… Stop there… Have you ever wondered what “love” is? or 'what "to love" means? And it is that the definitions that can be found cause me a tremendous conflict "Feeling of lively affection and inclination towards a person or thing to which all good is wished." o “Feeling of intense emotional and sexual attraction towards a person with whom you want to share a life together.”
The problem we come across
Let's be honest, there are things that are wrong with these definitions, and it is that love is more than that, moreover, I think it is impossible with words because it is so intense and so great, that we often cannot express in words what what “love” means, or even, we are not even able to understand “love”, and that happens many times, especially in romantic relationships….
Let's start, "feeling" why?! a "feeling" is something that is there today and may not be tomorrow, it is something changing, it does not evolve, it does not mature, it changes, "love" is much more than that, "love" does evolve, mature, and has different ways to manifest, "love" endures. Suppose, you love your parents, the day comes that they leave this world, one will naturally feel bad, depressed, afflicted and without the desire to do anything, but with the passage of time, one is "overcoming" that event, with that overcoming, the "love" towards the father or mother, is maturing, and evolving, I would dare to say that it is even "knowing itself", but something is sure, the love has not been extinguished, it has transcended the earthly barriers and has escaped from the stadium, now he is on a higher plane, a plane that is not difficult to understand, but that every time we remember them, or remember moments in which there were laughs, smiles, caresses, or even silence, but wrapped in peace and harmony, that "love" manifests itself in our soul in the form of serenity, tranquility a,nd comfort, s if someone were hugging us... It is not a feeling, because it did not change, it evolved, it knew itself and ripe…
Defining what "love" is
So, what is love? It is the connection and the pact that takes place in the firmament between one spirit and another, which transcends escaping from external beauty, and focuses on all the features that give identity and background to the other spirit, being an interaction that in some cases it is eternal, therefore, love is not something cold or theoretical, but something that evolves and gets to know itself with each new interaction that these two spirits experience... This pact is the will to seek and act for the construction of ties that allow the full development of happiness, personal, and peace of the person who loves, therefore, it is not necessarily expressed in forms of "I love you very much", or kisses and hugs, or some other physical token of affection.
The Manifestations of love
Because this pact was signed in the firmament, its expressions and manifestations are as sublime and delicate as they are euphoric and intense... Where love can be manifested in questions as simple as "Have you eaten yet?" "Have you had dinner yet?", or in sentences as simple as "dress up warm, it's cold out there", "let me know when you arrive", these being one of its most sublime and delicate manifestations that can exist, but which consequently can be the more significant because they have left the phrase "I love you" aside, because now "I love you" has matured and found a way to express itself more deeply about how important the well-being of the person they love is...
Love knows no borders, knows no races or ideologies, knows no cultural beliefs because it is above our earthly concepts... That pact is above...
Scolds, punishments, reprimands from our parents... Ways to show love, but without a doubt when we were children we were not capable of loving, because the concept "love" and "loving" escaped our understanding of the complexity of being and its spirit, and how they interact with a similar... Something similar happens as we grow, we discover new ways of how love manifests itself, how that pact is expressed, but sometimes, we are not able to understand them at the moment, but, until we have matured…
That is why the definition found in the dictionaries is so miserable because it tries to lower something so sublime to something so simple and banal... Love is the most sacred thing that a human being can find and experience...
And for you, what is love and what is loving?
Jorge Arturo Vedolla Colin