Recently I spoke to a man who made the following statement. He believes that depression should not be diagnosed before a person stops watching and getting out of bed. Otherwise people will be completely spoiled.
Everyone's depressed right now. Maybe there is depression, but as soon as someone finds out about his diagnosis, he starts to avoid work. They say I'm depressed, and I'm supposed to be lying on the couch and spitting in the ceiling. If a person cannot get up at all, it is a valid reason. Until then, you have to go to work, do things at home and not whine.
Of course, most people who are far from understanding mental illness believe that nothing has happened to them as long as all parts of the body work and tests are good. More or less, in recent years people have come to understand that a person can be depressed with moderate levels of depression before they lay low. Then he is not sleeping well, he is in a bad mood, he is not happy and he thinks badly about himself (that he is worthless, stupid, unlucky, burdensome, etc.).
But even earlier, thee is a slight depression. If you put an adjective "mild" to the name of any disease, then in the eyes of the public the condition becomes frivolous, such that you can simply ignore it. Bad mood? And who is it easy for now? Everybody has work-home children. So you live like everybody else, you have the same problems, and you are no different from others.
But, nevertheless, people with a slight degree of depression are different from others, despite the presence of the same "child home work". They, in the presence of the same living conditions, are much more stressed by them. Pure depression is not so common recently. In the vast majority of cases it is accompanied by anxiety. Any trouble at home or at work puts people with a slight degree of depression in shock and panic. A catastrophe is beginning to be predicted in the head. Life seems to be starting to fall apart. Has the boss expressed dissatisfaction with the work? Everything, now he hates me, thinks I'm a fool, plans to fire me, and there no one else will hire me, my wife will leave me, I'll die under the fence.
And even on days when there are no special changes, people with slight depression are crushed by thoughts that it will happen now, but I'm not ready, I can't cope. They are overwhelmed with work and stressed out, even on the simplest of tasks. Because ... if there is a puncture, everything will fly upside down.
It cannot be said that a slight depression completely takes a person to the field of negative vision of the world. Paradoxically, people, on the contrary, begin to look at things more realistically. Normally (norm in relation to the mood) people tend to love themselves more, and this is associated with a number of psychological effects of perception. So healthy people more often look for problems not in themselves, but in others, tend to trust themselves and less doubt the results of their work, consider themselves "good and right". It is not the case with mild depression. A person begins to see that a lot depends on him or her, and that he or she is not 100% able to cope with certain problems that may occur as a result of one or another behavior. In other words, a person with a normal mood background who has not completed the task is more likely to hope that he or she will somehow slip through or think about what to do. The depressed person will be worried because he knows for a fact that he may not be able to skip or turn around and think on the spot.
People with mild depression very often have communication problems. They feel that they cannot communicate with others. They get bored quickly, and they get bored, and the conversation makes them tense. The thought of doing something else begins, and you want to get away from the interaction. They respond in a simple way, because there is nothing to talk about. If you can answer shorter, why answer long. The topics for discussion are rarely offered, fearing that no one is interested in it, and if we talk about what, it is too long. And in general, they often start to look for negative connotations and negative connotations in communication with others. They think that they strain the interlocutor that he wants to escape from them, they themselves say something stupid, inappropriate. It is true that when depressed people get nervous in the process of communication, behave anxiously, not wanting to respond briefly, people around them perceive that they do not want to communicate with them. Next time and will not fit more.
People who are mildly depressed are more likely to give out anger outbreaks and behave aggressively. Taking into account that they have a more reduced background mood than necessary, and the reaction to what is happening in them is much brighter for outsiders. For the depressed themselves, such attacks do not always seem unreasonable. They are more often yelling at children, more often irritated by everything that happens next door, more often offended and upset.
In this state, there is also an anhedonia, a lack of satisfaction. It is not so pronounced that a person does not like or enjoy anything, but there is a constant feeling that the grass used to be greener, that their dreams have not come true, their lives are boring. And even if everything changes drastically, again, after a short period of time, everything returns to its original state of mind. In general, as life does not change, all the same.
However, in this state people find it difficult to take any cardinal steps, to resist stress, to overcome obstacles. If a person sees that there will be obstacles, then, even though small movements will bring significant dividends, he refuses to change something in life.
A person is mildly depressed, chronically dissatisfied with his life. Everyone in the family irritates him, he feels that he is not getting love and warmth here. He himself is not able to give anything, either. At work, he is not appreciated or recognized. He works hard, but is too overwhelmed with emotion on every detail. This work pulls out of him all the veins and he hardly manages to make the minimum. He also lives in a crappy neighborhood of a crappy city and a crappy country. That's because he can't live elsewhere and he doesn't have enough money to leave. It's not interesting with his neighbors and colleagues. I would have found a hobby, but nothing interesting.
That is, yes, there is nothing to give to such a person for "sick leave". He can go to work formally. But the situation is such that his quality of life suffers a lot. And no one promises that he will always remain mildly depressed. When the circumstances of life twist stronger, and the depression is more exciting. Depression, of any degree of severity, is also a great blossomer of other disorders - addictions, phobias, behavioral disorders, etc.
Many people believe that if you give an antidepressant box to everyone in such cases, life in the country will get better. Indeed, antidepressants can break the vicious circle and give a person an opportunity to make a breakthrough out of circumstances, change their lives. However, the pills themselves never solve problems. Of course, it is easy to tell a dissatisfied wife that she is depressed and needs to see a psychiatrist. But even if she goes and her depression diminishes, marriage problems will not be solved. Marriage problems are more likely to cause depression than the other way around. Emotional violence at work leads to depression in workers. That is, it does not happen because the only types of depression that go to work are depression.