There are several phenomena in the mental life of a person, which the vast majority attribute to the component of sexuality. If people ask what "passion" is, many people will not hesitate to answer that it is such a strong love. Directly love-live-life-can't-can't. However, then they notice that there is another meaning - "passion for some cause".
Wallerland (2008) defined passion as a strong propensity for a particular purposeful activity or subject. In addition, passion is colored by strong emotional experiences, which can be both positive and negative.
Love or sexual passion is not so much welcomed by people. There is an adjective that is "attached" to the passion, "crazy". And there is something crazy and unpleasant about it. Many people agree to have a passionate partner, but not 24/7, but sometimes.
But the passion for a cause, the masses are much more concerned. Many people believe that if you do something professional without passion, it means that you just waste your time. It's just not serious, so you have to give it up immediately. And you're, like, just a liar and a pretender who pretends to be a professional.
On the one hand, there is some truth in this. People who are passionately fond of their business or profession are much more satisfied with it, and do better. On the other hand, if there is no passion, it does not mean that the case should be abandoned.
Yes, and the passion of passion discord. Allocate passion harmonious and obsessive passion. In the first case, passion covers the whole personality, and the person is psychologically dissolved in the process. And this is not a horror, but a way out of the map of the world, the creative process, which creates a radically new objects and ideas. That is, it is one of the necessary properties of creativity.
In the second case, passion is the cause of suffering. A person is under pressure from conditions and circumstances. He "has to" do something, because if he stops giving in to passion, then he has a strong increase in anxiety. This is a departure from reality and the solution of their problems, a kind of dependence. Here, creativity and self-expression are very tight. Innovation is quite possible, but the scope is not the same. And besides, in this case a person very often "burns down", he has failures in performance and nervous breakdown. Then a person starts sawing himself because "not a day without a stitch", and if the stitch is not there, you are not a creator, but a fake. Next, the person drags himself on the path of creativity and "creates" from under the stick to a new breakdown.
It is believed that the presence of passion in a person is something innate or a product of hard work. If you dip yourself in the face of "favorite business", saying, "I will make your country love you," then eventually you will find in the business and pleasure. In fact, people accustom themselves to dipping face more than to their favorite business and it is there that they find pleasure. But it does not improve professional activity by a gram.
And if you did not get the passion to inherit, then the genes from a neighbor to wear, so your fate - a statistician and a cog in the car of life, which is at the helm of a completely different people.
People do a lot of things in order to kill passion, and not an accurate shot, and beat her for years to death. A lot of energy is invested in this process. Again, let's turn to childhood. Many children are evaluated by parents not quite mentally healthy, if suddenly they start to do something very long and persistently.
The kid's been building something out of cubes all day, and it's causing Mom's anxiety. The house has cars, soft toys, why is it stuck on the dice? After all, it is necessary to develop all-round!
Reads the same book? Meanwhile, the house has a whole library! It's time to read something more advanced. Tolstoy is bored on the shelf.
Does he like one circle or a section? What about diversity? And still little poetry child knows, plays little in the mobile games, etc.
In general, the child loses precious time in childhood, when the brain is still capable of much in vain and this must be resisted.
"Loss of time" is a very adult concept. In the process of creative activity the sense of time disappears. This is not very important for the child. Children often regret only that the evening has come, and it is time to go home for dinner. Fear of not having time or losing control limits the possibility of developing a state of passion and passion.
But the ability to passion does not disappear. This feeling is very much related to our deep, true self and authenticity. Passion for the cause can be fully developed. How can this be done?
- It is necessary to bring positive feelings and find advantages in everything you do. In fact, most activities can be quite neutral and even enjoyable if you stop being negative and stop saying unpleasant things to yourself. If you say to yourself that "I hate", "it's such a shame", etc., it takes much more energy than finding the positive and beneficial effects of the activity. Yes, it is possible not to love a thing. But if it happens that you don't like doing something, you have to stop doing it and not drill your brain with negativity. If it is not possible to stop right now, you should start building a plan to solve this problem.
- To find what you really like, you should try a lot and not be afraid to do it. Don't nail yourself down as Jesus Christ was nailed down by your enemies. Even he suffered for a limited time. Often people not only give up the cross somehow, but also actively resist it, protect their cross, so that no one, God forbid, does not occupy it. And then the nails back to themselves in their limbs pinned down.
- Many people imagine passion as a fiery element. But the element it is purposeful, it has to throw firewood in it, or it will go out. Wood is a certain achievement. They are the ones who feed the passion. Set yourself in any case, real clear bars and create real plans. If you will be guided immediately by the beyond, then you expect a lot of failures and disappointments. You will reach the bars, nobody forbids you to move it higher.
- Passion is one thing, but do not forget about perseverance. In any case, you need to make a certain amount of effort. Just so nothing works out. Waiting for fast results kills the pleasure of the process.
- It is necessary to encourage the development of independence. Yes, people have idols that have reached the heights of passion, but this does not mean that everyone has the same creative path. Many people limit themselves to the experience and views of the authorities. If Ivan Ivanovich did not use it in his creative and professional way, it does not mean that you do not need to do it. Support yourself and praise in every possible way that you go your own way and lay your own paths in the forest of life. All the other berry mushrooms have been gathered around the paths of others, there is nothing there anymore, and that is why it is not very interesting.
- Accept yourself as normal, even if you are different from the average person. The difference is a big plus, which allows you to do a lot of new and exciting. New and untried by anyone is much more exciting than a blind repetition of the old and famous.
- Do not beat or humiliate yourself for failures. They happen at all. If you accustom yourself to the fact that failure attracts punishment, it is very difficult to immerse yourself in some activity with the head.