Loving oneself is fundamental: not only to maintain healthy self-esteem but also to improve the quality of relationships with others. The risk of rejection often translates into difficulties in interacting with people. This increases the risk of sinking into the vortex of depression.
Why don't you love each other? What experience has affected your character? Answers that would help you identify signs of your inner discomfort. Understanding why it is so difficult to love one another would improve your relationship with yourself and those around you. Understanding the problem would also help to improve your states of sadness, disappointment and bring down sharply the continuous change of mood.
Loving: How much do others love us?
An indicator of low self-esteem is hidden behind negative thoughts. You are constantly wondering what others think of you. Even a word of comfort or a loving gesture for you always remains a forced attitude. A suspicious gesture. There is no doubt that we all like to feel loved and understood. On the other hand, love is the first reason for living. However, people who are unable to love themselves tend systematically to feel the victims of others. Even if it were a nice gesture, they turn him into a suspicious one.
In reality, it is a logical discourse for those who have little respect for themselves. Unconscious thinking leads us to react with suspicion to all the good that is offered to us. How can you love me if I don't love myself? Can you respect me if I can't? How can you be kind to me if I'm not?
Loving: You're always on the defensive.
Being always on the defensive is another clear sign that you don't love each other as much as you should. Insecurity and lack of self-confidence affect your life to such an extent that you are always on the alert. Not only does it increase the levels of your emotional stress, but it also does not even allow you to be objective about what is happening around you.
Being constantly on the defensive does not allow you to clearly understand what people are saying or thinking about you. You feel judged and constantly live in uncertainty, in doubt of the thought of others. Your attitude changes, the senseless defense from improbable "attacks" makes you rude, unpleasant and above all violent with your partner. A misunderstanding is enough to unleash your anger. Put all your frustration on those who are only to blame for being close to you and loving you.
You try to avoid conflict by pretending that everything is going well.
Lack of self-esteem can also passively manifest itself. Completely nullifying itself. One's own opinions no longer have any value. Pretend that everything is fine, accept any compromise only to avoid problems. Lack of love for yourself does not give you the strength to react, nothing matters anymore. In this case, the risks are two, falling victim to a heavy emotional dependence or social isolation. The fear of making others angry makes you insensitive "machines" with the sole purpose of making everyone happy. And in this anomalous process increases the feeling that only by turning into a "doormat" your life might seem interesting to someone.
You confront everyone, even when you don't have to.
The habit of confronting everyone is another clear sign of a lack of love for oneself. In reality, confrontation with others is not in itself negative. The problem arises when you go beyond the limits. Women who do not have self-esteem tend to "enjoy" the discomfort of others. This is not evil, but a natural form of human contact. They ask for details of unpleasant events to find common points in which to share the same suffering. However, the exact opposite can happen. For example, confronting people who are going through a happy moment risks falling victim to envy. The feeling is the classic one, as are the questions that bridle the mind. Why are you so happy? Why is everything okay with her? The collapse of self-esteem is inevitable, it increases the feeling of abandonment and social injustice.
Consider your achievements a matter of good luck
A lot of the things we get out of our lives are the result of luck. Well, at least in part. Maybe we're in the right place at the right time. Surely if you stay locked in a room for whole days no luck will come to knock you. You have to be able to seize the right opportunities that life offers.
Not loving each other enough, you can't even recognize your real value. You may be brilliant women, but for you, at the moment there is only luck. In a way, this irresponsible attitude of your achievements makes you feel powerless and demotivated, at the mercy of yourself. The result? Living in a present prison with the awareness of destroying the future. Do you agree?