"90% of the pain in the world is due to the fact that people know little about the true" I ". People cannot recognize their abilities, their shortcomings, or even their true virtues. In the face of the true self, we seem to encounter strangers. Unfortunately, for most people, this condition will last a lifetime to the end of life." "The well-known American journalist Sidney J." Harris
Immanuel Kant, an 18th-century German philosopher, once said, " when people meditate, the true self speaks for itself. It is a unique ability of people that makes people better than the earth." any other kind of biological. "unfortunately, many people only know how to work blindly and do not have enough self-awareness. They look forward to a successful career, but lack of self-awareness hinders the development of their own abilities, making them further and further away from that goal. They lack basic self-knowledge of their own characteristics, their own ideas, and their own behavior. In everyday life, they often ignore their own shortcomings, ignore their own choices (or qualities they lack), and ultimately pass on success.
Ignoring the real situation, blindly denying everything will have very bad consequences, and some results are even devastating. Deliberately ignoring bad news is like sneaking up on a bell: while it may temporarily "not see the heart and not disturb," it cannot fundamentally solve any problem. If you ignore the bad news, the consequences will be even more unimaginable.
The next two little stories are based on real life. The two stories have very different backgrounds, but the themes are similar: the first story is based on the division of labor in the workplace, and the second story is about how to consider the feelings of others at work.
We open these two stories in an open way - without end, to leave the reader unlimited space for reflection. What do you make? When you find yourself in this situation, will you maintain a clear self-awareness? What methods would you use to better understand yourself and thus increase your productivity? In a long career, can you always put clear self-awareness first? Can your understanding of yourself last forever, and the value remains with time? Having a clear sense of self can not only provide constructive guidance for our own shortcomings, but also allow us to make the most of our own strengths. It is not easy to achieve such an idea. But honestly, in the development of our career, the ability to see ourselves and have a strong sense of self-worth is the most basic condition for us to learn, develop and build a balanced and effective work style.
Work harder. .. overly busy
"I don't understand why I'm always busy," Ben told his colleague, " but I can't seem to keep up with the work." Benn worked for a customer service company that specializes in small businesses. We provide financing, training and consulting services. Benn is a very hard worker. He is happy to help others and seems to be busy all day to promise others. He is always exhausted and seems to carry endless pressure and rush to act all day. Every day I see him a little breathless and arrogantly ready for the final completion of the task. Whether it's copying documents, printing materials or writing a written report, Benn is always busy with no idea.
This chaotic, overpaid style of work has a fatal flaw - it's always hard for Benn to catch up with the progress of the project he's in charge of. Undoubtedly, because of the uncoordinated work of the "own" project, Benn is moving slowly. As the middle Manager of the company, he has a wealth of experience and his working capacity has improved significantly. Because of this, my colleagues turned to him for help. To these requests, despite the fact that he was confused in his duties, although he could no longer do English: to eat what others thought, Benn never said no. A lot of people are very confused as to why Benn can't always find a reason why he can't keep up with the progress of his work. Benn once told his superiors,"I've decided to take on some work in the future." At the time, everyone thought he had really decided this time. But two days later, he agreed to help his colleagues complete another important project that required the development and implementation of a pilot training program. When he found out that he was going to participate and Fund the basic training on the project for three days, the schedule was very tight and he felt a little regret. The phone rang. "I don't know, Megan, I'm going crazy," Benn hesitated. - Well, I know it's not easy. But I think I can help you. Tell me, what do you want me to do?
Station location
The story took place at a gala party at a breakthrough technical conference, where hundreds of participants spread out in a huge ballroom and exchanged views. Trent stands next to his friend Sanjay, who is talking to four other friends. "Tell me about the new project you're involved in," Trent asked, turning to face Sanjay. Sanjay was a little surprised by Trent's movement, because at that moment someone in the circle of friends began to tell you a different topic. To others to talk about, Trent seems completely uninformed, unconsciously turning around and slowly turning his back on everyone. His movement separated Sanjay from his circle of friends. All his attention and interest are focused only on Sanjay.
It's Trent's consistent style. For this fault he seems quite unconscious. In large meetings, he prefers to talk to a close friend or colleague alone. This practice often ignores other colleagues. Trent had never understood why his social circle in the workplace was always so narrow. However, he never found the time to think about himself and find the answer that really solved the problem. In General, Trent attends four or five meetings a year. At these meetings, Trent will join colleagues in various meetings, presentations, and workshops to share the latest information and new ideas in a variety of ways. However, his network of colleagues and friends is still surprisingly small. Trent's work includes a lot of patent information, good working relationships and collaborative networks that help in collaborative research, and the seamless exchange of information helps drive innovation. For Trent, therefore, efforts to build a network of friends and colleagues are critical to business success.
