The path to a man's heart is not difficult. Fulfill these 3 of his needs and he will be yours in the long run. Women often ask me what guys are looking for in their relationships with women in their lives.
And although they can understand how simple guys are, they are still usually surprised by the simplicity of my answer. In general, men are looking for three things when they are involved in a romantic relationship with a woman:
1) Sex
2) Comfort
3) Friendship
And that's pretty much true. And although there are, of course, some people who have additional prerequisites for their relationship, they are certainly a minority, and in fact, it does not deserve much testing in the general debate about men and their motivation.
So on the first thing that men want (and this is the highest position in their list of "current affairs"): sex. As you know, sex is important for guys. It's what makes us get out of bed every morning (hoping we'll be back with a hot buddy in the near future). This is just like most men like to eat if guys had to choose between sex and food, starvation would be the number one cause of death among the male population. So it makes sense that one of the main things we are looking for in our relationship is sexual compatibility. And although it sounds like we could raise the birth rate in some way, you have to tell the truth, if you are willing to stay naked with it on a regular basis - then by our standards, we are quite compatible.
Okay, let's talk about "comfort" now. Men often come to their women to provide a safe haven, a comfortable place, a warm atmosphere in which they can avoid the cruelty of everyday life. I'm not talking about the physical environment, but emotional (although physical comfort when a man leans his head down on your soft chest is a big favorite of men). They like to lean back in a calm environment, away from the pressure of the outside world. They like your supportive attitude and soothing words.
And now, "Friendly Relationships," it sounds like they're looking for someone who's interesting to just be with, to live with; someone who shares their interests, dreams, goals and sense of humor; someone who's just cool to hang out with and someone who's ready to accompany them on a difficult adventure. They want a woman to enjoy their company for as long as they enjoy it. And when they discovered that there is a person with whom they have so much in common, it is only natural that they try to maximize their time together.
So you have a shockingly simple truth about what they are looking for in our relationship with them. I know it must seem like they're looking for more: perhaps a partner, a soul mate, a life, a co-parent or a roommate. You and you are the one who should be involved in his life, not friends, acquaintances, colleagues, but you. If your boyfriend has these things with you (these three points), then your relationship will never need to be rescued and any recovery plans created.
Things that every woman should know about a man.
We've told you this before, and now it's finally here... our new article "10 things every woman should know about men.
There is something we have learned from our long research over the past seven years while writing articles about men and relationships. Knowing this is power. It is also freedom. It gives you freedom from getting stuck in a dead-end relationship, the stupor of your brain when you try to figure out what he thinks and how he feels. This frees you from the stress, insecurity, and anxiety that come from not knowing the relationship.
This article looks at the most common relationships that cause the most embarrassment - and explains everything. It provides a look at the male psyche at the same time giving you the opportunity to learn a lot more about yourself and your relationship.
When a guy loves you, it's obvious.
Women only have one question: Do I like him? A man likes you, believe me. A man asks the same question countless times. You experience the pain, frustration, and uncertainty that come when he causes those feelings inside you, and you don't quite know if he feels the same way.
Sometimes it seems to be reciprocal... in other cases, you just don't know. And ignorance eats you up. So you ask, you analyze, you try to "crack his soul," you ask your friends, you read articles about "signs that he loves you" and you try to find everyone, even if it requires some stretching of truth and some self-deception.
From personal experience, I can tell you that trying to decipher whether or not a particular guy has feelings for you is a waste of time and energy. You should just ask him about it.