved by his deep feelings. I couldn't help but wonder: "What is your confusion?"
He frowned and answered me with a serious look: "I don't know what to do. I am in love." The attitude is very serious, and all the love that is not for marriage is a hooligan!"
"So your attitude towards love is very cautious."
"Yes, this is my first love." He nodded: "I will use Marriage standards to consider the development of our relationship, we are not in a city, after graduation, I promised parents to go home to develop, what should we do then."
"So what is your relationship now?"
He replied: "I am very Contradictions, have not yet confessed to her." In the
next consultation, he told me that he considered it over and over again, and more and more that the girl was relatively cold, inaccessible, and hopes for the future together decided to give up on that The pursuit of girls. Because of the pain, in the haze, he ran 20 rounds around the playground until his physical strength fell to the ground.
This is actually a person's love, the beginning and end of the whole love is done in the heart of the party. The other party does not know his mind, and he does not know his pain. All his understanding of the other party may be his own thought. Psychologically, he can use the word "projection" to define, meaning that the person uses his own heart. Subjectively thinks that "her" defines the actual "her". The high-cold adjectives are more like the party's self-defense mechanism, in order to reduce the goodwill of the other party, to imprison their own actions, and to be unconscious. Motivation may be to protect yourself from separation.
As for what she is like, it is an unsolved mystery; what is the feeling of her inner feelings to the parties, if there is no mutual understanding, it is more equivalent to an ancient mystery. It can be appreciated that the parties have not established a relationship of love to consider the results, how much pressure and restraint it will bring. Just as you haven't learned to swim, consider whether you will encounter wind and waves in the sea, and the best way to test your swimming skills is to go swimming in the sea. The result of this long-term is that you can never determine how well you can build a relationship, and it is difficult to have a satisfactory relationship. As for the result of love, it becomes more and more confusing.
The ability to build a relationship is also a psychological function, an individual's ability to risk the uncertainty, trust the other party and try to establish a close link with it. In fact, every relationship will have results, but the results will be presented to you in different ways. From love to marriage is a result. Turning from love to breaking up is not a result, indicating that your relationship can only progress here, but the whole process will let you get more understanding of love, and gradually clear What kind of other half is right for you. Of course, each person's love pattern is related to the early attachment mode. The attachment mode of the client is obviously influenced by the native family. Unfortunately, this model makes him "adapted to love", so it is really necessary to consult. In-depth discussion of the early life experience, as the party should do is to re-develop the love model that suits you.
All love that has not actually started is actually a daydream.
To break the daydream, you have to try bravely, but the dream in reality, boldly show love, the more you dare to love, the more you can love, the more you will love.
To be continued.