When I was young, girls wanted to get married almost from the age of seventeen. Almost all girlish talk and dreams were about marriage...
Now, not all girls tend to marry early.
The more educated a girl, the more purposeful, the more she thinks about getting a good education and building a career.
Having got an interesting or prestigious job and having a high income, modern young ladies are increasingly pulling with marriage.
I decided to look at these women and try to understand-why ladies, financially independent, in no hurry to get married...
In my opinion, many of them do not believe in princes on a white horse and are afraid to make a wrong choice.
After all, if a woman earns decently, she wants a man to earn no less.
What does the word "married" mean? That is for my husband! The woman, having married, shifts on shoulders of the husband all care of herself — and material including?
Now, this "married" in the truest sense of the word does not exist anymore.
The woman not that shifts on the man the cares, she often assumes his problems, both household, and material.
For example, Marina is 25 years old and she is sure that modern men do not mind living at the expense of a woman.
In the future, she is going to get married, but with the obligatory conclusion of a marriage contract and so that both spouses allocate the same amount of money for the economy while having in the Bank each his personal account.
In addition, many purposeful women are afraid of a heap of male claims that will prevent them from building a career or doing business.
For example, Irina believes that marriage is a bondage for a woman, that housekeeping falls on her shoulders.
She says, - and God forbid there will be such who wants house borscht, pancakes and other delicacies on which it was brought up by mother.
Ira is absolutely not ready to run a household. She comes home late at night and, after a little rest, is already making work plans for the next day.
But she lives in a beautiful apartment, wears expensive clothes, two or three times a year goes to rest abroad.
Boyfriends happen to her, but as soon as Irina realizes that the man intends to build a joint nest or even worse-to stay in her apartment as a legal spouse, she shies away from him as from a leper, avoids meetings and does not answer the phone.
Many women have tasted the taste of freedom. They like to have not one man, but several.
They do not consider it necessary to please, adapt, tolerate other people's habits.
As long as they're free, they don't have to answer to anyone, not when they're home late, not when they're spending money.
Katya is a beautiful thirty-year-old businesswoman, and says-I can spend on my beloved as much as I want. And I can always find a man when I need one.
Alevtina is forty. She has her own small business.
She was married and had even tried for two years to get her husband a good job. But her Boris preferred beer and TV.
She divorced with her husband with great difficulty, he did not want to understand what's wrong, what did not hit his wife, because he drinks only beer, does not change, the money they have — Alevtina for two runs.
Boris agreed not only to wash the dishes, but also to cook dinner. But Alevtina was adamant.
And now she's been alone for years. Or rather, not quite alone. She gets lovers who are much younger than her, gives them gifts, takes them on vacation, and then breaks up with them.
Katya has been Dating for many years with a man who is equal to her in position, receives no less and the age difference between them is only one year.
He not once offered to marry her, but Kate pulls. She does not say no to him, assures him that she is very good with him, but she does not have the time and energy for a full marriage.
Judging by the fact that he does not break off the relationship, he has the same situation, or he loves Katya very much.
Many women who have received a good education and earn decent money, the creation of a family scares. They're not willing to sacrifice their promotion for a man and children.
"Oh, the times! Oh, the manners! someone will exclaim.
But this is the reality of our time.
And time will not flow back...
Most likely, it will happen that some men will come to the conclusion that a career is not interesting for them, and choose a family. Thus, they will create a redistribution of roles.
And our women will understand that it is not so bad with their employment and high earnings to have a "home" husband — a householder.
Not a parasite and a Freeloader, but a householder.
After all, raising children, housekeeping — hard work. And what is wrong for a businesswoman to come home from work and plunge into the world of comfort and love?
It is no secret that in many countries in the West now
it is dads who sit with children, and wives continue their career growth.
And, like, all they have is good.
In the meantime, in Russia, often earning little husband also shakes the right, requiring a working wife of housekeeping and maintenance of his person.
Of course, that woman, the question arises — why, in fact, she such a treasure?
That's why the most enviable bride and not in a hurry to marry.
In the changed world, in my opinion, the most important thing is mutual respect, refusal of excessive demands.
It doesn't matter who earns money and who runs the household. The main thing is that the money was in the house. And the house was cozy, and to all members, family was in it warmly and happily.