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Today, we're talking about a Zen, a Japanese Zen Zen Buddhist saying, seven times down, eight times up, seven times down, eight times up.
And connected to, this is connected to, the challenge, in fact, oops, one second.
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I'm going to jump into the topic.
It might be a little bit shorter show today because I gotta go take care of babies, and it's a little late today.
Okay, so seven times down, eight times up.
Here's the deal.
We're almost to the end of our challenge.
We have one week, essentially, one week, a little bit more, a couple of extra days, but we have essentially one more week.
And I was hoping to finish really strong in November.
But guess what?
Didn't happen.
The opposite happened.
Instead, I got sick.
My wife got sick.
My two babies got sick.
Even my mom who was visiting got sick.
And during this whole time, so first I was sick, I couldn't do anything.
Just laying around in bed, then I fasted.
But then I recovered, but the problem is then my wife was sick.
So I had to take care of our babies while she recovered.
And then our babies started getting sick.
And now, you know, they're kind of fusing and crying a lot.
And I take care of them.
One had to go to the doctor today.
So during all of this, I've basically done none, new Japanese, new listening at all.
So instead of doing extra, my time actually went down, which sucks.
But oh well.
This connects to the saying.
There's a saying.
It's just a Zen Buddhist saying specifically Japanese.
Japanese Zen is Japanese.
And it's, you hear it translated different ways, but the basic translation is seven times down, eight times up.
Seven times down, eight times up.
I'll put it on the screen here if you're watching on the screen.
If you're watching on video, you've got it here on a, yeah, I've got it here.
Fall down, so another way to say it is, fall down seven times, get up, eight.
Fall down seven times, get up, eight.
Let's talk about that a little bit.
It's kind of an attitude more than anything.
It's an attitude about what?
About failure, about failing in some way.
So I failed my goal for November, which was to do a lot of extra hours of Japanese.
Instead, quite the opposite, I actually did the smallest number of hours of Japanese this month.
I've had over a week of no Japanese at all.
And you know, so that's kind of a failure, right?
This is a failure, the failure of reaching that goal.
On the other hand, the overall challenge has been quite good for me.
I'm happy with my overall results, even though this last month's going to be quite weak for me, and October was a little bit, was a little weak also.
So I started very strong and kind of got weak at each month.
But still, much better than I was doing before.
Now, I know a lot of you.
I've seen it in the comments.
I've seen it in the comments here on the show.
I've seen it in the comments on our challenge site where people get kind of feeling bad, get up to getting upset, feeling bad because they also have done fewer hours than they wanted to.
Or they perhaps they do, you know, two hours a day, and they see in the challenge some people are doing eight hours a day.
Some people are doing 12 hours a day.
And they're like, "Oh, I'm only doing two," and they feel kind of bad.
And I know, in other areas of English, in other areas of life that, you know, maybe you have a goal, you want to have some of you focused on tests and you try to take a test and you don't get the right result.
Or some of you, you plan to do a lot of English, and then something happens.
You get busy in your work.
You have a problem at your home.
Something happens.
And you can't do it.
You don't do it.
People get really, really upset about all of this.
Ah, this sucks.
They get so upset by failure.
Some people get so upset by failure that they actually avoid taking risks.
They avoid committing.
They avoid doing things just to avoid that bad feeling of failure.
Because the mindset, it's kind of an unconscious mindset, but the unconscious mindset is something like, "If I don't do it, then I can't fail.
If I don't fail, I won't feel those bad feelings."
Which is very unfortunate because then you also have no chance to succeed.
So what I like about the Zen saying, I think the Zen saying is, it certainly is Zen Buddha saying, but it also has a connection to what's called buddho in Japanese, like, you know, the warrior spirit.
And for me, I think of jujitsu, when I, or judo, judo or jujitsu, when I read this saying, and I listen to this saying, because, like, for example, in jujitsu, you fall down all the time, right?
So you're thrown, you're fall down or your opponent, the other guy, throws you down.
But it's the same result.
You get thrown onto the ground, you fall onto the ground.
Again and again and again, every time, judo exactly the same.
Constantly, every single day you practice, you get put onto the ground.
In jujitsu, you get put onto your back a lot, right?
Where there's maybe a bigger, stronger, faster, better guy, better fighter, and they put you on your back, and you're laying on your back, and they're on top of you.
And it happens again and again, it happens every single time that you go to jujitsu practice, or judo practice.
