Hello, dear subscribers of my channel.
Today I would like to consider with you the following questions: My husband puts the interests of his friends above family values? Does he spend all his free time with his friends? How to set him on the right path? Who can help his wife cope with the situation? When is it worth beating the alarm?
This is what I want to talk to you about today.
You began to notice that once loved and loving husband suddenly moved away from his wife and children. No, he doesn't cheat left and right, he doesn't disappear at work, he just spends all his free time in the company of friends. Familiar situation? Many women face it and start fighting for their happy lives. In their heads, there are a lot of questions: "How to behave if friends have become more important than family? Leave completely or change something? Can I save my family and what can I do about it? Of course, no one will be able to give you unambiguous answers, in every family everything is individual.
But we will try to understand the main points.
True friendship is wonderful. Who will argue with this? A person without friends is unhappy. Therefore, forbid your husband to meet with friends can not, it will only increase the differences between you and complicate the situation. But there must always be certain limits that can not be crossed. After the marriage the young family should not have different friends, usually, all friends and acquaintances become common friends. But exceptions happen. It is not always possible to accept other people's buddies.
If your husband is fully serious said that on Wednesdays, he will go to the bath with friends, he does not go to any compromises, you do not need to make a tragedy out of it. What to do? To put up with it. If you understand that there is nothing ugly going on in this banya, there is nothing wrong with such campaigns. A man is just resting and relaxing. Moreover, you see that he does not stay long and does not get drunk. Such situations happen in many families. There is no reason to sound the alarm. Take advantage of the situation and make your arrangements with your girlfriends to sit down these same days. None of the spouses will even be offended.
It is another matter, if every evening, weekends and holidays spouses go in an unknown direction on the first call from a comrade. Where is he? What about him? What does he do? What does he talk about and with whom? This situation is becoming more and more threatening every day. The man felt the sweetness of freedom and began to forget about responsibility. The time will come when he will stop replenishing the family budget, all the money will be spent on entertainment.
In such a situation, one should not tolerate silence. It's time to sound the alarm before everything goes too far. It is necessary to begin, naturally, with conversation. It is very important not to try to have a serious conversation on emotions and at an inopportune moment, for example, when the husband came home very late after another truancy. Wait until morning, calm down, gather your strength and ask your husband where he was and what he was doing in a calm atmosphere. If contact is established, then explain to him that you are worried that his frequent leaving in an unknown direction has become too frequent and worries you. Don't blame him for being more important than his family. He will deny it anyway, and the conversation will end there. Tell him that you love him and want to get along with his family.
If talking to him doesn't help, try to lure someone to your side who can influence your husband. For example, mother-in-law. If your husband's mother agrees with you, she can prove her son wrong. Even more important may be a conversation with his father's husband. Even adult children often listen to their father's words, so you should try to explain your feelings to your father-in-law and ask him for help.
No conversations work? Has the result remained the same? Threaten your husband with a divorce. Some men are sobered up by this news. Only do this when you are ready to get a divorce so that your words are not a groundless lie. And be sure to give your husband time to think and change after this serious threat.
Of course, without friends, a family cannot be happy. You don't have to dare from home to normal comrades. A person cannot live without friendship.
But never forget about love and responsibility, sense of proportion and family values. Interests of friends can not stand above the interests of young children, wife, parents.
As soon as the husband understands this immutable truth, everything will immediately stand in its place. Both family members and friends will not be offended.
Happiness to you!
