Don't help a man win you over! Otherwise, it makes no sense. This is some strange woman's move — if you find me, I'm yours, and if you don't find me, I'm in the closet. Why? For what? So that for sure he “conquered”? Out of fear of being alone? Or out of fear that such a good thing will never happen again? But for the sake of decency, I have to win, so I need help. And then suddenly he won't succeed, and he will go to the more accessible one.
Girls who are already in love and tied up, are ready to justify men and help them to win themselves. I was like this myself, and it didn't work out well. It's a time when women are told that they have to take the initiative, take the bull by the horns and clamp the one they like. Women men conquer themselves and fight for them. Soon, flowers will start giving them flowers too. Or bring her a bouquet so that she can get it, or maybe there was no time to think about it. Does it seem a little strange to me alone?
Many men don't try to win anybody over. Why? A battle is already going on for them. And women pretend to be conquered. Although the process was reversed, and inside the worm is eating.
- If he doesn't call, it's stupid to look for excuses, they say, busy, to call himself or to look for meetings with him. When he needs it, when a woman is dear to him, he calls. Finding opportunities and time. He will find a phone booth in the desert.
- If he can't find time to meet, he doesn't need to come to his office or guard at the entrance. Again, if he wants to, everything will happen.
- If he doubts whether you are the woman of his dreams, do not make for him a super-presentation of himself, the test period and all that. You are not a product that should be sold at any price and with any macaroon as soon as possible — and only to him.
- If he communicates freely enough with other girls, it means that he is not very interested in you, and do not have to fight for him. Why do you need it?
- If he's not ready for a serious relationship, he's not ready to get married — and especially when he says so at once — why continue with something? What for? In the hope that he will change his mind and mature? But the man's attraction to the woman weakens with time. If he is not ready in his strongest phase, and then will not be.
- If from the very beginning he is not ready to do something for you — to give flowers, to pay the bill at the restaurant — what will happen then? Separate budget, earn for everything yourself.
You don't have to keep men, return them, conquer them. There is no need to fight for them to prove to them that you should be there for them. You do not need to help them and give in.
“Courtship is an important period for both. A woman at this point lays the foundation of her dignity in marriage, a man — the foundation of the value of these relationships.”
You cannot do everything for him. This is not necessary. Your task is to inspire. So that he would like to curl up the mountains for you. So he can look for opportunities to see and hear you. To make him want to marry you. So that other women would cease to exist for him. To make him a real man by your side, strong and confident. And you next to him blossomed like a beautiful flower!
This period is very important for you. Because in difficult times of your union, these memories will keep you warm, keep your family from disintegration. For a man, however, a woman who has suffered hard, in the struggle — more valuable and important, you know? And the relationship will be more valuable for him. Leave all these thoughts: how to conquer him, how to tie him to himself, how to keep him, how to return him, how to repel him, how to seduce him and marry himself. These are not the thoughts that should fill the head of a beautiful girl. It is not what leads to a happy family.
Your task is to become one that everyone wants to take as a wife. And this very one will still have to prove that he is the best for you. He will have to conquer you. And not otherwise. Whoever wants to, will always find an opportunity. And it is his man's business to show initiative. And our women's work is to inspire our deeds. And let yourself be conquered over and over again. To accept courtship. To have something to love afterwards, the long years of your union.