In addition to physical needs such as food, water, a roof over your head and basic hygiene, children also need emotional support, love, and care. Those in charge of children (no matter their own or others') should make it a rule to share love with their children daily.
Baby brain
Early childhood is a period of numerous and rapid changes in the structure of the brain. Childhood and the period of six to seven years is the time when complex connections between neurons are primarily formed in the child's brain.
The definitive formation of brain neurons by about 80% ends by the age of four. In other words, by the fourth year of life, the brain of a future adult is ready for eight tenths.
Many scientists believe that human behavior is approximately 95% determined by its subconscious. When is the "programming" of this subconscious done?
From birth to the age of six.
Why is this important?
Our brain is responsible for everything (or practically everything) that we think, say and do. If a child receives insufficient care and attention in the first years of life, this affects brain development and, as a result, the structures responsible for the child's emotions remain underdeveloped.
The link between the factors that influence brain development in childhood and the traits of the adult's character is no longer in doubt.
Therefore, we have prepared seven key features:
1. Inability to trust
To develop the ability to trust at the individual level, a stable positive environment is needed. That is why it is extremely important that children are surrounded by at least relatively confident and balanced people. Tantrums, shouts and frequent changes in the environment negatively affect the development of confidence. Children should feel safe and receive positive emotional nourishment from loved ones.
If our children do not have a stable and supportive emotional environment (primarily in the family), then it may be difficult for them to trust others. And this, in turn, guarantees difficulties in personal relationships.
2. Low emotional intelligence
Children learn to interpret emotions mainly through words and gestures. Both play an important role in the child's development. Words and gestures help express their feelings, control fear, understand negative emotions, and produce resistance to emotional pressure.
Without the ability to correctly interpret their emotional state, the child may not fully develop the quality of life - emotional intelligence - important to live.
3. Strong fear for mistakes
Children growing up in an environment of indifference to them have serious problems with the development of self-esteem. In this case, the motivational and loving environment contribute to the development of endurance and confidence.
A child who is not loved as a child will probably feel a lack of confidence when they grow up. This is usually manifested in the form of excessive timidity to make a mistake. Many successful people find themselves unable to reach their full potential only because of their lack of parental love and care in childhood. They are just afraid that they will not succeed.
4. Addiction to toxic personal relationships
Adulthood of the human brain is mainly through associations and pattern recognition. In psychology and cognitive neuroscience, the latter is defined as "a cognitive process that compares information obtained from the outside world with information derived from memory."
As for personal relationships, a child who has suffered from a lack of love when she grows up will strive for what is known to her, that is, to toxic people.
5. Feelings of danger and attachment
Virtually any psychiatrist specialist will agree that a positive out-of-family environment is able to compensate for the negative family atmosphere.
However, in real life, everything is much more complicated.
After all, if a child cannot trust the people who helped him or her to be born and who must be responsible for his or her safety, how will he or she be forced to trust anyone at all?
6. Tendency to depression
Unwell children, growing up, often suffer from mental health problems.
Usually, depression and anxiety come from: a) emotional indifference in childhood, and b) the inevitable complications caused by this indifference that surface to a more mature age.
Depression and chronic anxiety are the two most common mental illnesses in the world. And the likelihood of getting them into adulthood is much higher if her family had serious problems when she was a child.
7. Excessive sensitivity
We have all heard advice not to take the words of others too close to the heart. All in all, this is quite good advice. People who try to cope with their problems often design them for those around them. If we do not apply all of these people's words to ourselves, it can help to understand them - and maybe even help us deal with these issues.
However, it is not so easy for anyone who has not received love and attention from loved ones in childhood, to listen to this advice. These people are constantly suppressed by the fear of being rejected, and together with self-doubt, it proves that they felt unnecessary and unloved in childhood.
A few words at a glance
We all have our own way of showing our children how we love them, and only through this can we lay a solid foundation for their future lives.
Let the display of love and affection for your children to be your top priority every day.
- Praise the children as often as possible (but praise should be deserved, for example, the child helps you with the household).
- Always try to maintain a positive attitude and emotional maturity to create a healthy environment for children.
- Remember, if you are a parent or guardian who is constantly depressed, irritable, depressed, or sad, this can have a negative impact on the child's development.
- Don't be afraid to seek the help of a specialist if you feel you can't handle it yourself.