But what's kind of interesting about this is that judo fighters, jujitsu fighters, they don't get upset about this at all, because it's part of judo, it's part of jujitsu.
Falling down, getting thrown down, getting put onto your back is just natural.
It's all part of it.
And so the great thing is that judo and juditsu fighters learn to become very, very relaxed about falling.
They practice falling, first of all.
They practice how to fall well.
They don't try to avoid it.
They don't say, "Oh no, I will not fall."
Because of course they know, they will fall.
They're eventually, they're going to fall.
No matter how good you are, no matter how big and strong you are, eventually you're going to fall down.
Someone's going to throw you down.
It's going to happen.
So there's no point avoiding it, right?
Absolutely pointless to try to pretend, "Oh, somehow, not me, I won't fail.
I won't fall down."
No, you're going to fall.
Everyone does.
Everyone.
So instead, what do they do?
They practice how to fall well.
They practice how to fall without getting hurt.
So it's called a break fall.
Break fall.
Break's your fall.
So you fall in a way that you still fall.
But you protect yourself as you fall, so you don't smash your head on the ground and get a serious brain injury.
You don't stick your hand out and then break your arm.
Right?
So they learn, "Do you do, do you do two fighters?
How to fall?
Well."
And you can see the metaphor, right?
There's a metaphor here about life in general.
Because in life in general, you're going to fail.
You are going to fail.
You will fail.
You will make a goal and you will fail to do it.
You will try to project.
You will have a dream and you'll fail to do it.
You'll fall in love with a girl or a boy and they will reject you.
They won't want you.
You will try to invest money and you'll lose money.
You will try to start a business and the business will fail.
You can't avoid it.
This is life.
Okay?
So trying to avoid it is an idiotic foolish mindset because it's impossible to avoid all failure and disappointment.
So what?
If we learn from Jiu Jitsu and Judo and from the Zen saying, the important thing to do is learn how to fail well.
Right?
So learn how to fail in a way that doesn't destroy you.
Right?
So this is what good investors do.
People who are professional investors, they know how to, they risk their money.
They do lose money sometimes.
But they do it in a way.
They invest in a way so they don't lose all their money.
Right?
It's called risk hedging.
Right?
They're protecting the risk.
There are many different ways to do this and professional investors who are good, they always do this.
So they know how, they know they will fail.
They know there's impossible, impossible to have 100% success in investing.
Here never, no investor does it.
Not the best.
Not the billionaires and billionaires, the super billionaires.
They all lose money sometimes.
But they protect their investments.
They know how to fail well.
Right?
It's the same if you start a business.
You don't risk all of your savings and your whole life and all of your emotion.
And if you fail then your whole life is over and you kill yourself.
That's stupid.
Right?
So learning how to fall.
The other thing I like about in Jutsu and Judo and in Zen is this idea that not only will you fail, you will fail.
You're going to fail many, many, many times.
Right?
Seven times down.
Eight times up.
Is the same in Judo.
I don't know.
If you start at White Belt in Judo and you keep going to Black Belt, how many times do you get thrown down?
How many times have you fallen hundreds, thousands maybe?
Probably thousands, same for Jutsu.
Right?
How many times are you put on your back again and again?
How many times you have to tap?
Right?
In Jutsu we tap.
When someone has you and you have to basically you quit, you say I failed.
I lose and you have to tap.
You're going to tap a constant all the time, especially when you're at the beginning levels but even Black Belt's tap.
So it's unavoidable.
It's unavoidable.
And what's cool about Jutsu, Judo, Zen is the mindset that it's no big deal.
You don't get upset about it.
You just accept it and you stand up again.
That's what the saying means.
One time is down, eight times up.
You're standing up, you go down, what do you do?
You just stand up.
Then you get fall down again.
What do you do?
You stand up again.
You fall down seven times.
You stand up again.
Now you're up for the eighth time.
If you fall, what do you do?
You stand up again.
It's that simple.
You don't cry.
You don't say I'm a failure.
Oh my God.
Right?
You don't get afraid.
You just stand up and keep going.
You probably fall again.
And Jutsu, what happens?
Somebody throws you in the ground.
What do you do?
You keep fighting.
You try to fall.
You break your fall.
So you fall well.
You don't get hurt.
And you keep fighting.
Most of much of Jutsu is fighting from your back.
