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Do you have such a mentality that whenever you want to make something that you have been waiting for a long time, you always want to be encouraged, recognized, and supported.
But often what you want to do is usually not optimistic about the public, so in a questioning voice, you silently give up.
But wonderful people can walk alone through a path that is not recognized.
I remember three years ago, I had a friend who decided to resign and start a business in a foreign country. At that time everyone opposed him.
Because his work at the time was stable, his salary was good, and he said that it was difficult to go out.
Faced with the disappointment of the family, the dissuasion of the friend, the break of the girlfriend, he has not wavered, nor is he completely sure that this trip will succeed.
Even he knows very well that once he decides to leave, he will never have a retreat.
However, he still has the courage to hold on to the shackles of the boat, and it is necessary to try it.
After he went to the field, he learned to take care of himself, learned a person to cheer for himself, and learned that even if people are obstructed, they must be determined to move forward.
After five years of hard work, he finally broke his head and took out his own day in the field.
Some people say that hard work is a very difficult thing. If there is no encouragement from others, it will be even more difficult.
But the real effort never takes advantage of external power, because when one knows what he wants to do,
And when he made up his mind to do this, at that time, his biggest enemy was himself.
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In fact, hard work is a particularly lonely thing. It requires you to have a strong inner heart and to rely on tenacious will to unnervingly achieve your goals.
If you can't give yourself this kind of power, then even if others give you more attention, help, and assistance, it is in vain.
I remember last week, a reader gave me a message saying that she likes writing very much, and she has a little talent and talent, but because many people persuade her,
Writing doesn't make much sense. It can't be promoted or raised, so she is very entangled. She doesn't know if she wants to continue writing down?
If I used to encounter such a problem, I would persuade her to give up my dreams and not be influenced by others.
But now, I have refused to say that I really don't think it is suitable for writing. Maybe you think that I am a bit unrequited, my reasons are:
First, when a person truly loves writing, he will not seek the opinions of others, or even care too much about others' opinions.
Second, hard work is your own business. Don't try to find other people's understanding, you have to do it.
Third, if you don't even believe in yourself, if you can't stand this blow, then such people will not go too far on the road of writing.
Many people have used excuses to say that I am not trying not to do it because others are not optimistic. Everyone says that it is not feasible. No one can support me.
Maybe when your efforts are supported by external forces, you will be more moral, but if you don't, you don't have to be discouraged, disappointed, and doubt yourself.
Because one day you will understand that real efforts come from your own awakening.
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In life, some people, as long as they are affirmed, will try their best to work hard.
But once the outside world no longer pays attention to him, he will be like a deflated ball, and instantly lose the motivation to move forward.
And some people, like the charging treasure with their own light source, even a person, can go forward without any retreat.
I have two classmates, a and c. A few years ago, two people decided to take a postgraduate exam. In fact, the strength of both people is quite the same, but the last test is only c.
When I first decided to take the test, my relatives and friends gave her strength.
Whenever she occasionally encourages her, she will make an explosive effort like a chicken blood, but when others stop paying attention to her, she gradually relaxes.
The classmate c, the family is not good, when the parents know that she still wants to continue studying, they all expressed their opposition.
However, under the psychological pressure of her, she still follows the plan of her own, one step at a time,
Been Never disturbed by external factors, and no need to praise others, even ignore the ridicule of others,
A person goes to review, read a book, take notes, and live himself into a single-handed warrior.
In fact, when you are determined to work hard for something, you are destined to learn to walk alone.
There may be occasional flower applause on the road, but more often, the setbacks on the road, the tedious repetitions of day after day, you need to bear it alone.
The power that others give you can only be regarded as an icing on the cake, but you can't send carbon in the fire. And one's the most powerful support is always on himself.
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In fact, efforts have always been a very bitter thing. Many people are eager to rely on the encouragement of others to alleviate their psychological pressure. They are also eager to get a little comfort and hope from the affirmation of others.
But you have to understand that no one can always support your decision, even if parents are no exception. If a person wants to do something, he can't go around the aura at all times.
I remember that Long Qinghai once said: "Life is actually like a road from the broad plain into the forest. On the plains, the companions can join and happily push forward and squeeze each other;
Once in the forest, the grass and the thorns blocked the road, the situation changed, and everyone concentrated on the path of each person, looking for the direction of each person. ”
You have to learn that even if one is in the dark, rely on the mind of the heart to find the exit and the gleam.
Maybe when you succeed, everyone will cast an envious look. But when you are still on your way, you have to get used to one person facing the unknown.
But no one who succeeds, almost no one, not relying on his own strength, to advance hard.
If we are on the way forward, it is doomed to give you the comfort, encouragement, and affirmation you want, then can you learn to work hard, go alone, walk alone, one person is burdened, one is not afraid Fear, no panic, no rush to sail.