Each person has an idea of the ideal version of himself, to which he aspires. Big differences from the ideal image with the real one give rise to complexes and uncertainty. Speaking on this topic, I can only share my experience.
Today I want to talk about appearance, not internal qualities, since their analysis takes not days, but years.
I stopped identifying myself. My pursuit of the ideal destroyed my identity. Looking at myself in the mirror, I found the features of other people, saw other people's faces, but not myself.
I was sure that my ideal image would appeal to everyone, I tried for the sake of the attention of others. Trying to please them, I increasingly forgot about myself, my feelings, health, desires and goals. So I lost myself.
Having realized this now, I try to please myself, I want to become a person who is full and happy, who loves himself and protects his boundaries.