Jutsu fighters especially learn how to fight on their back and they can be very dangerous from their back.
If some people who don't know anything, they never watch Jutsu.
If you watch, do guys fighting in Jutsu.
It's very natural for people they think the guy on the bottom, the guy on his back, he must be losing.
Clearly he's losing.
He's in a bad position.
He's on his back.
The other guy's on top of him.
Looks very strong.
And so people who don't know Jutsu think, oh, always the guy on top is winning.
But it's not true.
Jutsu fighters can watch.
Sometimes the guy on the bottom is losing.
But if he's good, the guy on the bottom actually might be winning.
The guy on the bottom, he can choke the guy on the top.
He can lock his arm.
There's many, many things they will do.
And they can win from being on their back.
And the really good guys can do.
There's a guy named Hodja Gracie who's famous for this.
He was just, he was very scary from his back.
Very frightening.
The guy was so good.
So he's thinking, watching him and you think, oh, Hodja Gracie.
He's on his back.
He's losing.
No, probably not.
He's probably winning.
But even sometimes people, everybody loses.
And so the attitude in Jutsu, the attitude in Jutsu is you tap.
Bup, up, you tap.
Right, I quit.
You win.
And then what do you do?
You just stand up and you start again.
That's it.
That's all you do.
You don't cry.
You lose.
So what?
Stand up.
Do it again.
Right.
Maybe the next time the other guy loses, what do you do?
So what?
You stand up.
You go again.
Then you go and you fight somebody else.
Same thing.
You lose.
So what?
Stand up.
Go again.
And this is the mentality.
So losing, you know, of course, in a real serious tournament, they're very serious guys.
They get kind of upset when they lose, but they still stand up and they fight again another day.
And in practice, in the gym, it's just this attitude where you just get your use to failing.
Use to tapping or if you used to falling and it becomes no big deal.
All that negative emotion gets removed and you just have this kind of calm attitude about failure where, oh well, I failed again.
So what?
Stand up.
What do you do after you fail?
You stand up and you keep fighting.
You stand up and you keep trying.
So you don't like for me.
I'm not upset about this Japanese thing.
I got sick.
Things happened.
So what?
What do I do?
No.
So what?
You know, I'll just start listening again.
That's all.
You know, even if this whole month, my mom's visiting, my schedule's busy, my hours are going to be less.
So what?
Next month, I'll do more.
Right?
Got the winter coming.
There's not much to do in the winter for me here, especially with my little babies are at home.
I have a lot of time at home.
So you know, so what?
In December, I'll get more hours.
In January, we'll have a new challenge with speaking.
I'm excited about that.
So you don't get upset about it.
You just, you know, you stand up and you start fighting again.
You stand up and you keep going.
If you had a problem with your English, don't get upset about it.
So what?
You failed a goal.
You didn't reach a goal.
You didn't get as many hours.
You had a problem.
You got busy.
Your pronunciation sucks.
So what?
It doesn't matter.
What are you going to do?
You're not going to quit.
What are you going to do?
Stand up and keep going.
Stand up and make another effort again.
That's all.
And maybe you fail again.
So what?
What will you do then?
You'll stand up and you keep going.
And you do this and you will eventually fail.
And the big way you will fail, fail, fail, fail, fail.
And then succeed.
Right?
And this is how people become black belts in Jujutsu.
They tap.
They fail.
And four times a week, constantly failing, failing, losing, losing, losing as white belts.
All you do is lose all the time.
Lose, lose, lose, lose, lose.
And then you come a blue belt.
And you still lose a lot.
And you come a purple belt.
Yeah, maybe you're winning some against the lower guys, but you're still losing a lot.
And you become a brown belt.
Now you're getting pretty good.
But you still lose sometimes.
And the black belt still kick your butt.
And then finally you become black belt.
And you're losing hundreds and thousands of times.
You reach this great success.
And yet what did you do?
You failed and failed and failed and failed and failed and failed and failed and failed and failed and failed.
Constantly every single day.
Leading you, but the failure made you better.
You got better and better and better.
And you learned more and more and more from all those failures because you didn't quit.
You stood up and you kept fighting and you learned something and you kept going.
Right?
It's the same with your English.
You failed.
So what?
Get up.
Keep going.
You failed again.
So what?
Get up.
Keep going.
And you fail and you fail and you fail and you won't reach your goals and I want to be perfect.
And you won't be perfect.
And you're listening will suck.
