The time of the carnival almost invites you to check for yourself whether you wear invisible masks that rob you of energy or whether you are the human being who is a pure soul.
If you answer the following 5 questions with a yes, then you are very likely to have built a very stable façade, but with an unstable foundation.
Do you often feel dull and drained, but you show yourself outwardly confident and stable?
Do you want to please others often?
Do you justify yourself for almost everything you do?
Do you often put your own needs behind those of others?
Do you have a longing for harmony and yet there are always conflicts?
If you have answered yes to the questions, this post can help you to put off your masks and get into the deep self-love.
I think I am not exaggerating when I say that sometimes all of us are self-doubting. That's exactly what is human and in my opinion good. Only in this way can we get to the point of questioning our own behavior. However, if the self-doubt overweighs, it consumes us, robs us of excess energy, gets us sick sooner or later, and often results in burnout.
Realize who you really are.
A first step in self-love and to lead a self-determined and healthy life, is the recognition of their own masks. How many masks do you have? Describe.
An example from my practice:
Mr. A came to me last year with symptoms like restlessness, nervousness and hypertension. Mr. A is a successful businessman. That's how he showed himself during the lessons in my practice. He always entered the room punctually and with great care. At first he showed himself very self-confident and already told me during the recording interview what he already could afford. The money is loose. The family enjoys a high standard of living. After Mr. A has taken his blood pressure tablet, he goes out in the morning in a modern suit with briefcase exactly 5 clock from the house. His appearance was very important to him, because he never wanted to attract attention. Thanks to his wife, he has a loaf in his pocket. The long drive makes him to create, but he would also like to just go with his Q5. He had done this, but "only briefly held the feeling of pure luck," he said. His wife mainly takes care of the 2 children. She had not completely recovered from her illness a few months ago and was currently a housewife. Mr. A would have to provide the entire family financially. According to his own statements, Mr. A is under enormous pressure. He barely noticed this during the day and still believes that he is completely in his element. He finds it difficult to give tasks, so he often sits 10 hours and more at work. Only when he comes home, he noticed that he forgot the food and has not eaten even his cuts. But he keeps himself well afloat with coffee and sweets, he laughingly told me. The fact that he forgot himself at work and spent little time with his family usually led to conflicts with his wife. In addition, Mr. A often had symptoms such as dizziness or tachycardia in the evening. Mr. A describes it as an oppressive feeling. These intensified as soon as he had to justify his absence to his wife, although he was the only one who went to work. He sleeps very badly and if he does, he does not sleep deep. He did not know when he had really slept well the last time because he had an "internal clock" that always woke him. His thought carousel starts as soon as he opens his eyes again for the first time in the morning.
Masks of Mr. A:
The self-sacrificing provider of the family - He has to take care of the finances.
The extremist - He tends to perfection, forgets his basic needs, such as the intake of food.
The Controller - Structured throughout and does not want to submit tasks.
The anxious - He does not want to attract attention.
The helpless - He feels helplessly exposed to the symptoms of his body.
The Sacrificing - He believes that through his self-sacrificing attitude, through achievement, he will get more recognition.
After Mr. A recognized his masks, we set goals together. It was exciting that Mr. A longed for the following things:
freedom
Quiet
more time with his wife and children
He learned to meditate with me and thus slowed down his thoughts, because "everything comes from our thoughts". Thus we formed the basis. Then we went to the masks something on the ground. Mr. A recognized the connections, why he started to maintain the masks over the many years. His foc