The beginning is here
Everything in the world has to be paid for. Not always with money, but more often with deeds.
Living with a woman without taking responsibility for her is not like a man. And to agree to it is not in a woman's way.
For a man, it's like robbing a bank, taking someone else's things without asking and using them. For a woman - the same thing that to give all the most expensive and necessary to the first person he meets just like that and then to cover the criminal. That is - complicity in the crime.
It is silly to do a woman's duty to those who have not even married you. It's the same as starting a business with a friend without papers, investing a lot of money and energy there, and then hoping that you will not be abandoned in this place, and friendship will not collapse. Of course, there are such examples, but they are negligible. When a person has the opportunity to get personal benefit, and the conscience is poorly developed - he will choose the benefit instead of relationships. A man with a developed conscience will not even offer this.
All relationships are crises and lapping. If you are not bound by anything at this time - there are no obligations and vows of loyalty - it is so easy to escape to another place where the grass seems greener.
If you do your wife's duty to someone who hasn't taken responsibility for you, you dig your own grave:
- You corrupt a man. Why should you be responsible if everybody is given the responsibility? And the less responsibility a man has, the less responsibility he has.
- You drive him into debt, and one day the debt will become so great that he has to leave.
- You are wasting your own godliness, which is very necessary to get married.
- You are rapidly reducing your chances of marrying this man. He simply has no reason to marry you.
- You waste your own time and energy, your own beauty and youth in vain, you throw your own energy and potential away.
- You are tied to a man, after a year of cohabitation he becomes your "husband" in terms of energy connections, so the gap will be painful.
- You do not give the world a chance to give you normal relations - another man, in this case, will not be able to penetrate in any way into your world, and the existing man can hang in the status like the husband for years and decades.
Do not do it! When I conducted different courses online for girls, we took only those who are already married to the course for wives. And even checked the official status, refused many people. Although it seemed to them that civil marriage was the same, it wasn't. Far from it.
This kind of cohabitation is a mine that will definitely blow up, it is unclear only when and how. There are cases when all this ended well - happy marriage, family, children. But their minority. Unfortunately. There are many more cases when a woman's heart is broken, she is left alone in a broken trough (with a child as well), spending her youth in a way that is incomprehensible to her husband or somewhere else she has got married, but deep resentment has remained, and it is unbearably difficult to live together.
If you are dating a man, take your time to be his wife. Enjoy the status of a bride. Take courtship. Decide whether you want this life or not. Communicate, walk. You can treat him sometimes with your pies, but do not have to feed him three times a day and wash his socks. Especially since you won't have a second such period in your life with him anymore. There will be other pleasant moments, but this candy bouquet is special. It is him you will remember in times of crisis.
When a man wants a woman and cares for her, he learns to appreciate her in this way. The longer and harder the test, the harder it is for him to give it up. It was too expensive for him to take it and give it up.
When a man wants a woman, she has a special feeling inside - I am worthy of it, I can be loved! She is imbued with gratitude to him. And her memory of it helps her in difficult times.
The stage of courtship is very important for both of us. If you fly it fast and start living together right away, you will lose a lot. Both.
So you don't have to become a wife before you officially became a wife. Be a bride. Take care of him, but not as a wife, but as a bride. Take courtship. Get to know each other better to see if you are ready to live with him your whole life.