And you'll, "Gah, this is terrible.
You keep going.
You're listening gets better."
"Oh, now my speaking still sucks."
"Don't get, don't cry about it.
Stand up.
Keep going."
Then your speaking gets better.
More fluent.
But now, "Oh, now my pronunciation still sucks."
So what?
You fail.
Your pronunciation, "Oh, it still sucks.
What do you do?"
You keep going.
Stand up.
Keep fighting.
And little by little, your pronunciation gets better.
And then one day eventually, you're speaking very fluently, very, very well.
You're a great speaker.
You're someone like Oscar.
Max.
Julia, etc.
And you've failed, failed, failed, failed, failed, failed, failed.
But you've reached that big success.
Business people do it all the time.
Within entrepreneurs.
As an entrepreneur.
I try ideas they fail.
You try it is.
I've tried, with every single so many different little ideas that have failed.
I try them.
They failed.
I try them.
Didn't work.
Oh, now one works.
Right?
But it's, the failure is outnumber the successes, but it doesn't matter.
Because overall, I don't need every idea to succeed.
I only need a few.
And overall, I have achieved success.
For me, that means financial independence, financial freedom.
A wonderful group of people, every single English member, around the world.
So there's no need to be afraid of failure.
And there's really no need to get upset about it.
You know, we don't like it.
Of course, I don't think anyone likes failing.
No one likes falling down.
Okay.
Even in judo, no one likes getting thrown down.
Juditsu guys don't like being the one thrown down.
They want to control the fight all the time.
But it doesn't matter.
But we also know it's impossible to avoid.
That it's so, you just, it happens and then, but you don't get upset and you keep going.
And by just keeping that really, it's called equanimity that balanced mind every single time you fail.
There's like no emotion about it really.
You just fail again.
And so what?
You stand up and you keep going again.
And this is just a wonderful, wonderful, wonderful mindset to have about failure.
This will lead you to huge life successes.
Even though you're having lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of failures along the way.
Somehow all those failures bring you closer to big success.
This gets interesting.
Investors are the same way.
You know, you invest people who invest in stocks or businesses or things.
You know, they, I don't know.
There's all these statistics.
But basically, they lose money usually.
And professional investor, let's say they buy 20 stocks.
They will usually lose money on more than 10.
More than 10 of the stocks, so 10 or 11 of their stocks will lose money.
Perhaps only 5 or 6 will make money.
And yet, somehow, as they get better and better, the ones that make money can make a lot of money and the losses might be smaller and the risks they know how to take care of the risks.
So the failures are smaller.
And so overall, they still somehow make a lot of money.
They still overall make money even though most of their picks are losers.
So don't be afraid of it.
Don't be a, you know, fail faster succeed sooner is one of those, you know, business sayings, I can't, I don't, Tom Peters, I think said it, fail faster succeed sooner.
This is what it means.
Like in Jiu Jitsu, you don't want to, you could just, I guess, be staying a little ball in Jiu Jitsu practice and try to avoid just, just don't get, don't lose, but you'll never win and you'll never learn anything if you do that.
So it's a good life lesson.
So you guys that are, if you have failures, if you hadn't disappointed me during this challenge, just relax.
Find up and keep going.
Life doesn't end at the end of our challenge next week.
And on the other hand, you should also focus on what successes did you have.
So I kind of, like I said, this, this month has been a bit of a failure for me, unfortunately.
But overall, I've made nice improvements with my Japanese, very nice improvements with my Japanese.
Overall, I'll have about, I'll average about 100 hours a month because my first two months were really big.
So I will end up with over 400 hours of Japanese in four months, which is very nice.
And overall, I started Japanese one month before that.
My total Japanese hours will reach about 500 hours.
And that's also great.
So don't forget to, even when you have these falls and you have these failures, don't forget that you also have successes in there.
There are also some things in there that are good.
Maybe it's just you learn something.
You learn something about yourself or you learn something in general.
And those are successes too.
All right.
So let's get to the questions and comments.
Yeah, okay.
So we've got a lot of examples here.
Nama says, I think the best examples, JK rolling, Rowling, author of Harry Potter, right?
For failing, but in the unsucceeding, failing is like an exam we should not give up.
Don't quit.
Commit.
Exactly.
Don't quit.
Commit is another way to sum it up.
Yes, that's right.
And look at the final success she had quite large.
