Our ancestors lived for millennia, not to say that too happily, but slowly. Patriarchal values were not encroached upon. Emancipation even in my worst dreams I never dreamed of.
Women's share and family values
Under Ivan III, for example, and not only, an unmarried girl was forbidden to look at men even out the window, let alone talk to them.
From the point of view of today's woman — quiet horror. Under Peter I there were some indulgences to the female sex. But they seem ridiculous now.
For a long time and financially and morally, the woman is fully depended on the will of the father, brother, husband...
But whether bears have become more diligent to RUB against the earth's axis, or even for some objective reasons, our life has changed dramatically over the last century. Modern women have rights and opportunities that were not dreamed of not only by our distant great-great-grandmothers, but also just great-grandmothers, whom many of us found in good health.
However, despite the fact that most women are economically independent of men, marriage remains one of the highest priorities.
Why?
Perhaps because of an ingrained tradition. After all, a woman from century to century was taught, almost from the cradle, that only a man supports her social status, that an unmarried woman is a defective commodity.
And now, despite all the efforts of bears "faster twisting the earth's axis", many girls dream of a white dress and veil. It's beautiful ... Romantic....
As an adult, a girl thinks about marriage because she wants to have a child. And even if she alone can raise him and provide financially, every normal woman wants her beloved baby to have a caring father. It's so natural!
Think of it, if a man loves children and wants them, he doesn't expect to get them out of an incubator! He also hopes that his chosen one will be a loving mother to his children. What to say about women, most of whom from birth inherent maternal instinct?!
But, unfortunately, Russian men rarely dream about babies. Many of them may say, " bear me an heir." And why not a girl?
I remember an anecdote on this occasion:
Is dad in the hospital and waiting for news.
Suited nurse and says, - I congratulate! You have a healthy baby!
— Son of?
— No...
"Who, then?"!
But even if a man does not object to the birth of a child and is not upset if a daughter is born, it does not mean that he is ready and will share with his wife all the care and upbringing of the child.
After divorce many Russian men forget not only about the wife but also about the child, refusing to carry out the fatherly duty. Not only spiritually, but also materially. And the woman is left alone with all the problems. Our modern life is not easy, especially for women.
Having received freedom, she received also a load of duties. Our state actively encourages citizens to be fruitful and multiply, forgetting that the child is not enough to give birth, it needs to be fed and raised a worthy person. Therefore, children should still be born desired and planned, when both parents have matured morally and have sufficient material resources, in which their "love boat will not break on life."
Perhaps the time has come when both boys and girls need to instill the idea of responsibility to the future family, prepare them psychologically to get along with each other, to resolve peacefully contentious issues and jointly raise children born in marriage.
It is terrible to see in what conditions live abandoned children who conceived accidentally and when both parents betrayed their babies.
Often a bad mother is compared to a cuckoo. Who's dad? But if we talk about the cuckoo, it does not throw, and it attaches its Chicks in those nests, where they are one hundred percent nurture, foster parents.
And if the government wants to raise not just the population, but to get decent citizens, it should pay special attention to the problem of fatherhood. To raise my father's authority in the eyes of society, not as a tyrant, like-I said! He slammed his fist down on the table. And in the form of caring and wise Pope. Why not show on TV exemplary husbands and fathers, instead of peeping through the keyhole for the adventures of the so-called stars and glamorous girls of the demimonde?
It's time to take off rose-colored glasses and understand that a modern woman will not raise five alone children's. Family is me, isn't it?
Personally, I see the only way to increase the birth rate - in changing society's view of the modern family. On a different approach in the education of the boy-not as a conqueror, hunter, but as a Creator, Builder, Keeper. Don't be like a male fighting over a female. The modern woman will choose not the strongest, but the one who is to her heart.
By common sense, she does not need a male producer, but a reliable companion, a friend, a caring lover. And as soon as men are ready to take responsibility for the upbringing of children, as soon as women have confidence in their reliability, they will give their husbands what our ancestors called — family.
And the state will be able to breathe a sigh of relief, but for now, he, the state, should strain and work hard, nurturing the image of a" Real man " meets the aspirations of modern women.