- Men aren't bad. As you are not.
This is the first thing you need to understand if you want to have any chance of a successful relationship.
I'm not here to be a male lawyer, on the contrary.
Let's be clear: there are men who wouldn't even deserve to speak to a woman, let alone have a relationship. But it also happens vice versa.
Surely your task, first, is to recognize them and eliminate them from the options available — or from your life if, by chance, you already have to deal with one of them (in Find the Right One I explain how to do it).
In this post I would like to explain another very important concept: how to avoid being YOU the one seen or perceived as a bad woman or to keep away.
You have to keep in mind that women of this kind are out there and I'm sure you've met some of them.
They are women who are bitter, frustrated, passive-aggressive, repressed.
They are women who make the life of a man a hell.
Yet still many men, perhaps balanced and eager to create something important but, unfortunately, unprovided, do not realize it immediately and fall into an emotional-sentimental trap from which they come out in pieces.
These men are still balanced people and potentially interested in a relationship but there is a "very small" problem: they have an open wound. A wound that still burns.
Important: it's not up to you to try to heal it. Absolutely not.
But there is one fundamental thing you have to do: not be perceived as a woman like the one who caused that wound.
How to do it?
Simple: positioning.
What does it mean?
It means that you have to position yourself differently from other women, i.e. you have to point out clearly and unavoidably that you are in no way equal to the bad, frustrated, aggressive woman with whom the man in question had to deal before.
The fact that you have had to deal with men in the past who were not interested in long-term stories is very often linked to this. It's not that they weren't interested in long-term stories.
They weren't interested in long-term stories with you.
And this happens, for equal attraction, because they didn't perceive you as different from the previous woman with whom things went wrong.
This is a very important point that you have to remember.
So how can you successfully define and communicate your positioning?
- There are three steps:
1- to be able to express the best yourself and to know clearly what are the values and principles that for you are the basis of your being a woman.
2- understand what you are different from the others. What are the aspects of your character, experiences, and peculiarities that make you different and unique compared to the women you want to differentiate yourself from?
3- clearly communicate why you are different from the others. After having understood your position and actually defined in what you are different, you have to communicate to the man with whom you relate why you are different and how this can have a positive effect on the present or future relationship you would like to have with him.
- You cannot avoid going through this process if you want to create successful relationships.
- In the Valuable Women's Club, I will discuss these topics in-depth every month with long reports and videos. My goal is to help you and allow you to have all the tools you need to take charge of your relationship life, improve it and keep it flourishing like a beautiful garden full of flowers.