Often parents ask why the baby does not want to play with other children, what to do in this case, to push him to the organization of share play or leave everything as it is. Let's break it down. If the question itself sounds baby, then, accordingly, we are talking about small children, children under three years. In that case, if we are talking about a toddler, we want to reassure you that these children by nature are not yet ready to play together.
There is even a term in pedagogy that means to engage in activities with other children as play side by side, not play together. These children are not yet capable of playing together: so don't rush toddlers to join in with other children.
Usually, young children focus on playing with objects, playing with what surrounds them: and they are quite full of this game and do not require any other people in their game. It is quite enough adults who respond to this game and usually play along with the child.
Why? Because the adult is usually trying to respond to the kid's request to agree. And this game, of course, pleases the child. In contrast to the play with the other kid: who is not at all set up to meet the desires and to awaken the hunt for his companion, but also interested, aimed exclusively at its interests, his desires. That may be why mice are not yet very happy to play together.
What to do if the early age is over, and the child, for example, the fourth year of life, and maybe even older, has no interest in playing together. You have to figure out what is going on and see how a child builds relationships with adults. There are close adults. Does he/she go to a meeting, is he/she open to communication and interaction or not, and then make any specific conclusions.
Where to start, if the child is just shy, withdrawn, not very attuned to group play, a parent should become a participant in such a game and show the child how to act together. Then the initiator and organizer of the overall plot of the game is an adult. It is he who unites the beginning for two or three children.
Of course, we are not in a hurry to unite the whole sandbox into the next game. It is enough to achieve the application to play together for at least two or three. And what's more! The adult can be an example: how to offer his toy, ask the other toy how to organize or agree to act for each-other playing together in the same sandbox or on the slide or somewhere else in the playground.
And what will be very important at such moments the main thing to remember that the adult, offering a model, the desired pattern of behavior should not insist on immediate execution. Because babies are very reverent about their things and toys and are not ready to immediately share and give back; They are just forming a notion of their own, their property territory.
Not all children are ready: to give in, to share, to give away, and so on. Until these notions have form; until the feeling of this territory is finally has formed. These are issues of relationship building, which the baby is just not very ready.
A mother supports only the interests of her child and ignores the interests of the other children. It is no good. It is also cool when wishing to be a mother of sociable. Friendly parents show this model of behavior to their children. And she insists on supporting the interests of other children to the detriment of their child. It is rare, but it happens too, and children tend to be jealous enough of such behavior.
It, too, can be one of the reasons for a negative attitude to the general play. So this is a general recommendation: if a child is not in a hurry to play together with other children, do not rush him. Wait, but if he begins to show interest in such a game: then be an example of the desired pattern of behavior for him.
Finally, you need to exclude the situation when other children do not play with the child.