Isn't it true that many women already suck in their female sense of duty with breast milk? No wonder, considering that the upbringing of girls over centuries and millennia was designed to serve women and determine the men (over them).
But even in our time – and even in our Western culture-there are far more women than men who can be emotionally blackmailed by a sense of Duty or guilt. And once we think about how subtle Manipulation works, one thing becomes clear to us: without false sense of duty, without guilt and without purposeful felling of fears, Manipulation would not work at all!
MANY WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF…
- rejected
- dropped
- not being loved
- not used
- violate
- not estimated
- not perceived
- not appreciated
- not important, or
- because of another to be left.
And that is precisely what the one who wants to make women morose or manipulate. Emotional dependence by fueling fears is one of the most common measures to enforce his own desires against the will of others. Who knows exactly which buttons he must press in women to make them afraid and to bring them into a dependent or submissive role, is also able to rule over them or manipulate them.
However, some women are also afraid of the anger of others, because anger seems to attract fear magnetically. Anger is usually perceived as a feeling that has to do with confrontation, punishment, loss, or even violence – and so it is not surprising that women's anger is to avoid the other, and still say YES, even if your soul cries for the longest time, quite loudly, NO!
MANY WOMEN HAVE AN INFLATED SENSE OF DUTY
Similarly-as with the fueling of fears-it is with the Manipulation of the sense of duty, in which women can completely lose themselves, because they forget about themselves. Yes, not only selfishness (only thinking of oneself), but altruism (only thinking of others) can cause harm to the soul.
Female susceptibility to Manipulation by others is very often related to the fact that women in their childhood were strongly influenced by religious or social dogmas. How many times a raised, moralizing index finger was enough to do something they didn't want at all. Namely …
... serve for the sake of Service,
... renounce for the sake of renunciation, or
... subordinate themselves and for the sake of subordination.
MANY WOMEN HAVE EXCESSIVE FEELINGS OF GUILT
.... and that's why we need to keep in mind that women often suffer not only from their feelings of guilt, but also, in particular, from others ' feelings of guilt. The threshold of female guilt was usually kept very low in childhood by others, and so some girls were more strict moral beliefs than his brothers.
Making a guilty conscience is a very popular and widespread method of manipulation. In this context, I still remember very well the religious education that was to prepare us for the first communion of seven and eight years. We children had to depict our hearts in the religious book: a white-black stained heart when we had committed slight misconduct and a black heart when we had summoned very serious sins on us. It was only after the confession that we were allowed to paint our hearts with white color, because the confession had washed us away from our sins. That's what it's all about! And even in adulthood still ensures that woman always feels guilty. Even if she didn't blame herself.
A very effective way to make women small and docile is to accuse them of something that someone else is responsible for. So according to the Motto: A scapegoat must be found!