Does the mother who beats her son not love her son?
Of course not.
If it is not an emergency, the three people look very harmonious, and the mother’s eyes are caring.
However, the son’s sudden disappearance, the mother was obviously overwhelmed by her fear of panic, she did not have the time and space to deal with these sudden emotions, and immediately took violent behavior after self-control, that is, scolding and corporal punishment of the son, the young son was inexplicably Scared.
If the mother has the opportunity to reflect afterward, she will regret or blame herself for her misconduct.
Mom wants to teach his son "don't leave the eyes of his parents in public", can the son receive it? What did the son experience?
The son couldn't learn from the "how to protect himself in public" that his mother wanted to teach him.
Instead, he received the anger and accusations of his mother, and he experienced fear, pain, and helplessness.
It is a pity that the son lost a meaningful learning opportunity.
What does a mother do, not only for the mother-child relationship but also for the son to learn a chance?
The sudden disappearance of the son, the mother's brain may be associated with the picture of "the son was lost" or "lower children were turned". The panic and fear of the moment, I believe that every parent seems to have felt.
However, it is important that mothers need a little time to sort out their emotions, even if they are from 1 to 10, they will be calmed down to deal with unexpected situations, or seek help from their father and find a solution together. A mother who is
not in an anxious state may face a returning son and may choose a more appropriate way to interact with her son.
such as:
While holding his son, he told him:
"You go elsewhere, let us see you, otherwise we will be very worried";
"If you are bored, tell us, let's think about some fun things together."
I believe that my son can not only learn to not leave his parents' eyes but also have the opportunity to learn how to deal with his boring emotions.
In any case, parents are always the best resource for children.
Some parents may choose to tell their younger sons: "It’s not safe outside, there are bad people who are abducting young children, and you can’t go around.”
This kind of warning may be effective, but it may also cause his son to fear the unknown world and limit him to explore the outside world.
How to protect and encourage children to explore the unknown outside world, parents need a little wisdom.
Does the mother have a chance to remedy her misconduct?
of course. As long as the mother is willing to take responsibility and consequences for her misconduct, this requires courage and strength.
Mother finds the right time as soon as possible, admits to her son that she has done something wrong, she should not blame her son and hope that her son will forgive her mother.
The son will also make mistakes in the process of growing up. As long as he learns to repair and learns to take responsibility, he will grow into a responsible man.
Sometimes, unfortunately, mothers often fail to properly handle their emotions or reflect on their own mistakes, and each time they use inappropriate behavior to deal with their own uncontrollable emotions (such as anger, abusive, blame and corporal punishment). The one who suffers the most is his beloved child.
At this time, the mother needs to communicate with people who can support herself, Mr. or friends, or directly seek the help of professionals.
What can Dad do for his son besides being with his mother?
Obviously, Dad did not notice the boringness of his son.
If the father of a young son and more concerned about what my father may be able to select outside Bakery accompanied his son to play with ;
may be able to find topics of interest to the son of a chat day; boring waiting time will soon be over.
The father-son relationship can also be enhanced during the time of fragmentation. Growing up sons can slowly learn how to deal with boring fragmentation time.
When my mother’s emotions broke out, what could Dad do in addition to being embarrassed and helpless?
Dad gave her mother the greatest support. A simple sentence: "Don't worry, my son will not go far." Maybe she can comfort her mother for a while, and she won’t get out of control.
In the process of growing up, Dad's role and function are very important. He is always the mother's strongest emotional support and is also a model for the safety and learning of children.
However, sometimes Dad may need help and support to deal with and accept his negative emotions, such as anxiety and worry. Compared with mom, it is usually difficult for Dad to express his anxiety and worry.
What can Dad do when he is crying in the face of a frightened son?
Dad can immediately take his son away from this nervous and conflicting situation, appease his son until he calms down;
then find a suitable opportunity to explain to his son "what happened"; then guide the son to do what is boring.
The son not only learned how to appease his feelings of injury but also gained a sense of life to protect his own safety. At the same time, in his active interaction with his father, his son’s sense of security and his trust in his father were also strengthened.