In the path of personal improvement, the achievement of one's goals, and in finding one's values (what is important for YOU), there is one aspect that is very often overlooked; the mental image a person has of himself. There is evidence that a good 90% of the population has inferiority complexes. Everyone thinks they are inferior to another for the most varied aspects. It is not clear how this idea got into people's minds, nor from where it came from. If you find it again, that is not understood, it is normal that each person is superior to another in certain abilities:
- I can meet a professional fighter who surely is more capable than me of fighting, but not for this, I have to feel "inferior". For my part, I can be superior to him in terms of meditation or helping people, but, certainly, he will not feel "inferior" to me. Each of us has skills that he has decided to develop, and what often leads to the inferiority complex is nothing more than confronting others with a wrong "model".
- No person is mediocre. We can be mediocre in doing certain things, but this does not make us mediocre. It makes us feel mediocre only from the moment we see ourselves as such. All this comes from a mistaken idea of ourselves, from the idea that "I should be like this and so" to feel "superior". And so we start fighting for this superiority that will only lead to frustration.
As Maxwell Maltz says: "you are not superior, and you are not inferior, you are simply YOU."
Coming a little to the practical, let's talk about insecurity. A real plague of our times. People have become more insecure, and all this because they do nothing but confront each other. They see what others can do, what they are capable of, they compare to them, and so the unhappiness and inferiority complex is served. No one has led them to reflect on their uniqueness. No one explained to him to look inward, and to start finding his qualities. Sometimes some people may not see them, as they have been neglected for too long. They are like "hypnotized" by this sense of insecurity.
- One way to "dehypnotize" is through relaxation. There are many ways and techniques of relaxation. One is to relax, close your eyes, and go through your whole body. "close your eyes ... I bring attention to my legs, and I think / I imagine how heavy they are .. heavy .. as heavy as lead .., now I bring attention to my arms .. and I feel heavy ... heavy.. as heavy as lead .. do it to the whole body. "Then, when you relax, focus on your breath entering and leaving .. help yourself with phrases like" Inspiron ........ Espero ".. you will notice that the mind will make of all to distract you. It's normal. No problem, bring your attention back to the breath. "I breathe in and out ..." After a few minutes, review the body again, telling you "my body is coming backlight and in perfect shape .. I regain control of my whole body ... at number 5 I will open my eyes, and I will feel great, better than before and with a clearer and more relaxed mind ..: "1 ... 2 ... 3 ... 3 ... 4 ... 5.
Now, this exercise serves first of all to slow down the continuous thoughts of the mind. To create gaps and discover that in fact, thoughts come on their own. No one knows where they just come from. Accept them, but stop taking them for real. Understand that they are simply a collection of images and words. At this point, you can choose the images and words you want to "hear" and "see". You spontaneously decide to "see yourself" as you want to be. Some practical examples: A person "sees" and "feels" insecure to express his opinion among his friends. He certainly has a mental image among his friends where he sees himself gloomy, silent, shy or insecure. "
A recommended way is to begin to "see" each other in the midst of friends, smiling, confident, that one expresses serenely one's opinion on things etc .. ", and brooding over it for several minutes. Only this? Technically yes, but it is an exercise to be done EVERY day for at least 60 days and for several minutes.
A recommended way is to begin to "see" each other in the midst of friends, smiling, confident, that one expresses serenely one's opinion on things etc .. ", and brooding over it for several minutes. Only this? Technically yes, but it is an exercise to be done EVERY day for at least 60 days and for several minutes.
And... In the psycho-cybernetic book of Maxwell Maltz, written more than 50 years ago, we talk a lot about this mental aspect. Many years have passed, and with technology, you can work even better on your mental image.