I am contacted by clients who are at different "stages of style" (a term that most accurately determines their condition). Someone is absolutely real and properly down to earth in their wardrobe requests. But someone was seriously taken away from reality, and for a safe return, you have to use the tools laid down in the principle of phasing.
For example, imagine a girl from the gray mouse series. Her wardrobe consists mainly of gray-black colors, a pale flower, a black and white bag, several knitted turtlenecks, one pair of shoes for any occasion, and so on. There are no high-quality makeup skills; hair is tied in a ponytail or with the help of a “crab”. Presented? Fine. So, if at this stage this girl will turn to me for help and declare that she needs to look fashionable - nothing will work. She will not draw a fashionable image, purely by internal feelings, since several stages of creating a personal style have been missed at once.
Each process of our life is subject to a cycle of sequential actions, in compliance with which you can get a harmonious result. It is harmonious in external and internal manifestations. If you disrupt the sequence of actions and jump over the step ahead of time, then the inner and the outer will be at different levels, which will lead to disruption. This is if briefly and in general terms. This article can serve as a guide to action for everyone, regardless of what stage he is currently at. The important thing is not the quick achievement of the desired image, but the quality and informed living of each moment of improvement. This can take years, which must be gratefully relished, enjoying your competence. It's nice try.
FIRST STAGE - CHAOS
A period of overt zero. It is necessary in order to analyze existing mistakes and victories. It is common for a person to get used to and, over time, find convenient excuses for his inaction. So, the first stage contributes to the uncomfortable recognition of both harmful and useful skills in forming a wardrobe. This is a complete revision of the wardrobe, alone or with the help of a stylist. Such wardrobes consist of individual items bought for what you liked (in color, for quilling, nice fabric). Many of them lay dead weight for several months, years, instilling a faint hope of being used. The owner of such a wardrobe puts the same things into holes. Their number, as a rule, does not exceed 10, he calls them beloved and comfortable.
Going every time for shopping, he is misleading that this time bought things will solve all problems at once. But for some reason, a miracle does not occur and the groundhog day comes. Then comes helplessness, quick fatigue, dissatisfaction with their reflection and, as a result, insecurity. To this state it is necessary (very necessary) to mature. For example, to tire and exhaust, to feel the state of chaos in your own closet. Feel the power of things over yourself and acknowledge your submission to them. One must be seriously angry with them and declare war. Consciously! Only in this mood can we begin the process of a new formation of ourselves through appearance and proceed to the second stage.
SECOND STAGE - STYLISH AND,
if many took decades to create chaos, then I recommend taking a maximum of 2 years to the stage of creating style. This time, with quality implementation, is enough to gain new skills and consolidate them in practice. Moreover, before that, we got angry, cleared the site and yearn for new adventures. In other words, you missed yourself beautiful. For this stage, we need style tools, namely: - knowledge of our own shades in clothes - nuances of our physique (where we reduce, where we add) - textures that will help make dignity more obvious - prints (large, small, horizontal, vertical) - shape neckline, pockets, lapels (figure geometry) Why 2 years? Because, if you initially take the client in a state of chaos, it will be difficult for him to take into account in practice all of the above laws of style.
You need to get used to it. New skills should be fixed constantly, in all seasons (winter, summer and so on) and situations (in sets for work, vacation, days off). It is forbidden to be stylish only at work, ignoring the home kit. It's like going to a workout and eating, after it, pasta with creamy sauce. There will be no result. The development of skills requires full inclusion and thoughtfulness. Moreover, this is only the first gray matter will be used to its full potential.
Later, knowledge will develop into a pleasant habit and the hand itself will “take” only the right things. Like driving skills. The first year we think, and then just go. Of course, the second stage will be more comfortable if there is a stylist nearby who will take on the function of selecting clothes according to the laws of style. For example, I have enough examples when a woman or a man, after several joint shopping, becomes completely independent in the selection of clothes. So, the second stage is necessary in order to change your old habits to new ones. For this, you need to strictly take into account your physical data and subordinate clothes under them. Thus, we gain power over things - we allow them to our wardrobe or calmly reject them. Realizing, at the same time, the reasons for his decision.
