What kind of misdemeanors should I punish children for?
And should they be punished at all? Sometimes parents do not think about it in anger. Not having understood, Mom and Dad shout and even spank the kids. Sometimes the tension that accumulates during the day is easiest to relieve by taking out the evil on defenseless children. Can it justify a bad day's actions or problems at work?
Child psychologist advises to first understand the situation, and then decide whether to punish the child and how to do it.
Poor performance
Children are often punished for poor grades and behavior in school. It is not worth doing this because the child may have different reasons for getting bad grades. Do not yell at the child, let alone raise your hand. It's actually such a trifle. The most important thing is that the child understands the subject, and not everyone can be excellent. A child with a mathematical mind cannot write excellent essays. And vice versa, a child who is easily given humanitarian subjects, not always solve a difficult problem.
Bad behavior at school is not an excuse to punish children. First of all, find out what exactly drives the child when he or she makes a noise in the classroom. Maybe he is bored or not interested. Talk to the teacher and listen to the child. You should hear both sides before punishing your child.
But even if the scumbag's guilt is proven, do not use force. This is the simplest and most wrong of all that can be done. Sometimes the usual conversation can achieve more results than using force. Explain to the child that there are a lot of children in the classroom and that the teacher is the only one who should listen carefully and respect the teacher.
Unsuccessful experiments
Mom often punishes her daughter who has taken her mother's cosmetics without permission and accidentally ruined them. But the girl only wanted to be as beautiful as her mother. Instead of shouting at the child and punishing her, explain to the girl that she is still young, that makeup can be used by adults.
And even better, buy your daughter a set of children's cosmetics. Believe me, the child will be in the seventh heaven with happiness, and you will be calm.
Sometimes children try to cook the first soup or other dish in their life, thus spoiling the pot or smearing the stove. But this is not a reason for punishment. The child probably wanted to please his parents.
Do not punish children without understanding the situation. After all, often children's actions do not imply anything wrong. It's just that adults can't always control themselves.