Quick solutions are not always the best. Many of us have long recognised this. Yet we often rush through our lives as if there was no tomorrow.
Already in school, we were trained on speed. Top results are expected in the shortest time. I still remember how the whole class began to sweat during the tests, because the volume of produced Work was pressing in a very tight time corset.
Tempo seems to have become a misinterpreted quality feature in our time, as we want to do or experience too much at once and therefore fill up our calendar up to the top. Believe me, I know what I'm writing…
But where does this madness actually lead us? How can we stop him? Or: can we even put an end to it?
HOW DO YOU TRAP FREE YOURSELF FROM THE IMPATIENCE-CAN
YOU HAVE TO BE REALISTIC
Before you break up into your components with sheer impatience, you should admit that it is usually very difficult to change something about you or in your life. Good thing just needs time-and changes need your time. Therefore, it makes little sense that you set yourself a tight time frame, for example, to take off, to play Tennis better or to learn a foreign language. Rather, it seems helpful to take the time to make the desired progress. And remember: celebrate intermediate successes!
NOT TOO MUCH AT ONCE MAKE
Especially we women are used to a daily routine, which is full of compulsory exercises: Children, Family, Partnership, Job, household, friends and leisure time are pressed into a 24-hour day and then we wonder why we can no longer feel ourselves. If we wait longer while shopping at the cash desk or get stuck in a traffic jam, the nerves are blank. If we were to review our Time Management a little more often and have some dates cut out, then we would suffer less from the "energy robber impatience".
FROM A COMPETITIVE WAY OF THINKING OFF
Let's be honest! The girlfriend creates in the same time even more than us, the neighbor conjures up a 5-course menu on the table in no time at all, the sister runs easily 15 kilometers in a Top time. And we want to keep up! We want to prove ourselves and others how good and fast we are. Perhaps we should ask ourselves better if we really need this competition? Or is our impatience towards ourselves perhaps related to a hidden self-worth problem? Only when we honestly recognize and process this, can we free ourselves from this trap.
STAGNATION AND DEAD ENDS TO ACCEPT
Do you always expect your life to stay in the river all the time? Are you freaking out when changes or other situations, pulling in an unforeseen length? Welcome to the Club! At the same time, we should bear in mind that even a stream can not always flow at the same pace: sometimes it has to fight against boulders in the river bed, sometimes it is so flat and shallow that the flow rate almost comes to a standstill. If we accept that even our flow of life and success can sometimes lose pace, or that we can get into blind alleys because they have special learning tasks for us, then we will not throw away the nerves even in stagnant situations.
OTHER THE TIME YOU NEED
Sometimes I could hop around impatiently when others can't keep my pace. (I'm not talking about jogging that's not mine.) No, I mean quick decisions, quick reactions, quick change of direction or quick perception. But is it really my responsibility to measure others at my own pace? Would it not be fairer and more expedient to accept that every person should have his or her own pace?
Quite apart from that, who says that my pace is even the right one? If we accept that others shape life at its pace, if we work on our flexibility and tolerance, then we can experience that our counterproductive impatience will turn into Patience.
The clearer you become aware of the Daily "impatient traps", the better you can avoid catching them. Because it behaves like with all the habits you want to take:
First you have to recognize them, then develop the desire to change them and finally, in small and large steps, work on putting your findings into practice.
Of course, this applies not only to you, but also to me and many other women. If patience is not your strength.... then you know you're not alone with this subject. And that's why it's up to you and all of us how we'll deal with it in the future.