Valentine's Day is getting closer. Time to take a closer look at the omnipresent topic of love.
February's month of love deals with the great theme of "love & mindfulness" and explores the positive effects of mindfulness in relationships and partnerships.
Of course, we turn to our solid partnerships, but also those relationships that affect our lives, such as relationships with our fellow human beings and family relationships. In addition to extensive information on the subject, practical tips from my own experience await you for direct implementation in your relationship.
"Many people prefer to live in an unhappy relationship rather than in any one."
How scary! When I first read about 10 years ago of a relationship study that clearly stated how many couples hold on to unhappy relationships, I asked myself, "How dependent do you have to be to take the dark side of an unhappy relationship ? " And suddenly I caught myself - I was in a relationship for a long time, in which I felt myself locked up and unhappy. And you know what? Nevertheless, I stuck to it. This relationship was doomed to failure, and it was only after the termination of that relationship that I found the source of my emotional dependence. I was needy - in need of the love that I would have had to give myself the many years, but never learned it and now love desperately sought in the outside. But no matter where you look for love in the outside - you will return disappointed and realize that there is only one way to self-love - the way inward.
Get out of emotional dependence, into freedom!
Who does not know that - in every relationship there is also a dispute, because as we all already learned in school: "without friction, no attachment";)
In the past few years, I have learned a lot about myself and my relationships, questioned and tried myself.
Today I am sure - During a conflict, not only present behaviors encounter each other, but above all, beliefs, family thought patterns and the family learned dispute culture. All this "resonates" on an unconscious level. Sounds complicated at first, but I have good news: we are not helpless at the mercy of this and can do a great deal to be respectful and fair with our environment even in the event of disagreements.
You start
to be careful with yourself,
you take responsibility for yourself and
begins to reflect itself,
then a deep binding is possible. I am not only absolutely convinced of that, but I can judge it above all through my own experiences and feel with every day more what changes through these 3 points in my life. In the meantime, I have been living in a happy relationship for over 6 years, characterized by deep attachment, appreciation, respect and a wonderful sense of freedom.
Unconditional love as the key to a happy relationship
To love unconditionally means to love without expecting anything in return. Before I can love another person unconditionally, I have to love myself unconditionally.
To love oneself unconditionally means to love oneself as one is. Without accomplishing anything. Just like that, in his pure "being". So ask yourself the following essential questions to see if you're stuck in an emotional dependency:
Do I love myself unconditionally?
If your first thought is "no," then you're very likely to be dependent on your environment, your partner. Problem: If you do not love yourself sincerely, then a relationship of neediness is built up and you stand on instable foundations. Very few people manage to maintain a relationship in this way, and if they succeed, they accept the many dark sides of this relationship. So be aware of what you want. Do you want to have a happy relationship based on unconditional love, honesty and appreciation, or do you want to live in a relationship where you back out far too often and put your own needs behind?
Now is the time to step into your strength, almost automatically increasing your relationship's power.
Learning to love oneself with meditation & mindfulness
There are many ways to develop self-love and come to your own strength. My favorite? Of course the meditation :) Meditation is one of the most effective methods when it comes to self-love. In the next blog post, I'll show you how to meditate and mind