What is self-awareness? The simplest and most straightforward definition is to understand yourself, to know your strengths and weaknesses and, more generally, to "know who you are."
People with good self-awareness can know exactly their strengths and weaknesses, they are not arrogant or arrogant, and fire is appropriate. This "degree" is well understood.
People with poor self-esteem can have several different manifestations. First, the "loupe" overestimates itself (revaluation). These people think that they are very "bulls" and overestimate their appearance, IQ, professional level, work efficiency, etc., and even overestimate their popularity. Second, underestimation "under the mirror". These people are very low and rate themselves too low, always concerned that they are unpopular and marginalized. Third, "haha mirror" as a misjudgment. In some ways I overestimate myself, in some aspects I underestimate myself and do not have a clear and precise understanding of myself.
A few remarks on self-awareness
In fact, most people will overestimate themselves. A related study found that people who are overly confident are more adventurous and dare to try to do what people above their level fear. If they put enough effort and luck, the probability of success will not be low. Some people have even analyzed that the competitive strategy of opinionated people is that "no dates, no one can make a slap." When others are still calculating the probability of profits and losses, self-confident people have already taken the initiative and seized the opportunity. Of course, people who overestimate themselves should pay attention to the self-development caused by past successes, or look down on others. These two mindsets will cost them.
Second, people who underestimate elves tend to be "tolerant" of praise and praise to others. There are a lot of people around us: when you praise him (her) from the heart, they strongly deny: "Where is it," "I'm still very bad," "I really can't.".. perhaps the Influence of traditional Chinese culture may lie in humility and the expression of habits on stage, and also because of the pursuit of perfection and high demands on themselves, leading to a real panic in the heart, and really feeling that they are not good enough.
Whatever the reason, people who underestimate themselves should adapt to themselves to avoid self-confidence, lack of self-confidence, fear and missed opportunities, and those who underestimate themselves should avoid becoming a critical audience and apply their high standards to others. On the body play the role of negative judgment.
People who misjudge themselves generally seem to be aligned, but it also means that the problem can be hidden because the part that causes the bias of self-awareness will also bring significant trouble and negative impact.
And looking at overall self-esteem, people are always willing to admit some flaws, but it's not easy to admit other problems. For example, it is easy to admit that you are determined and courageous, but it is not easy to admit that your logic is not strong and unclear, it is easy to admit that you have more ideas and not enough listening, but it is not easy to admit that you lack an open and equal mentality, it is easy to Not very good at management, but it's not easy to admit that he doesn't really pay attention to management and doesn't understand management ... People are not wise, but others are relatively deep (soul torture attitudes and soul values) and hard to change the Problem is that if people want to admit it, it requires deep self-denial, and it hurts to dig, so they don't want to admit it. The difficulty of self-criticism is nothing more than this.
A way to improve self-awareness
In my opinion, an accurate understanding of ourselves is a kind of" static "self-awareness, and we can also make some" dynamic " efforts to enhance self-awareness in various ways. People who are good at being aware of themselves can also do this: constantly remind themselves of what they are doing to be clear and objective, see oneself, constantly reflect on oneself, continue introspection, find causes from within (rather than attributing it to others), actively seek feedback from others. Learn from others about the true self, be prepared to explore the true self, especially the deep self, understand the motivations and root causes of their own behavior and characteristics, dare to face the true self, know how to take advantage, also take it easy. And manage your own flaws and shortcomings.
In fact, people who are self-aware can be sensitive, curious, energetic, and respectful of themselves as well as others and the world around them. Feeling gives them rich tentacles to grasp, curiosity makes them an inner urge, life force is like a constant flow of energy, maintains respect and gives them a calm heart, neither blindly admiring themselves, not losing themselves, nor
One sheet dazzles and draws a conclusion. As a leader, improving self-awareness can achieve better "self-knowledge" and thus better understand and understand the world.
To "avoid short," we need to know how to " grow up»
Undoubtedly, self-change based on a precise understanding of oneself is the most direct application of self - knowledge. People often say " to strengthen strengths and avoid weaknesses." Under the influence of Chinese culture, we are often not satisfied to avoid shortcomings, and even more so to make up for it, to change ourselves and to cause some criticism.
In my opinion, it may be advisable to correct this: first, to "recognize the short", you need to clearly perceive and recognize what you are missing. Then analyze whether this flaw is "fatal" and whether it is a stumbling block that affects your goal. If it is a stumbling block (for example, a superior ability, but no perseverance and lack of perseverance), then you should eliminate it and make a self-change. If it's not as deadly (for example, if you have an understanding of business opportunities and you have the courage to do it, you can use that ability to make up for it, you can make up for it soon. It's not a short time to catch up (like finding someone who complements you and joining a team). ), not all short should be completely redone if there are ways to deal with these shortcomings (eg: know that you are prone to brainstorming and sloppy, you should be conscious to avoid making decisions on the spot, every time you remember: "I will be Under team consultation will respond within two days ").
In addition," grow " is also very important. Western culture places more emphasis on"growth and longevity." First of all, everyone should have their own talents, but the talents of each person are different. Obviously, "growth and longevity" is more in line with human nature and can make people more stretched, more active and more confident. In the modern evolution of social values, "growth" also has a market. After all, understanding the balance between self-change and self-acceptance is the highest level of self-knowledge. It's a strange way to allow yourself to listen to him completely, it's exile and even degeneration. Too much to transform yourself, it's called obsessive-compulsive disorder, which can distort or even lose you.
Knowing that you can change, what cannot change, what should change, what should not be changed, what needs to change, that we should not change, is a kind of self-awareness, knowing in which direction to push yourself, to what extent, to what extent, Where is the boundary between advancing and retreating, collection and release, is also a kind of recognition. We can always be on the path to perfection, but we must learn to accept the imperfect self. Understanding the balance between self-change and self - acceptance is the greatest wisdom and the highest realm of self-knowledge.