There are quite a few people who strongly dislike the word procrastination. Their negative is not caused by spelling difficulties or the fact that it is difficult to pronounce. I do not like the concept itself. What is this "procrastination"? what bourgeois notions? A man does nothing and tries to explain to others that his idleness is somehow explainable from a scientific point of view. That did not make the project for the deadline. Why? But because he procrastinated? And it seems that it’s not so bad to blame the negligent employee for this.
But if you say that it was banal laziness, and the scoundrel was lazy before the deadline, then you can let all the dogs down on him. And even brand a shame.
And look: there is only one fact - an unfinished project. This is some expected milestone or business that has not been completed. And the reason that led to this fact can be called differently. Indeed, “procrastination” is a psychological problem, and “laziness” is a sin and a negative character trait. The word "laziness" changes everything and frees up hands for aggression. A procrastinating person doesn’t “beat” a hand, and a lazy person, as some people think, cannot beat a sin.
But working is, in principle, easier. It’s easier for us to talk about the expected results. There is, say, a project, there is a deadline, and there is the expected quality of the work done. But in other matters it is very difficult to determine what is expected, especially as regards life priorities and fulfilling social roles. Each has its own ideal necessary for fulfillment, which it requires not only from itself, but also from others. This, of course, is ideal. There are those who do not expect anything from themselves and do not demand, but from others ... here people are extremely severe towards their brothers.
For example, I think no one needs to go far. Everyone met at least once in the life of a person who asked: “Do you ... (insert at will any item, quality, achievement, etc.) do you have?” No? Yes you are a bummer! Others have, and you still live without it. ”
Of course, in these cases it is not about bringing good to the opponent. This is a kind of personal reaction or a “sick callus” associated with the critic’s attempt to stand above his interlocutor, legitimize his aggression, and even establish control. Those. in such cases, the accusation of laziness is a tool of manipulation.
To a greater extent, the word "laziness" is used in the female world. From childhood, girls are taught that they have a lot to do and translate others' expectations into reality. Especially with regard to the "traditional female role." As far as you meet the expectations of others, and how satisfied they are with you, you are so safe from social rejection. Not doing Do not raise a lazy person and an eye from a floor. That's when you will not have complaints from others, then you can count on something.
In Russia in recent years, the requirements for a woman to be considered a “non-idler” are growing every day. A woman must be 55 years old at age 55, keep her house licked, make a dizzying career, and children should all become academicians. And all by herself! Tutors, fitness trainers, nutritionists and, God forbid, servants - this is all a scam. All by herself. If someone will help, then you are a lazy person who pretends to be a decent woman.
I note that usually the accusations of laziness come from those who themselves have achieved little, or, despite all the haste to try to prove their hard work to everyone, continue to feel lazy at heart.
Such people set themselves in life a lot of deadlines that they need to perform. Of course, there are deadlines in life, but there are not so many of them as critics of laziness imagine. They can often turn neutral events in life into certain tasks with deadlines, the failure of which threatens with almost a catastrophe. Pies should be cooked by 5pm on Sunday to put them on the table for dinner. Who does not make pies by 5 pm, he is a bummer. Does the family need pies every Sunday? What tricky questions? Want to get away from the pies? A lazy dog!
What should a good mother do for her children? This is generally a list that you can’t master. Formally, if you ask the average woman what she should give her children, then she will most likely answer that the main thing is that they be happy. But in fact, everyone has a checklist in their head. By the way, to wish “that they be happy” is also from the list. And there is no room for procrastination. I didn’t go to the deadline, I killed the future of my child.
In general, the list should be. Those. each parent must fulfill duties to children and give him certain skills. But some mothers, overwhelmed by the expectations of society and attempts to prove that they are not lazy people, shove everything in children that they don’t get into. Doesn’t get into children? Do not pull the child 3 foreign languages, equestrianism, drawing, dancing, etc.? She is a good non-lazy mother. But the child is something like a lazy dog, since it does not live up to her expectations. And, the problem of "non-idlers" has rushed in the next generation.
You know, in life, with regard to deadlines, laziness and procrastination, the whole thing is much more complicated and confusing. Deadlines and life projects are quite subjective. And often they do not directly relate to the life of a particular person, but depend on the attitudes of society. The deadlines and projects of children in most cases are parental views on how it should be in life. There are things important from the point of view of society and parents that the child, in general, does not need. And for an adult, even more so, other people's plans and expectations may be unnecessary. With some things, it is quite possible to procrastinate for a long time without any harm to the future. And you can safely abandon the project if it does not make much sense. All in your hands. Not necessarily, if you do not do something, then from laziness. And if you call yourself a bummer or allow you to call yourself so different, you open the way to aggression directed at you.