- Every day I receive dozens of messages with requests for help or advice regarding the most disparate situations that can happen when you live a romantic relationship.
- I am sure that every woman who writes to me does so because she has the desire to express a problem, suffering. The need to be heard.
But how many really want to find a solution?
I am not able to work on problems, but only on solutions.
Every time I point out a problem, I only need to understand and highlight which is the best solution to solve it.
So, you who are reading this post, ask yourself in a sincere and transparent way:
"Do I follow Mike to let off steam and pity me or to change things once and for all?"
This is the question you have to ask yourself and only if you answer "I'm ready to get involved to get what I want" are you the woman I'm talking to and I'll keep talking to.
But what I would like you to understand is that you don't have to have 1,000 problems or be in a desperate situation.
If you wait to be in the slime, it will be more and more difficult, long and tiring to get out of it.
My solutions, those found in the Women's Value Club and in Find the Right One, are suitable both for those who are now in difficulty but also and above all for those who are currently moderately satisfied with their life of relationship but who want, before it goes down the drain, to understand just how to avoid future problems.
The trap you have to avoid is this one.
If you act and react only when you are so overwhelmed by the mud that you can no longer see anything:
- How much effort will you have to make to get out of it?
- How much effort will you have to make?
- how many sacrifices are waiting for you?
It's not impossible to do it, but imagine if you had acted or reacted before when things still seem "ok" or "acceptable" to you.
You could have corrected the shot much more quickly and easily and you would have quickly resumed the road to your goals and the relationships you wanted.
Here are three tips to avoid falling into this trap:
Ask yourself where you stand in your life.
- Do you have the relationship you want? What problems do you still have to solve that prevent you from achieving your goals? Without knowing where you are today, you will never know how slowly you are sinking into the mud.
- If you are in trouble, you must react very quickly before the situation is irreversible. If things are more or less going well, you have to use this moment not to sit down and improve to aim to build something even more important.
distinguish yourself from mediocrity.
- In a post a few weeks ago, I told you about positioning and how important it is for you to make clear the difference between you and other women, both to a potential partner and to your current partner. Always consider that unfortunately the majority of women will never understand these concepts and will always remain in mediocrity to complain generating children and having relationships with men who will have that example of woman in front of their eyes. Be actively different from them. Their reality should not be your reality.
Work on other areas of your life.
- Being in a relationship that satisfies you and that makes you really proud cannot happen if you are not satisfied and proud of your life in general. The way you deal with any aspect (economic, work, family) has a strong impact on your relationship life. If you are looking for a successful relationship with a man without first being able to express the best of yourself, you will always fail miserably.
- Precisely to help you along this path, I have created the Club of Valuable Women in which I will deepen every month these and many other aspects related to your life as a woman and your relationships.