1 "Emotion Button"
I’ll blow up my emotions: I will reject you before being rejected.
There must be a few friends in your life who are going to blow up. Just because a little thing like being late, ordering something is not good, or not returning to WeChat in time, you will suddenly get angry.
We usually feel that this friend is too easy to break out and needs to be careful. But the fact may also be that friends themselves can't control their emotions.
Everyone has their own "emotional button", but some people have extra emotional buttons. The emotional button is like a minefield. Once touched, the consequences are very serious. Recently, a study by Kevin Meehan and others from Long Island University found that a person built a lot of emotional buttons, perhaps just to protect themselves.
The study summarizes the characteristics of people with more emotional buttons: there are many rules that others do not dare to touch; they have negative expectations for relationships, such as thinking that the other party is untrustworthy, and will not really accept themselves; they are highly sensitive to rejection and face rejection by others. There will be a tendency to overreact, such as excessive depression and anger.
Kevin Meehan believes that those who seem to be afraid of being rejected have long been prepared to reject others. Because in their eyes, being rejected means that the relationship is broken, meaning change and insecurity. Therefore, in order to avoid this bad experience, they will preemptively become the first person to reject others. Emotional buttons have become an excuse for refusing others because once someone, unfortunately, touches their minefield, they will be thunderous and give the other party no chance to remedy.
Such a model makes it difficult for them to maintain a long-lasting healthy relationship. Although deep inside, they still desire intimacy, but the negative expectations of others often lead to loneliness.
2 "Creative Love"
Is creativity the key to love? of course!
Psychology has a lot of research on love. For example, studies have shown that romantic passion plays an important role in long-term relationships and personal well-being - but unfortunately, people often think that passion is fragile and perishable. After all, psychologists have suggested that passion will be big. Most relationships reached their peak early and gradually weakened over time.
However, researchers at the Finkel of Northwestern University recently surveyed couples with more than 10 years of romantic relationships and found that 40% of couples still feel “having a feeling of love”.
The researchers were shocked and couldn't believe it. So they detected the brain activity of these old couples through fMRI. It was found that the old couple who reported the "in love" and the newly-loved couple had the same brain area. These old guys didn't lie, and the passion in love can really last for many years.
So why is your love not lasting enough?
Tell you, what you lack is not love, creativity, creativity!
The creativity we are talking about here refers to the ability to bring surprises to each other. Research suggests that highly creative individuals are more attractive in the love market and can maintain long-lasting and strong emotional connections. Because creativity can bring surprises to each other, it also allows the other party to form a "positive partner illusions" - in simple terms, the other party is very pleasing to the eye and the disadvantages can be advantageous. After all, your Surprise can add a little bit of fun to the otherwise unremarkable life.
Remember, the secret of eternal passion is to try to prepare surprises for each other.
3 "Limited money"
I bought a street card and still feel unhappy.
Last week, Uniqlo searched on both sides of the hot search. This time, because everyone was fighting for the Kaws joint name, they left a mess.
The question is when people are rushing to grab the tide cards, what are they robbing?
Once a product is labeled "limited" or "jointly", it may be that the merchant is playing a hunger marketing game, that is, the phenomenon of demand is limited by the words such as limited edition and joint name, thereby increasing the consumer's desire to purchase. Chinese consumers are very sensitive to market signals such as tide brands, scarcity, and limited quantities. This over-sensitivity is sometimes derived from consumer perceptions of brand-name products and markets. After all, the domestic tide brand culture is still in the development stage, and the tastes of the trend people are constantly developing and changing.
When we chase the tide brand, it may reflect the self-seeking of the person, that is, to complete their identity through the symbols of limited and trend. When a product is limited, it means that the product is not easy to obtain, and this kind of non-compliance will enhance people's "minor, special" identity recognition.
After all, the slogan behind the tide brand may be that we don't know who we are, and we haven't thought about how this life will be spent. So when we don't understand how to express ourselves, it is easy to chase other people's attitudes and labels.
Whether you have grabbed your favorite limited-edition shoes, I hope you are unique and happy.