Amad Sad says, here's a quote from Walt Disney, the guy who founded the company.
Failure is delay, not defeat.
It is a temporary detour, not a dead end.
Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing.
Doing nothing and being nothing.
Indeed.
Right.
Amad Yol says, can you, is it possible to learn karate or jujitsu without attending a school?
There's some videos on YouTube where you can practice at home with a friend.
I think you can learn the basic combatives of jujitsu.
You can probably learn those at home with a friend.
If you both, there's something called Gracie Academy online, that's the website I would recommend.
If you want to learn at home, great.
I'm sorry, it's called Gracie University.
I'm sorry.
Gracie, g-r-a-c-i-e, university.com.
Gracie University.com has a really great introductory course.
You do need a partner because jujitsu is something you do against another person.
You can't really do it totally alone.
You can learn a little bit.
It's still helpful to watch the videos alone to review the techniques in between classes.
You absolutely need another human to go against.
You have to do sparring.
Big part of jujitsu is sparring, which is live fighting.
I think you could probably get the basics.
I don't think you'll go to black belt or anything doing that because you need a black belt to guide you to that level.
But to get the basic stuff to help you in a basic self defense way, for example, I think you could learn a lot of that at home with videos and a partner.
Lisa, with a nice quote from a film, she saw.
Here's the message she said, "I've saw a film and the message in it were, 'Fall on your face.
Fail spectacularly.'"
Because when you fail, you learn.
When you fail, you live.
Indeed.
Failure just means we have an idea of what we want, right?
What is failure really?
It's just a result.
It just means I want this result.
I want this to happen.
And then you try.
You take actions.
Trying to make that happen, but it doesn't happen.
That's what failure is, right?
You don't get the result you want.
Well, we're not gods.
So we can't make everything happen exactly as we want all the time.
It doesn't matter.
But we can learn.
A lot of self says, "What can you say now in Japanese after 500 hours of listening?"
Well, I would say that after 500 hours, it's more what I understand.
I have a, you know, well, according to the link, I have about 1,500 vocabulary words that I know.
So I have a focus on speaking at all.
So I don't know.
I haven't tested my speaking yet.
That'll be in January, right?
We'll be doing the speaking challenge in January.
So what can I say now?
I can certainly manage basic things, but I haven't done any speaking practice at all.
So probably not much.
I think the more important question is, what can I understand?
I certainly understand more.
My fluid now after 500 hours, no, of course not.
But I'm far more comfortable in the language.
I understand the structure of it, very comfortable with it.
I've got about 1,500 words of vocab that I know.
Is that huge?
People do thousands of hours in four months or some people do learn thousands and thousands of words in that time.
But I'm still happy.
I'm happy with it.
Carol says, "The real failures when you give up most of the times you learn more when you fail than when you succeed.
However, failures are easier to accept when you know you've done everything you could.
Indeed.
Indeed."
I think the thing about failure, we don't like it, but it's just, you know, like we say shrug our shoulders.
So just see, put your shoulders up and like, eh, so what?
It's no big deal.
Don't get too upset about it.
It's the emotional part of failing.
That's the problem.
When we get upset, oh, go.
We get so emotional.
Then we make bad decisions.
Then we don't, we stop learning.
We get fearful.
Instead, you just stand up and keep going, right?
Like the Zen saying, "You just stand up and keep going.
No big deal."
So what?
You fell down.
Yeah, like Alessandro says, "I think failure is the other side of success.
It is.
You have to think that it is normal."
Right.
That's exactly it.
You have to think that it is normal.
You just kind of think of it as normal.
Like the dude did soon judo fighters, right?
Everything is normal.
Losing is normal.
It's just totally normal.
It's completely accepted because every single practice, it happens.
Many, many times, every practice.
Every day you go to the gym, you're falling and failing.
So you just kind of, "What can you do?
You're not going to cry about it.
You're not going to get upset about it because how can you get upset?"
Because you can't be emotional because it happens too much.
You just naturally learn, just kind of like, "Oh, well, well.
You're not happy about it.
You want to be better."
But on the other hand, it can't be too upset about it either.
That was one of the key things I learned about in Jiu Jitsu is I didn't like failing, but what can you do?
When a black belt beats you, you just go, "Oh, well, he's better than I am."
Even when another white belt beats you, you just say, "Well, what can I do?
It happens sometimes."
Even sometimes someone who's not as good as you.
