I remember the image of Lyudochka from the Pokrovsky gate, who was all so sudden and contradictory. In principle, this is how adjusted for differences in appearance, look women and girls who profess the position of "I do not want to decide anything, I want a new dress." They are slightly hysterical and certainly infantile.
For some reason, they have not grown and have remained little girls. Most likely, this girl was the Pope, who completely dominated the house, and the word across to tell him it was impossible. Or she grew daddy's Princess, all desires which were satisfied "on the first squeak". That is in her head there was a watershed: there are adult men who make decisions and make acts, and there are little girls from whom in this life depends nothing.
Such girls were woken up in the morning, given clothes, fed a cooked Breakfast, transplanted from a pot to a sled, from a sled to a swing, made for them the absolute majority of decisions, because parents know better, and unless parents advise bad. Often they choose and friends, and school, and then University, and profession.
That is, both options lead to one outcome: a girl grows up who is unable, does not want, does not know-how and is even afraid to make some independent actions. And she urgently needs to entrust herself to someone, so that this someone takes care of all the worries, all the responsibility, and all the decisions.
Someone is lucky, and such a person is. And the girl gets married, and it turns out, as we like to say, "behind a stone wall." The man brings home the money, decides what he wants to eat, what she needs to cook, where they will go on vacation when they have children. Such men grow out of boys who grew up with a mother-housewife and father-earner, that is, for them as a whole, this picture is familiar. About such marriage dreams of almost every girl. And all would be well, but nothing good usually comes from such families.
First, some of the girls such a man just never meet.
Secondly, with the acquisition of life experience, people tend to change, and a man may well get tired of this system. I know the story, although the pair created exactly according to this Canon: it is everything, it adorns his life. At one point she called him and asked him to put money on the phone because she didn't know how to do it. Then she asked him to call somewhere and find out something, although she could have done it herself. Then there was a series of small requests like this, which finally made the man boil and walk off into the night. Helplessness can be endearing in matters like changing the wheel, but the total inability to somehow take care of yourself, in the end, infuriates even people with angelic patience. A woman in this relationship plays the role of a child, and not everyone will like this game for years. In the end, everyone will want to feel the support and help in the family, and not just to see her cute face and delicious food.
Third, a man can disappear from your life, whether through divorce or sudden death. I remember a case from my practice: the ex-wife of a diplomat came to me. All her life she had lived in Paradise: money, houses, no problems. Even when they held receptions, specially trained people picked out the right dresses for her, she greeted guests, smiled at them, and at the end of the evening saw them off, taking kisses of the hand. And at one point, this diplomat announced to her that he was divorcing. And she's under 40. They were married for 20 years. And so she sat there and cried, repeating the same question: "how to live now?". She never worked a day in her life. I never thought for a day where the money came from. Her husband decided everything. It never occurred to her that one day she would have to look for a job and wonder if there would be enough money to pay.
At what often life of these girls teaches nothing and after parting with the man.
I had 2 clients who received a car and real estate after the divorce, but not a penny of money. So they continued to drive cool cars and live in multimillion-dollar mansions, but at the same time to eat up at friends. To sell, to buy something simpler, to reconsider their way of life-no, they did not know-how. They never decided anything.
In General, the worst thing that can happen to such a woman is a situation in which she lived for many years without worries, and then suddenly found herself alone. Could she? Even if once the girl worked, but at the first opportunity ran away "for a stone wall" - the problem remains.
The fact is that there is often a huge difference between "working" and "realizing yourself." If a woman wants to quit her job, then she's not doing her job. Means, she not on moreover elect, she works not there, she does not receive from this no joy, she stupidly pulling the strap. People who work at their favorite job, where they realize their potential, they do not quit their jobs, even if they have hundreds of millions in their accounts.
Of course, someone can be very lucky, and you can live your whole life like this, soul to soul, and die in one day. But should we expect that this will happen to you?