The child steals and lies - keep negative emotions to yourself again. Stay alone with your child. Give a negative assessment of his actions, but remind him that you are not going to fight with a man you love very much. Describe the consequences, tell us how upset can be the one who lost a thing or money, how his plans are now destroyed. Discuss the situation as much as possible, encourage the child to talk: they should see that they want to hear what they have to say. If thefts and lies are repeated, be patient. None of us are perfect. Talk again and explain that the well-being of your loved one is very important to you. Advise on how to correct what you have done. And if he is clearly waiting for punishment, just forgive me.
If you are facing similar problems, think about the child:
-Doesn't he feel like he's being deprived of something?
-Whether you and other family members pay enough attention to the child;
-Whether you will consider his opinion and interests;
-Whether you have too much control over him (for him to want to protect himself from obsessions);
-Do you keep your promises?
Remember, the habits of youth will only develop and improve over the years, and the adult will seek to turn around rather than stand on his or her own.
Advice from psychologists for parents on how to teach the child honesty.
Be a fair realist and give such an opportunity to the child. Instead of creating a scandal, calmly report that you know the truth, but that you are worried and thinking about how to help. Tell your child sincerely that you love him or her, and he or she does not have to try to invent things that were not there to earn good treatment. Lying is a request for support and love, not punishment.
Say, "I know you lied because you didn't want to upset me. Or, "I can see that you didn't mean it by accident. And continue: "But you better tell the truth, because I'm very upset because of the lies. In doing so, you show that you understand the motive behind the lie, and it is necessary to express it aloud so that the child understands what is happening and your adequate response.
The importance of being honest should be shown by personal example. Remember that children are not just repeating after you and learning to behave - they want to be like you. Prove that there is no shame in admitting what you have done. Always praise honesty, say that trust, respect is paramount and losing it is very bad.
Is the child bragging, making up stories? Spend more time with him, pay more attention. When you talk about his behavior, do not switch to personality. And do not label him as a "liar", "cheater". After all, the "bad" is not the person, the bad thing he did.
It is important to create an atmosphere in which no one would want to deceive. The most serious transgressions have a certain background, which is not seen if you do not try to talk. Talk about yourself - how you yourself regulate unpleasant situations, meet with defeats, problems, how to correct your mistakes. Take an interest in children's lives. If you had to lie in front of the children, be sure to explain why you did it, what you were guided by.
Be honest with yourself and you will not have to think about how to teach your child to lie. Encourage the truth, especially when it is not easy to tell. Be sensitive to everything, explain what is wrong and what is good. Think about what needs to be changed to solve the problem. This is the key to a good, trustworthy relationship between you and your child - both now and in the future!