You know, sometimes they still can beat you.
Yeah, like Hanani says, "I had a tough experience that took me a long time to stand up.
When I woke up, I realized that I did not deserve to be upset about any problem.
Just step forward."
Just get up and go, keep going.
Ah, that's a nice comment about the last show.
Ilay Carlos Miranda dos Santos says, "Thank you for the last show.
I listened this morning at 5 a.m. while riding my bike in Sao Paulo, Brazil, and contemplating all around me the sun rising, the birds, and even the buildings.
That's great."
Yeah.
Nice.
Okay, so like this is another example, like of a goal.
Cupiel says, "I'm preparing for the IELTS now from last year, but still not succeed.
To appear for the test due to lack of proficiency.
I'm failing during this period to appear for the test, but still trying to make myself perfect."
Yeah, you'll never be perfect.
This is the thing.
It's the same thing.
Another thing I like about martial arts.
This is all martial arts, right?
Boxers know this too.
You're going to get hit.
A boxer, you're going to be hit.
It doesn't matter how good you are.
Okay?
It doesn't matter if you're the best boxer in the whole world.
You're going to get hit.
The other guy will hit you sometimes.
Sometimes it'll hit you hard, and it will hurt.
You're probably going to get knocked down sometimes.
So you know, martial artists, the fighters, they just learned it like, "Oh well."
They know that there's imperfect as impossible.
That part of being really good is dealing with those little failures.
With a boxer, what do you do when you get hit and knocked down?
You get up and you keep fighting.
Yeah, well, exactly.
Bertalon, this is another good point.
Bertalon does a jiu-jitsu.
When we're in training, we start rolling, which is sparring in jiu-jitsu fighting.
We start from a bad position to improve our escape skills.
That's exactly right.
Jiu-jitsu, especially an alieo, Gracie, one of the founders, emphasized this.
He really stressed this that, and his grandkids, Henner and Hiron, really focus on this too, that it's actually best to start from a failing position.
What does that mean?
It means when you start fighting, actually let the opponent let them put you in a terrible position on your back, like their hands on your neck, and they're on top of you.
It's already a failed position.
Start there.
Start there and learn how to deal with that.
Eventually, first, you have to just learn to survive in that position.
You may not be able to escape.
You can learn to survive, or you don't get choked.
That takes some time.
You learn to escape.
Like I said, Bertolons, they're escapes in jiu-jitsu from all of these terrible positions.
There are ways to get out.
Of course, the other guy probably knows the escape, so this is part of the game, because he's going to try to stop you.
You have to try to, you know.
Anyway, you put yourself in really bad positions.
You actually do it on purpose.
You choose to put yourself in bad positions, why?
To get tougher, so that you're not afraid of those positions.
If you're in a bad position, you know I can still keep fighting.
I can still keep fighting when I'm on my back, and a guy is on top of me, and he's choking me.
You still don't quit.
You're like, it's still not over.
You know that I can still survive this.
Even this terrible position, I can survive it.
There are ways to survive.
There are ways to escape.
Then you have to practice them.
You have to practice them.
So avoid those positions in practice, because you don't like it, because you're, it means you're failing.
Well, guess what?
And because usually you will fail when you're practicing.
You start in a bad position, when you're new, especially.
You're going to fail.
They're probably going to choke you.
Okay.
But, um, when you, but if you keep practicing, and practicing, and practicing, then you're not afraid of those positions anymore.
Right?
You're not afraid of those failed or those weak positions, because you're not weak anymore.
You know you can get out.
And your confidence goes up, and this makes you overall a better fighter.
So, and then Bertelon continues, that's why my escape skills improved a lot.
We have to take more risks in training to get better.
Yeah, that's right.
That's right.
I make, I'm really missing Jiu Jitsu.
I'm really missing it.
Now, babies are doing better.
They're getting better, finally.
I had a bad night last night, one baby was sick.
Okay.
I'm just going to jump down to the bottom and move upwards here.
Lydia says, "What do you do if you have no motivation?"
This is another way of falling down, right?
You're burned out.
We call this burnout.
Burn out.
You lose all your motivation.
I just take a break.
Again, this is part of not like it.
I used to get upset about it.
"Oh, my motivation.
I must force myself."
And, instead, I just realized, just take a break.
Just chill out, do nothing for maybe a few weeks.
This relax.
And again, having my mind, I'm going to stand up again.
