The Internet is full of work on how to distinguish the truth from lies in the movements of the eyes, lengthening nose and other mimicry joys. I decided to throw my five kopecks into the solution of this issue, too. There is an expression: beauty in the eyes of the beholder. I don't know anything about beauty, but here is a lie, made exactly in the ears of the listener and the believer. The problem is not that we are skillfully lied to, but that we readily believe in these streams of lies, "I am glad to be deceived myself," and that's all...
I've already written repeatedly that our brains are forged into a very energy-saving organ by evolution. The truth can force us to act, which of course is not to the taste of our lazy head. Therefore, we are ready to believe in any nonsense, from sovereign democracy to "it hasn't cheated on me" with all the stops alphabetically, just to do nothing. My first thesis is primitive and simple - we are willing to deceive ourselves if the lies help us do nothing and keep our favorite status quo.
The second point is no harder than the first one - the truth, as we know, stabs our eyes. Suppose I tell you that people have 6 arms and 5 legs. The best I can count on in return is that you turn your finger on the temple, and there is no emotion in the obvious lie. The statement that people have 2 arms and 2 legs is unlikely to cause a strong emotional reaction of the interlocutor, we don't care about the obvious truth either. It is quite another matter, if the truth is unacceptable for us ... Let's assume that there is a man whose wife cheats on him. The head of such a person, as a rule, guesses about betrayal, but energy-saving brain prefers not to notice such things, because they will have to react to them, spending precious energy, time and energy. And now I tell him the truth from the series "I can't be silent", they say your spouse is your woman walking. Is that what will happen? Right, I will have a new enemy, and the one to whom I say it will have a flurry of negative emotions. Something like that happens during the dream analysis. If my head "dreamed" of a dream that caused negative emotions, I think it's quite obvious that the brain reacted through such a dream with something completely unacceptable and unpleasant. Correspondingly, the interpretation should cause emotions with a negative sign in a person. If he responds to your interpretation sluggishly yawning shrugging his shoulders, it means the mistake came out dear comrade, we continue our analytical research.
Hence several conclusions. First, we are deceived not because the liar is skilful, but because we want to believe that we keep the balance of our lives. Secondly, it is useless to try to catch a liar by mimicry not only because it doesn't work, but also because we are going to catch him by the brain, which wants him to be deceived. Third, the truth about what we don't want to realize is always (!) deeply negative emotions. These same emotions are the built-in lie detector in our heads.
And finally, fourthly, if you are going to deceive someone, you have to lie about what will help to reduce the tension in the head and save biological energy, that is, will allow you to sit on the couch without doing anything. Are you still alone? You do not need to spend time and money on the right food, cosmetologists, psychotherapists, do not need to force yourself to go on dates and develop new communication skills. The problem is found, you are jinxed, spoiled and crowned with celibacy. Just pay the kind sorceress a thousand rubles, and she will solve all your problems by giving you a magic cap made of magic foil. Here is the simplest example of a primitive fraudulent lie, which we regularly meet in our daily lives.
Oh, yes, one more thing, as the unforgettable comrade House said, everybody lies... If a lie reduces tension, a person is likely to make a deal with his conscience and lie. So the problem is not that we are being lied to, but that our heads are used to being deceived. If we stop avoiding negative emotions, teach the brain to meet the challenges, doing what we don't want to do regularly, it will be much harder to deceive us. It is not necessary to consider that bad people lie, lie everything and from the point of view of evolution lie quite profitable strategy, provided that it is not the only one in our arsenal of skills and tools ...
