Apart from the subpersonalities, there are many other things remarkable in a person's personality. For example, the phenomenon of self-identification.
In fact, this is a phenomenon or an object to which we not only relate, but also include them. On the one hand, nothing terrible happens. We must somehow estimate how much and what suits us and how we treat it. We go to certain shops, parks, restaurants and for us it is not just a part of our lives. We buy things and meet people, and they become not just objects and bodies, but something more important to us. This is a normal process of interaction between personality and environment. But in this case, we just kind of put this environment to ourselves, and it leaves a mark on us, we get experience and impressions.
However, some phenomena not only leave a mark, but also become almost a part of the personality. Or one of the subpersonalities can capture something from the outside and appropriate it. Then it can be very difficult to tear it out of the legs. For example, the car becomes not a means of transportation, and a big toy in the hands of the "child who plays", who no longer thinks without her existence. Candy and sweets can love a child who feels. And then who needs what - raid, "women flowers, children ice cream. On the one hand, it seems to be all a good thing, all subpersonalities are happy. To whom the machine, to whom flowers. But on the other hand, the possession of the object is not always what you really need. For example, you do not need candy, but attention and love. But with the latter, there is no way out and sweets firmly occupy the vacant position. They become as if part of the personality, which seems to be impossible to change. Man identifies himself as a lover of sweets, and thus sweets, what should always be at hand, as an attribute of the sweet tooth.
Of course, not all sweet toothpastes were disliked by their mother in childhood. Some inclinations may be just inclinations and character traits. But the trait of character can be distinguished from identification by the fact that if a person tries to take away what hour he identifies himself or, even he is at risk of a situation where the object disappears from his life, he will be strongly resistant and in every possible way to demonstrate anger and frustration. The prospect of losing the sweetness kills him because in this case, an empty space that was intended for love and attention will be freed up, and there will be nothing to put there. No love, no attention, only an empty hole. If there is no identification with sweetness, then: "Well, I love candy, but if they aren't there, I live in peace. There will be sweets, I will eat them.
You can immediately remember a lot of such cases when people get emotionally attached to something. Well, life is simply impossible without it. You don't have to be addicted to this subject, but without it, life will look like a hen in his eyes. You don't have to be an alcoholic, but you don't have to think about a meal without a bottle. Well, at least half a glass of wine to drink, otherwise ... it's not a holiday as if! Such a place in life can take a car, jewelry, hobby, furniture, blog, apartment.
Among other things, people react very painfully when the object of identification is somehow negative, and even simply do not evaluate it positively. They rush to defend it as themselves from death. Try to tell the enthusiastic lover of a certain type of wine that you do not like it. It is possible to receive in the answer such rebuke that not enough will seem. Because dissatisfaction with wine is perceived not as an opinion, but as an attack on a person.
Often a person can spend time cherishing the subject of identification. Discuss how good he is, how beautiful he is, how many positive qualities and properties he has.
In general, if you thicken the paint and get to the grotesque, the man with the identification of himself with objects similar to Gorlum and his ring "beauty".
But not everything is so hard and scary. Most people don't get to the state of Hollum, but have quite a few identification objects that cover the empty spaces of their unmet needs. And it seems to be possible to live like this. Well, you don't love your husband, but you love raisin buns... you don't realize yourself at work, you go fishing... you don't feel protected, you buy a lot of unnecessary stuff. These things seem to complement life and balance everything. They correct the blurred self-concept... But. Things are such that they are not eternal and they can be lost. People are afraid of it, and begin to concentrate more on things, buy them more and more often. So to say, they clutter the inner needs. Their personality turns into a kind of apartment choardera (hoarder, collecting items from the dumpster in his home)
When it comes to addressing these very inner needs, people sometimes have to go through the maze of identities to meet them. It turns out that you don't need a diamond anniversary ring, but attention and love. Not an ironed shirt as such, but a sense of need and significance for others. But, you understand that shirts and rings are not really enough to satisfy your needs.