I'm not quitting.
I'm taking a break.
And after a couple of weeks, feeling refreshed, I'm starting again.
That's what I'm doing now with Japanese.
I just had a week.
I didn't go over a week of nothing.
I'm not quitting though.
Keep going.
Yeah, like Aman says, "Boxers practice to fall down and stand up lots of times to be champions, right?
All martial artists fail.
All fighters fail."
At some time, usually often.
I'll see.
That's nice.
Elsi says, "Great topic.
I always brainwash myself with AJ's videos.
Keep focusing on the positive side.
Thank you, Elsi." [pause] [pause] Okay, so I just were reading through.
There's lots of comments you guys are writing typing fast.
Yeah, and sometimes you just fail completely.
Like Adele says, "When I was young, I wanted to be a football player.
Sometimes dreams don't go as we'd like."
Right, so with the, you know, quit life, right?
Yeah, sometimes, especially when we're young, we have dreams or goals that are not possible.
Right?
Like, they just don't fit reality.
They don't fit our strengths or we have a dream about something maybe because of the media, but the truth is we're really not capable.
We're not able to do it.
Right?
Like, let's imagine if I was a kid and I thought I will be an NBA player.
I'll play in the NBA, right?
Professional basketball.
Probably not.
I'm not tall enough, not big enough, not fast enough.
I'm just not physically good enough to do it.
So it doesn't matter.
I could work and work and work.
I could probably become a decent, like not now, but when I was young, if I'd just been super crazy, motivated and practiced every single day, I probably could have become a good, you know, amateur player maybe and like in high school or something, been okay, decent.
But after that, just physically, I wouldn't be good enough to be a pro.
Just, it's just genetics in this case.
So what?
So it doesn't mean you quit life.
It just means, oh well, fall down.
What do you do?
You get up again.
Choose a new goal.
Sometimes that's part of falling too.
Sometimes you fall and you do.
You just realize this goal is kind of not a good goal.
This goal doesn't fit me.
I need to choose a better goal.
Ron John says, do you have twin babies?
Yes, twins.
Little energetic twins.
Okay, Manuel, I've got a last question, our most business owner is ahead of the curve because I would like to be like them to change new ideas, way of thinking, but I'm not a creative person.
Oh, you don't have to be so much, Emmanuel being an entrepreneur is not so much about being creative.
It's much more about being decisive.
What I've noticed with people who struggle, who want to be entrepreneurs, but they don't do it.
Or they, and they, they just, they can never succeed is, it's the, it's called indecisiveness.
They're not decisive.
They can't make strong decisions.
They're, they're, they're afraid of making mistakes.
They're afraid of making a wrong choice.
So they, they just don't make choices.
I'd probably more important than creativity for an entrepreneur is that you're not, you're kind of a little bit of fearlessness.
You have some fearlessness where you're not afraid to decide because every day is a business owner, you have to make a decision.
They're not, and it's very different than school is different than work.
If you have a job, your boss tells you what to do.
You know, work on this project, do this, reach this goal.
And then you do it.
You don't have to decide about your own goal, right?
You don't have to decide on your own project, usually in most jobs.
Someone tells you to do it.
So it's, you know, you can be less, much less decisive, but as an entrepreneur, no one tells you anything at all.
Zero.
Nothing.
Every single thing you must decide yourself, right?
What price should you charge?
No one's going to tell you.
No one will tell you should you choose a high, high price and kind of be more like a luxury brand.
Should you choose a low, low price?
Try to beat your competition with low prices.
Should choose like a medium level price.
No one will tell you this.
No one is ever going to tell you which one is the right choice.
And you will never know for sure, right?
There's no guarantee because different businesses do all of these strategies.
Some charge high, some charge lows, some charge in the middle.
So you would just have to make that decision yourself.
You have to just decide, which one am I going to do without anyone else helping you?
And a lot of people can't do it.
A lot of people get too stressed out about this.
And you have to make that and it's, and that is every single day.
It's not just price.
You know, it's like the color of your website.
Should it be blue, should it be green, should it be yellow?
No one will tell you.
You'd have to design.
What kind of product should you make?
No one will tell you.
Should you do a service?
No one will tell you.
Again, every single day, decisions, decisions, decisions, decisions with no one helping you.
No one telling you what to do.
I like that.
But I realize that actually a lot of people don't like that.
And a lot of people get very stressed about that.
