With age, you gradually realize that every person is an individual set of everything. A unique set of characteristics, data from birth, appearance, health, talents, desires, aspirations, preferences. A set of conditions at birth, in childhood, youth, further in life.
Personally, I believe that there is also some mission or something that I should fulfill. Some people, I think, are very clearly led through life, if they hear themselves well and are not distracted by other people's programs, which are not close to them.
But there are also quite typical things that are similar to certain groups of people.
To get to know yourself is to get to know yourself:
- To study some already existing typical moments in people (other people's researches, systematization), to correlate them with themselves
- To understand their unique characteristics, values, and desires. Develop a habit of regularly scanning yourself about them.
- Understand how to use all this knowledge to your advantage.
At the same time, we are all just ordinary people, and we are not so unique to do something about it - something to be proud of, to defend, to compare in our favor.
There are many different typologies of the person, and yes, some of them can really help to better understand themselves from separate sides. Not without disadvantages. But studying typologies can also be useful in that it develops a habit of listening, being aware of yourself, and analyzing. For example, Human Design has helped me a lot. I want to write an article about it, but I haven't had time yet.
After studying, I calmed down completely, having understood two things:
1. We are all very, very different. I am who I am, and my essence will not change for the most part. The other person is different, he can't and doesn't want to live the same life as me. My ways may not be suitable for another person, even if they seem to me to be universal and objectively effective. Even if we look in one direction.
My fine-tuned methods, my most shot-eye-cutting-edge techniques can be negative for the other person. A lot of people fight over it. Meanwhile, this is the norm, it's commonplace.
For example, it was very useful to look at yourself and your ex-husband from the perspective of Human Design. I am a generator, he is a projector. For me, it is effective to work a lot, developing myself in my favorite business from morning to evening "from and to", preferably according to the plan, no one is even needed, although the community helps, I can do everything "in one".
For him, the most working and correct thing is to meet the right people for him, who recognize him and initiate some joint actions. Everything always went smoothly in my way, and others did not fit in, and it is his way that the ex-husband receives the most interesting and close to his projects.
Recently, I talked to another projector friend who has also studied Human Design and is well aware of himself, and he has a very similar story about other people and their recognition. And my ways aren't close to him either. And his ways don't suit me, but my own give me satisfaction and happiness.
Even if you do not study Human Design, you can at least understand for yourself that indeed, each person has a lot of raw data, different settings, parameters, and lived experience.
2. I need to know, love, explore, and use what I draw my strength from. Don't be shy, don't push, don't doubt, but use it to its fullest.
I understood better that I really have a lot of energy and health, and I can rely on them. Some other things were interesting discoveries too and coincided with the way I felt vaguely, everything became clearer and clearer. In the paid transcripts of my Human Design profile, I got surprisingly clear mission information, and what I should be doing - all of this very much coincided with where I was going and myself. I'm quite a pragmatic and adequate person - not only do I believe everything on my word, but calmly, reasonably, correlating with the rest of the data. As a result, I just became more confident on this path, which was already close to me. It became really easier to live in.
Through these understandings, another source of outflow of energy has gone to the uncertainty that it's all normal to live the way I live. For example, my essence is to dig deep into something, to structure information. This is what gives me satisfaction and strength. And instead of wondering, "Am I a bore? Or maybe something is wrong here? Or maybe I need to live what other people do, to love what they like to do? Don't dig so deep?" I just knowingly get my pleasure and benefit from my favorite things.
To be continued in the next part: https://zen.yandex.ru/media/id/5d233fa7b15a9d00ad743d41/get-to-know-yourself-part-2-5d96126e86c4a900b028fa78