Unmarried girls always ask the same question (and many people don't ask, but immediately start raking): "If he's not my husband, I still have to do the same thing you write about for your wives?"
Still, it is logical - we live together, it means as if the husband. Or even just meet, but I want to marry him! I will serve as hard as I can, wash my socks and cook his breakfast lunch and dinner, nourish him with energy, inspire him...
But my answer is no! Absolutely not! Absolutely not! A roommate is a "kind of" husband. As if - does not count. The groom is another category of man. It is not the husband yet.
If your relationship is not very dear to you if you do not like yourself very much or do not want to get married - try it, follow all the recommendations for wives. But the effect can be - with a high probability - the opposite. The man will be bold, and the relationship will begin to collapse. Because they have no balance, no harmony.
Balance of responsibility
Duties are the areas of responsibility of men and women in family life. And in order for relationships and psyche of spouses not to be destroyed, they must be in balance or at least about that. If you start to give the man what is supposed to give to the husband, this very balance is broken.
To a greater extent, I would like to address those who think about living first, and there we will see. With those who are already confused inside this event, I want to talk separately.
The husband is the one who took responsibility for you. Who is not difficult and not afraid to put a signature in the registry office. Who is not sorry and share his last name.
And also the one who is not afraid even in the temple to exchange vows without the right to divorce. This is the husband. A real husband who is worthy to become his wife. And to fulfil his female duty, to feed him with his energy, to give birth to children from him.
The one you live with, meet and so on is not your husband. The maximum is the groom. At least - an irresponsible companion who wants to use a woman, and is afraid of responsibility (of course, here and your "merit" is). Or something in the middle.
Here it is worth looking at yourself again and thinking, why did you get into this situation? And how can you get out of it? As Satya says: "Civic marriage (i.e. cohabitation) is an alliance of a woman with low self-esteem and a man with low responsibility. Therefore, two things should be understood:
He is not your husband. Don't be under the illusion. He did not take responsibility for you. And besides, men living with a woman often consider themselves free.
What do you have with self-esteem? And why do you allow this (cohabitation)? What makes you think you can do this to yourself?
And with self-esteem, girls from civil marriages usually do not have a good life. They have a lot of fears and worries.
They are already attached to a man, especially if they have already had sex. Breaking up with him is already a huge pain. That's why they want to avoid pain. In any way. And even if it is not very good with him, they tolerate and hope.
They are afraid to meet anyone else and never meet again. And to be alone for the rest of their lives.
They are easily compelled by a man because of their gullibility, not knowing how to answer questions like "we're fine, why do we need a stamp? Without knowing the answer, they agree and pretend that they really are so good.
And yes, they don't know why they need a stamp, and they are afraid of marriage as a fire because of their injuries.
Girls, you're not just some "aunt" there. You are a woman. You are a jewel. Vedas says that his wife is his husband's main treasure. You are a treasure, not some garbage. Agreeing to cohabitation is like taking a diamond and wrapping it in garbage and pretending it's okay. But not okay! A diamond needs a decent setting - made of no less precious metal. Then everything will be in its place.
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