So for people who want to be entrepreneurs, it's not necessarily to be super creative, but you have to be decisive.
You have to enjoy making decisions.
I think that's the number one thing.
Yeah, like Amazez, when you study this history of prophets, Rishi's holy people that gods and to earth, you find the truth that struggling life they lived, that the struggling life they lived is a strong message to keep going whatever happens.
Yes, indeed.
Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha, all in on and on, all the Rishi's of Sanatana Dharma, they did not have easy lives.
They struggled and struggled and struggled and struggled.
But they didn't stop.
Ah, I guess a good point.
I'll do a lucky ozman.
And this will be in my last comment because I have to go take care of kids.
Trolling after failing is inside us naturally.
We can see that especially with children.
Yes, I wanted to talk about this because I see this with my babies.
When we grow, we're shaped by the system we've grown in.
It limits us.
Yes, exactly right.
This is natural, it's biological.
So my baby girl is standing now.
Already, quite pretty fast.
She constantly grabs things and she stands up and then she tries to walk a little bit.
What happens?
You know what happens?
She falls all the time, constantly falling now.
Why?
When she was laying on her back, she didn't fall.
No problem.
But now she's trying to walk.
She's just standing.
She can't walk yet, but she's standing up.
But just even just doing this, trying to stand and then tries to hold and kind of move to the side by doing that.
What is she doing?
She's falling.
She loses her balance and falls again.
Falls under her butt.
Constantly falling.
What does she do?
She cries.
A little bit because she's a baby.
But what does she do after that?
She does it again.
She doesn't stop.
She just goes right back and does it immediately again.
Right?
It doesn't matter.
So hard she falls.
Maybe I have to hold her.
Oh, she cries.
She feels better.
Put her on the ground.
Does she then hide?
Does she stop trying?
No, she doesn't.
She goes right back again to the wall and stands up again and falls again.
All day, every day now.
Right?
Same thing with our baby boy.
He's not standing yet, but he's trying to crawl.
So what does he do?
He's on his back and now he can roll over.
So he rolls over to his stomach and he can lift his head and he can look around.
But he can't crawl.
So what happens?
He wants to crawl.
He's trying to move his arms and legs, but he doesn't know how to do it.
So he's not moving and he gets really frustrated.
He gets really upset.
And he starts, all right?
Okay.
So he gets emotional about it.
But so we think, okay, take a break.
Take a break.
So we come over and we gently will put him on his back again.
Let him take a break.
What does he do?
Immediately, like two seconds later, he rolls to his stomach again.
And he's trying again, failing again.
But he just won't stop just again and again and again and again.
Every time they fall, they stand up again.
This is how they learn to walk.
This is how they learn to crawl.
Right?
I mean, every child, every baby falls and falls and falls and falls every day, every day constantly.
And when they start walking, they're still going to fall and fall and fall.
And when they start running, fall and fall.
And when I've seen the kids outside, when they're on their bicycles, what happens?
I remember as a kid, I crashed my bike so many times.
So many times I crashed my bike and my knee was hurt.
My shoulder was hurt.
Blood, you know, what did I do?
And then I got on my bike and I kept going and doing it again.
It's crazy, dangerous stuff.
And I always just keep doing it.
Right?
So you're right about that.
Kids just do it naturally.
They will cry a little bit just to get out that emotion a little.
And then they go, they just stand up and they keep going and they keep going and there.
And many times they're even take even bigger risks.
So we can learn again from them.
All right guys, I have to go speaking.
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Until then.
Bye for now.
Oh, oh, no, no, no, no.
Tomorrow I have an interview.
I almost forgot.
Tomorrow I'm interviewing Steve Kaufman from Link.
So Japan time at 11 a.m. about 13 hours from right now.
So 13 hours from right now, I will interview Steve Kaufman from Link.
Steve speaks 20 languages or we'll say he knows 20 languages.
So live interview, you can ask Steve questions, live questions tomorrow during my interview.
So it's again, it's it's Japan morning.
It's Japan morning at 11 a.m.
So Japan time, 11 a.m. tomorrow, live interview with Steve Kaufman of Link.
He's wonderful guy, great guy.
And he knows 20 languages.
So if you have questions about learning lots of different languages and not just English, but lots and lots and lots of different ones, we'll be talking about many stories.
We'll be talking about all his ideas of language learning.
All right.
See you then.
Lots of love and bye for now.
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