At one time, this completely reversed my understanding of the value of things. It became clear who was the boss in the wardrobe. By the way, you can not think about fashion at this stage. It will be sufficient that we will buy things for our physical data in modern shopping centers (mass market, boutiques). And with fashion and trends they have everything in order. Therefore, we will leave the fashion for later, and we will take care of putting things in order in the wardrobe. At this stage, it is much more important.
I almost forgot - we don’t go to the market, to local department stores, to private shops and online stores. We will get to them only when we develop recognizability of our things to automatism. "Train the eye" on the right shades, shapes, textures.
THIRD STAGE - CREATING IMAGES
Initially, I planned to combine it with the second stage, but it became obvious that this is a separate skill, which I want to learn more about and deeper. We are talking about the principle of creating kits and subjecting them to your lifestyle. Why is wardrobe chaos? Because the habit has developed to buy individual things (like, there was a discount, the sellers persuaded). The paradox is that we do not wear separate things. Before leaving the house, we always put on the top, bottom and a whole arsenal of gadgets.
So why on shopping do we allow ourselves to buy separately the top from the bottom, striding for emotions? After the thing is analyzed according to the laws of style and ideally set on the figure, it requires a continuation of the brainstorming. Now is the time to ask yourself questions like - what can you put on with? And where will I go and what impression will I make? At this stage, you need to learn how to “think in sets”, which will allow you to collect, with a minimum number of things, the maximum number of sets. The fewer things in the wardrobe, the more options - no matter how strange it sounds. Fewer things allow us to fully control things. We become managers of our wardrobes.
And, on the contrary, a large number of things provokes a situation when there is nothing to put on. You need to strive not for the number of things, but for the number of completed sets. Without the third stage to the fourth, there is no point in going out - there will be a resonance. For example, I will ignore the thing that will participate in only one set. Too chic! If a thing gets into my wardrobe, then its participation is determined by at least three sets. More often this figure reaches 10-12.
I like to wear things throughout the year. In working with clients I pursue the same principle, automatically thinking over - where, with what and at what time will this blouse be worn?
Perhaps that is why it is completely useless for me to ask questions like - "where in our city you can buy a silk dress?". To one such question I will ask 10 people I meet - where, for what case, how old are you, what is with your figure, what is the budget, and so on. It is precisely such a principle that needs to be developed for things. The stage of creating complete sets, along with the stage of style can take up to 2 years. The requirements are the same - compliance with the rules in all seasons and for all situations. Bringing to automatism.
How is weak different from strong? Both can create chaos (in the wardrobe, in a relationship). Only one will get used to them and become related for life, and the second will rebel and arrange a test for himself, having received the influence, smartly completed sets and a stylish image of himself. Everyone has one beginning, but the end is highly dependent on willpower. It's like quitting smoking and starting to breathe deeply. Not everyone dares.
THE FOURTH STAGE - FASHION
If you mentally return to the initial data using the example of a "gray mouse", then only after the previous three stages (awareness, style and completeness of sets) can you begin to look towards fashion trends. By this time, a decent pack of skills to improve their appearance with the help of clothes will be collected. Plus, during these 2 years we train ourselves in the art of applying makeup, find an amazing manicurist and are friends with a competent hairdresser who takes care of our hair.
This is a minimum program! After this time (and it will fly by quickly and interestingly, if you try hard and not play a bit), we make this very stylish, basic wardrobe, also fashionable, inscribing the latest trends into it. Discovering new images.
What will happen if the second and third stages are passed? It will be funny and ridiculous. A person who has not learned the internal order will not be able to look spectacular. Appearance is discipline and cold mind. When forming your own style, you must be guided by male goal-setting, connect female intuition and practice the laws of style. Only under these conditions there are chances to put passers-by in stacks and see the desired reflection in the mirror. And this is a complete cycle of creating your own style from the image of the "gray mouse" to the effect, with any physical data.
By the way, as a child, I heard a phrase with which I agree and am ready to supplement my observations. And I heard the following - "There are no ugly people." Supplemented - "There are groomed." And this is a matter of discipline and desire. I do not recommend getting stuck in the second and third stages, either. Style should be defined, formed and developed to the habit.
Next, you must connect the mod. With this phenomenon, it will never be boring, since it is fleeting and keeps all areas of our life in constant dynamics (which is why we keep it at a distance during the 2nd and 3rd stages to surrender to it completely on the 4th) .