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Do you think a mother should interfere with her son's privacy and try to marry him or not? What does she have to do about it? Or she should leave it as it is, let's try to work things out with you and get answers to these questions.
When the only son lives alone, any normal mother wants to make his personal life as quick as possible. She has no strength to watch her child suffer from loneliness and lack of family warmth. But marriage is an issue that young people do not pay much attention to. Even if his son is already under forty, he does not want to bind himself to marriage. Gradually, the institution of marriage loses its former power, and many men never put a ring on an unnamed finger.
There is nothing wrong with the fact that the son does not want to get married. The mother should not peck him constantly and impose the wedding. But sometimes a single life can drag on to old age. This is what mothers are afraid of, so they try to find a daughter-in-law and the best wife for their son. Sometimes boys are so hesitant that they are afraid to just approach the girl. It is these guys who need help. How do you find a bride for your son?
Here are some simple recommendations for mothers.
1. Take your son out of the usual comfort zone
This method is suitable for sons who live in the same house with their parents, and especially for those who can be called "mama's sons". It works perfectly if your beloved child is used to living on everything ready for life, not to be responsible for anything in the house, not to help in the household, but to enjoy all the benefits of living together with people who love him. The way is very simple, but some parents who are insanely worried about their precious child, it can be very difficult to make it. So, get a grip on yourself and ...
Stop taking care of your son: cook him, wash his clothes, clean his room and in general, serve his life in any way. Let him start living independently.
Stop doing all these things for him. This method is necessary to get a man out of the comfort zone.
Of course, when a single man is brought on a tray of food, blown off the dust in his room and in every way he is cared for, he does not want to change his lifestyle and habits, to do a lot of things at home, responsible for someone. Breaking the established rhythm of his son's life, the mother shows that she will not always be with him, so he needs to hang his family nest.
Just give your son a few days or weeks in advance, for example, so he has time to prepare for such major changes in his life.
As a radical variant of this method, offer your son to rent his apartment or move to a second apartment if there is one. On the one hand, such a sudden change of environment will create a "shaking" of the man's brain and lead to a rethinking of values. It will also create a strong incentive for the son to find a partner to help him around the house. On the other hand, rented housing is not cheap right now, which will force his son to look for ways to increase his income.
In the first days after the move, help him to get his life back on track. But after that, try not to interfere in his everyday problems anymore, let him learn to solve everything himself.
Keep in mind that you have to be careful when you move to different apartments. In some situations, this can do more harm than good.
For example, if the son takes care of a lonely sick parent, the freedom obtained may lead to the man leaving the responsibility for a loved one. And this does not contribute in any way to the creation of their own family, because their own family is an even greater responsibility. It can also cause serious problems for a sick parent. Therefore, before taking such a decisive step, would you evaluate whether you would do your son a "bearish favour"? And also think about how you, without your son's help, will cope with your part of everyday life and other tasks.
To be continued in the next part "How to marry your son (Part 2)"