1. Divorce always has a negative effect on the child
Is it hard to believe it's not true? According to the logic of most people, after a divorce, children in a single-parent family are going through a serious crisis. So did Mavis Hatherington, who began to study divorce and its impact on children in the 70s of last century. It was only thirty years later that she realized that this was not the case. All the negative effects are a consequence of the parents' behavior after the breakup. The very fact of divorce is not so traumatic.
The atmosphere around the child is influenced by other factors: how parents talk about each other in front of the child, what children see in the relationship between divorced mothers and fathers. Mutual insults and the desire to win the child's sympathy in this way lead to stress and pressure, rather than increasing the authority of one of the parents in the eyes of the child.
2. Young children think only of themselves
"Let me, bring it, I'm hungry, let's go for a walk" - these little kids think only of themselves, don't they? Not quite. They are much more sensitive than you think: every child catches the expressions of others' faces and involuntarily analyzes the needs of the outside world. So he's more likely to try to avoid the look of his father's frowned eyebrows or his mother's frowned lips.
Of course, if a child crosses the distance from one corner of the room to the other (which will be a feat for a two-three-year-old child), at the same time the older brother or dad will prevent, and the child will fall - everyone around will be to blame for his failure: many adults would not survive here, too. This suggests that children are already a little older: they know how to empathize, try to achieve their goals, worry, and even sometimes lose their temper because of failures. So remember that children are the same as you, and do not try to reduce all the reasons for their experiences only to childhood.
3. The child is dependent on new technologies
There's more confusion about causes and consequences. Habituation or addiction does not arise from nothing, especially at the age of two or three. If parents feel tired and devastated (problems at work, accumulated fatigue), they use tablets and computers as a substitute for themselves. Then the children are alone with the inanimate screen and spend more time with it than with their mother and father.
Tablets and computers can help parents - e-books, educational games and cartoons are very useful. But even with gadgets, parents need to be there for their child - it's easier to get involved, to find out what the child is doing or to join in. This is an easy way to prevent your child from feeling abandoned and alone.
4. At the age of two or three, children are simply unbearable
No, you're just not used to being a parent. The euphoria has passed, and the understanding of what to do and how to do it right has not yet come.
Fear of being responsible to the child, emotional outbursts and anxiety due to the new parental role - these are the reasons for disobedience and mistakes in education in the first few years after the birth of the child. Children are very attentive to their parents and their emotions, even at a young age: be careful with the expression of negativity and accusations of disobedience against their child. Maybe it's you?