1. Remind me to clean up after myself
Parents complain. "The child does not remember where he left it. Attention is short. I was doing my homework in the kitchen and drinking tea, something distracted me - I ran away, my textbooks were lying on the table. I was in a hurry to undress, did not hang my jacket. I rummaged in my backpack, my things fell out in the hallway. Just sowing chaos around him!
What to do? If a child has scattered things in a common area, you can safely bring him to this place and ask him to clean it up. Don't swear: we're not eradicating vices, we just want him to hang up his pants or put down his backpack now. It is desirable at once. So we will be as patient as possible. Yes, some children have to be sent every day, for years. But this is the parental fate.
It is better to remind what to do, right when he scattered things. It's in the backpack. It's on a hanger. Remind again briefly, without scolding, so that this moment does not spoil the mood. We don't fight, we help each other.
2. Show that cleaning is not so difficult
Parents complain. "Often children are lazy to clean up after themselves because cleaning seems difficult and long. It is better to do something interesting, not to put things in place. So they threw toys, paper and pencils and ran to another room to play.
What to do? Show how much time a short cleaning actually takes. For example, you cooked a salad. "Now let's clean up. It will take two minutes. We built the city on the floor. "Now we'll take the city apart. Look, in five minutes it will be in perfect order! Cleaning the bathroom: "We set the timer for twenty minutes, here is the photo "before", and here is the photo "after"! If you put things in order together, it will be easier for the child to get used to the fact that this is not a big and tedious job, but a simple and natural thing. One - and it is ready.
3. Do not clean up everything yourself
Parents complain. "Who likes to hear the whining "not now, I'm busy, then"? Sometimes it is easier for us to collect these socks and textbooks ourselves than to enter into long negotiations.
What to do? The less we do this, the better. When a child collects his or her papers from the floor in the hallway every day, he or she realizes at some point that it is easier not to throw them away at all. As for whining, it's better to agree from the beginning: if a parent asks for something, you have to do it right away. When parents have to repeat the same thing five times, they get irritated and relations spoil.
Of course, we also respect our child's time and will not pull him or her endlessly on nonsense. Sometimes a pile of clothes in the middle of the living room can lie down for a couple of hours. (What if he guesses? There are miracles.)
4. Respect the right of children to be in a mess
Parents complain. "He has a pigsty in his room, it's just impossible to go in there. There's snips, clean clothes mixed with dirty clothes, and soon cockroaches will be started under the bed.
What to do? The previous points were about throwing things in the common area, which is used by everybody as well. The room or a corner is a little bit other business, there the child can clean up at will. Yes, heaps, yes, nothing can be found. But imagine that your parents will come to your apartment and say: "We hate to see it! You shouldn't be indignant or throwing yourself out to clean up after him, "since he can't do it himself.
We can only ask: could you, when you have time, clean your room? The only exception is if it really smells, mold grows and "animals" multiply. In this case, the interests of all family members are already affected.
5. Do not think that it will grow sloppy
Parents complain. "But he doesn't care, he doesn't understand how great it is when things are in order and everything is in the shelves! How will life be so sloppy?
What to do? The order in a teenager's room does not correlate in any way with the order in the apartment of the future adult. People grow up and change. Some were forced to make a bed in an army way, but now these same people are happy to pig and live in chaos. Others, on the contrary, threw everything away in childhood, and now they try to accustom the child to order. In the end, it will be their life and their home.
However, if cleaning is a part of life philosophy for you (as for Marie Kondo), you can introduce your child to your ideals in your spare time. It is desirable to do it with an exceptionally positive attitude and inspiration, giving master classes of joint cleaning, fixing the result: "Look how clean! Order on the shelves - order in mind! But only by bonus and mutual desire.