At this time, Sanjay deliberately confronted other people in the circle of friends. He wants to use this action to remind Trent that he wants to continue participating in the discussion, not just talking to Trent alone. Too bad Trent didn't realize the problem: he still turned his back on everyone and blocked Sanjay's view. At the time, Trent felt that Sanjay was not comfortable, but he did. "This project sounds good," he said, " let me give you further explanations. I am very interested in this project." Trent's purpose is clear, all his interests and attention focused on Sanjaya. On the human body.
At the same time, four other friends are discussing a new type of voice recognition technology. In its field of research, this technology occupies a leading position. Gradually they were surrounded by a new circle, eliminating Trent and Sanjaya, what did Sanjaya really disappointed. For Sanjay, the whole process made Him realize that his plan had to be changed. He had originally intended to invite Trent to lunch with other colleagues, at which point he made a decision whether or not to invite Trent.
Motivation and symptoms
From these two short stories we see that for the doer a clear sense of self is the cornerstone of a more effective way of working. From the case of Benn, we see that he is indeed a sincere figure. He did his best to help to his colleagues around him. He did his best to help everyone, but in the end it affected the course of the project. He is too focused on helping others, so he loses his sense of responsibility for his work and influences his career development.
For Trent, he values his friends and hopes to focus on talking to friends. He did not realize, however, that the result of this practice was absolutely counterproductive. Friends often felt that they lacked the space they needed to have in the process of talking to him. There was always a feeling of suffocation, and they hoped to leave it as soon as possible. Thus, he "scared" all friends in unconscious able. In these two short stories, the behavior of the protagonist seems to have a laudable motive, they always give priority to the needs of others. The result is extremely ironic: things often contradict desires, they can not effectively help others and can not show their talents.
Sometimes performers forget to maintain balance in their work. At this time, even the kindest and most beautiful motives can be counterproductive, unconsciously reducing the effectiveness of the work. An employee like Benn, who always unconsciously accepts any request. In the end, not only did it keep you busy, it reduced your efficiency, but it also devalued your value to the entire company. In Trent's story, he was blindly focused on a colleague, and ignoring the work of other colleagues is highly undesirable. This not only caused him to lose a great opportunity to build a broad and stable network of relationships, but also prevented him from normal interaction with colleagues who have good connections. Because they lack basic self-awareness, these situations happen unintentionally. Lack of self - awareness is the main cause of the "do-it-yourself" syndrome, which will eventually lead to the fact that the work of the employee will be time-consuming and inefficient, which will hinder the development of their careers.
So, what are the symptoms of lack of self-awareness? The following three symptoms are listed:
(1) self-Deception. For the doer, this symptom will become more and more apparent without knowing it. This situation is very evident in the two small stories mentioned above. Employees often want to help others at work, but they are too late to direct their energy to helping others, which will make their work unbalanced and significantly reduce their work efficiency, which will affect the work of their colleagues. To make matters worse, when performers find that their progress in work is affected by their excessive enthusiasm, they will also invest more enthusiasm and believe that things will eventually change. It's self-deception. Sometimes performers even think that the best way to solve a problem is to direct all their energy to helping others. Unfortunately, this is not the case. This illogical idea of performers is often the "culprit" that influences the course of the project. They always mistakenly believe that as long as they enthusiastically help others - even at the expense of their own business - all problems will be solved.
(2) self-denial. As soon as self-deception turns into self-denial, it will cause more serious problems. Even if there is a clear warning sign at work, those who can only work hard will not understand that they have to change. Instead, they will have selfless emotions. This kind of self-denial will only further affect their productivity at work and they will be trapped in a prolonged and inefficient mud. When they face problems at work and even more serious dilemmas, it is always difficult for them to accept this reality, and they refuse to acknowledge that they are the cause of the problems. Genes make them refuse to acknowledge the problem and force them to go further and further down the path of "self-destruction."
(3) I Am "unconscious." People who focus on hard work always find it hard to accept this reality, and they don't recognize that they are typical of "self-destruction." They may have an idea of the real situation and know that what they are doing will lead to inefficiency in their work, but they lacking the necessary self-awareness, they cannot accept this reality and do not recognize that they are a guide to a number of problems. Fire rope. They just don't know what the connection is between their behavior and unexpected results.
Some people think that those who work hard blindly lack self-awareness in the genes, in fact, this view is easily accepted. After all, they only know how to take care of others from start to finish, they are always so helpful and they lack the attention they deserve. The two short stories mentioned above clearly reflect the fact that this kind of knowledge concerns only others. However, because we often choose some extreme behaviors that are out of balance, even some seemingly "kindhearted" behaviors, the negative consequences of the activity are long-term.