To be continued. The beginning of the previous part "Happy family rules (Part 1)"
8. Surprise each other, surprise each other
Sometimes, for no reason, surprise each other. It's not about big gifts or expensive gifts, it's about the little things that worry you. For example, breakfast in bed, some unusual dish, unexpected for the partner romantic date in a beautiful place, something small and pleasant that your loved one long dreamed of. All these little things are very important for strengthening and preserving relationships, as they show your feelings and care.
Conclusion: Show imagination and surprise your loved ones.
9. Sex is intimacy and pleasure, not an opportunity for manipulation.
In some families, sex is used as a means to obtain benefits or as a punishment for a partner. This is especially the case with women who force their husbands to give them what they want in exchange for sex, or who show them how "bad" they are.
This is very dangerous for the relationship. Sexologists argue that even one such case in the family can seriously affect the man's potential or the desire for intimacy of the woman, and in case of repetitions, the family's intimate life can quickly end. Psychologists add that such manipulations destroy the family as much as treason.
If you love each other, then having sex for you is a pleasure, a pleasure. Let it be so in the future. And all your "wants" and claims to say at another time and in another place - in a more appropriate environment when you can safely discuss everything.
Conclusion: Never use sex for manipulation or punishment, let it only give you pleasure and pleasure to each other.
10. General and personal money
When a person lives on their own, they are used to managing their finances on their own. This creates a feeling of freedom, allows you to implement some of your plans. It is convenient.
After the wedding, you have to decide how to deal with the money coming into the family from all its members. Some families collect all the money in a common budget and jointly make decisions about its use. Others, on the contrary, keep all the money to themselves, allocating only limited amounts to the total costs as needed.
The best way to do this is to combine the two approaches. It is necessary to calculate and support the total budget of the family, providing all its needs. And at the same time to leave for each member of the family his money, which he will be able to dispose of fully at his discretion. This will support the priority of the family and its objectives while providing all family members with sufficient freedom and the opportunity for self-fulfilment. If there is enough money, you can also add a separate family fund (piggy bank) where you can collect money for a big purchase or trip.
Conclusion: Divide the family budget into general and personal money, making family tasks a priority, but not forgetting the freedom of its members.
11. Travel and recreation together
Getting new impressions in itself is very pleasant. But the main thing is that you will get them together, you will have common memories. You will always have something good to remember, which you can enjoy together. This emotionally unites the family, fills it with energy and supports it in difficult times.
It doesn't have to be long journeys. Even in your city, you can find many beautiful places and interesting places where you have not yet been: from parks and old districts of the city to premieres in theatres, exhibitions, museums, new attractions and entertainment centres. Just show some interest and the whole world will open up for you!
Conclusion: Travel together or visit places of interest.
12. Family traditions
Traditions that are unique to your family create family cohesion and individuality. It's good to have a large family of generations coming together to celebrate birthdays or big holidays. For example, an annual vacation together can be a pleasant tradition.
It can also be any small thing. For example, leave messages on the fridge if you go to work at different times. Watch the movies on Saturday nights. Cook together. Hug before you leave home. Tender home nicknames also bring a sense of family cohesion to life.
Conclusion: Create your family traditions.
At first glance, these seemingly simple and well-known rules will help to keep your feelings alive for a long time, strengthen your relationships, and ultimately keep your family happy for a long time to come.
Be happy!
